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09:28 PM on 10/04/2011
Sheees people! Age 40 is the old 30! Im single and just adopted a 3yr at age 46. What do you mean "too old to keep up"? I dont feel any physical difference now then when I was 30. I run several miles a week with my son in a jogging stroller, play with him from the time I pick him up from day care till he goes to bed-- the BEST part of my day! My 76 yr old dad can still kick my butt in physical fitness, so Im not worried about keeping up with my son when he is a teenager. People ask me if I get in my "me time" hell I've spent the last 30 yrs doing "Terri time"now my life is Davids time and I love it.
Bogym
Evolution/science?,,
11:58 PM on 10/04/2011
40 is 40......People areliving longer because of medical improvements and less physical harshness on the male body..in modern societies.When you hit 50..you will be 50..saying you will be less doesn't change reality..You're 46 and kid 3...don't bet on a future with age involved,in the flesh...the flesh always wins! I am glad you can run..but don'tdeceive yourself..biology is biology..it doesn't care what we THINK!
10:39 AM on 10/05/2011
I don't agree with this. We really can change the outcomes of biology with our thoughts/attitudes and most importantly diet and exercise.

These make a HUGE difference in how we feel, act, move and age.

No, we can't stop aging entirely but look at the difference between those who eat a whole foods, fresh, natural diet and those who do not. Look at the difference between those who exercise, drink, smoke, and do not. It's massive.
09:24 PM on 10/04/2011
I had my first 3 really young 17, 18 and 20 I have never regretted it a day in my life. I was not a party girl I didnt like going out. I just wanted to be a mom and raise my kids and take care of my family. granted I wasnt financally ready to have them but then again when I was in my 30's and had my twins I wasnt ready then either but we have made it. and honestly I was more paranoid when I had my twins in my 30's then when I was a late teen ...mostly because I knew then what could go wrong with a pregnancy and the kids health and pre-term labor and birth and raising premies...there are so many pro's and con's to each....
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Sacha Nikoll Laine
08:58 PM on 10/04/2011
I think you should have kids when you feel that you've enjoyed your life and no longer feel the need to party. I've seen people in their forties at the clubs because they had kids young and didn't get to be kids themselves. I had my son when I was thirty one and am glad because at that point I already had my fun. Raising a child is not something that should be taken lightly. They don't come with a sitter or a check.
08:53 PM on 10/04/2011
It was a conscious choice to have my first child in my mid 30's and my second 3 years later. I've never regretted the choice to be an older mom. For me even thinking about kids in my 20's was never a consideration, believe me when I say I would not have been a good mom then. Self-centered and just wanting to party was who I was back then.

