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10:28 AM on 03/25/2010
I am the favorite, and deservedly so. All my siblings were left on our doorstep by gypsies who will one day come and take them back, to serve out the rest of their days as werewolves.

At least that's what I told them. HA!
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10:37 AM on 03/25/2010
LOL
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WYHKTai-Tai
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09:22 PM on 03/25/2010
LOL!! Fantastic. I'm gonna remember that one. fanned.
10:28 AM on 03/25/2010
My parents are divorced and my sister has always been my mom's favorite as well as the favorite on her side of the family. She is closer with my mom's side of the family and has often been treated better whether it be financially or something else. I have always been treated as the favorite of my dad and his side of the family. This dynamic is a result of my parents' divorce and me choosing to live with my dad when it happened. My mom never looked at me the same way again. I chose my dad over her and she always favored my sister because of it. I wouldn't say there is much resentment between my sister and I because we each get favored at times, but I carry this with me always. My mom still brings up from time to time instances when she thinks I choose my dad over her, rarely takes my side in an argument with my sister, and makes excuses for my sister's selfish behavior all the time.
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henrypapillon
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10:22 AM on 03/25/2010
My oldest brother, in a family of six, always thought he was an only child . he would just as soon all the rest were dead. He was a bully. all the rest of the kids hated him, and when my mother died, they stopped speaking to him.
11:13 AM on 03/25/2010
That's heartbreaking. I come from a very large family and the "favorite" daughter turned out to be a selfish adult...she's very tough to take. But she's my sister and I love her and what's great I don't have to live with her.
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alyseven
Religion is the root of all evil.
10:14 AM on 03/25/2010
Well this is blatantly obvious to me (and probably my sister too). She knows she is the favorite and always has. To this day, she mentions it all the time. I knew it as a kid and hated her for it. (Not too fond of her now either...) The only difference between what the author mentioned and my sister is her confidence never led her to believe that she could change the world or fight for good. She only cares about herself and her own life. Both my parents and my sister are Republicans. I am a liberal Democrat. I don't know how I came out of that family at all. Looking back, I've always been a Democrat. As a child, I worried about the homeless and when I was 9 even wrote a letter to the president about terrorism. I never did it to rebel. It's just how I felt and I was mocked for it. My parents are adamantly against the health care bill (they don't "want to pay for poor people.") Again, i have no idea how I came out of my family. Talk about black sheep...
11:34 AM on 03/25/2010
Welcome to the flock, black sheep!
11:59 AM on 03/25/2010
Your sensitivity and insight shows you were/are the best and the brightest of your family. It's also no surprise to me that you lean liberal.

Dysfunctional families always target the best and the brightest. Rather than being treasured, we are resented because we set a standard the others cannot achieve. The disparity becomes glaringly obvious and the goal then becomes to bring us down via belittling and mockery. It worked on me and took many, many decades to (partially) overcome.

Don't let the same happen to you, my friend. You appear to be young. Separate yourself and enjoy reaching your own potential. That is your right. You owe your family nothing.

BTW, you've been fanned.
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01:08 PM on 03/25/2010
Thanks. It's taken me many years to get over it, but I am totally over it. Now I relish the fact that I am different from them. I am disgusted by them and growing up I felt like I was the crazy one since i didn't fit in. It took me getting away from them to realize how dysfunctional THEY are. Even so I've always thought my father was very intelligent, but over the last 2 years, I have come to realize, that he really isn't that smart, but his confidence makes him appear to be. It' does feel good to be out of that whole cycle of guilt, blame, anger, confusion that comes with family. Of course, there are aspects that will never leave me and I will never "get over" but I am no longer held back or riddled with self-hatred because of them. As my sister always says, she's the pretty one and I"m the smart one. And she says it as though being smart is a disease. I'm so glad I'm me and not her! Lol!
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09:50 AM on 03/26/2010
collie lady...BTW youve been fanned! ;)
you answered alot of painful questions i have had, im over 50. you most certainly deserve the title 'lady"