My son is now 20 and my daughter is 17, and let me say this: had a put in an order on what I desired in my kids, still would not have measured up to the two that I was blessed with.
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ur mom
08:40 PM on 10/04/2011
what if you are single? Does every woman just expect to meet her husband really young
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bmitche
07:36 PM on 10/04/2011
The best age to become a mom is when it happens.
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Stan Silver
10:44 PM on 10/04/2011
Oh...I guess being a single thirteen year old is a great time?
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bmitche
11:56 PM on 10/04/2011
If she allowed it to happen at that age, she should step up and be a good mother.
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damomb01
07:22 PM on 10/04/2011
If this story were referring only to the biological side of the coin, it may seem a bit sensible to say there is a time that's better than another to have a baby. Physically women are capable of child bearing for a limited amount of time. However, there is no "perfect" time otherwise to become a parent. I had my first child at 19 and am having another (now in my 30's). Although I am more financially prepared, and am married (therefore have the support of my spouse), I still believe that there is no "perfect time" to become a parent.
07:17 PM on 10/04/2011
Teen mothering is a bummer. Only those looking for someone to love them because they have little hope would select this lot in life. You're never really ready to have kids but starting after 27 gives children a shot at a better life. It takes about $200,000 to raise a child to 18 and few teenagers are up to the task. Get an education, have a good paying career and be in a stable marriage then go for it.
Bogym
Evolution/science?,,
12:05 AM on 10/05/2011
Yeah..lelfist .. zero population Nonsense!
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erinbliss
05:49 PM on 10/04/2011
So glad I chose not to breed.
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Stan Silver
10:47 PM on 10/04/2011
Thank you Erinbliss.The problem with many people is that they feel COMPELLED to breed and the truth is many of the ones having the most children are exactly who SHOULD NOT be having children.
Reading some of these comments only reinforces my view of that.
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erinbliss
12:19 AM on 10/05/2011
You are absolutely right! People think of it as the next step after finishing high school, then college, then getting married, then breeding. No thought as to how much effort it takes to be a good parent or how much work it all is or whether or not they really want to be a parent.
At least, in my case, I would have gone into it knowing how much is involved in being a good parent and raising decent human beings.
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pisswilliepete
04:52 PM on 10/04/2011
I's say a good age to have children is between 30 and 35, that way the maturity level of being a mother is there and the child will be raised right! my wife didn't have our first until she was 40 and ours turned out just fine and my wife did and still does an excellent job! any younger than 30 and it's like babies having babies..only our opinion!!!!!
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dil123
My micro-bio screams for justice!!
04:45 PM on 10/04/2011
I had my daughter when I was 25, actually I thought that was a perfect age. I was old enough to have done all my partying, had a good job that I liked and I was mature enough to get through the ups and downs of having kids. Not only that I still had the energy to run around with a kid. I lived in Ohio for three years where I was a kind of young mom, then I moved to Florida, when my daughter was three, and in my whole group of friends I was the youngest mom (all my friends had waited till their 30's and 40's to have kids). When my daughter got to middle school I moved to GA to be with my Mom, and all of a sudden I became the old mom..everyone had had their children in their late teens and early 20's!! I could no more understand how these women could be 35 with children graduating high school then I could understand women whose children were six and seven and they were 42. I'm 47 now and my daughter is a senior in college. She's 22, married and has a 4 month old. I babysit for her, she wears me out, I could never be a mother at my age, I just don't have the energy. I give serious props to the women who have kids in there 40's you all are more woman then I'll ever be.
04:42 PM on 10/04/2011
I'm 28 with a 3 year old, my husband is 42. I cannot imagine being my husbands age and raising my son. I am the one who plays with my son all the time, bathes, feeds, eats, T-ball, etc. Part of that I'm sure is just cuz I'm the mom and those are 'mom' jobs, but my husband physically cannot do what I do with him. He's a little boy who runs constantly and moves from toy to toy because he has zero attention span. I agree that many people should wait until they are more financially capable of being parents (and honestly some people will never have the financial means to do so), but I think some people get selfish. At some point you have to think about the future child you will have, the higher risks of birth defects, etc, before you get pregnant past a certain age.
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erinbliss
05:52 PM on 10/04/2011
Wait til you're 50 and your husband is 64. You'll wish you'd married a younger guy.
07:11 PM on 10/04/2011
70 and 84 doesn't work either. Doctor office runs will fill your days.
08:44 PM on 10/04/2011
I'm 54 and I am the father in the neighborhood that takes the kids for bike rides, zip lining, fishing, jewelry making, cooking and many more things. It isn't a lack of energy, it is a lack of time for most fathers. I feel the same as I did when I was 25 but now I have the time and the money to channel the 7yr old in me.
12:44 PM on 10/05/2011
Time and effort. Sometimes it takes effort to create time to spend with your kid.
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simzillyjp
Up, Up & Away
04:16 PM on 10/04/2011
Twenty is a good age to have kids. compared to older parents....I'm still young enough to have fun with my grown kids. My kids are done with college. I do not have to worry about forking over social security check for college. This list can go on & on. The older parents I know....are too tired to do anything with their kids. (this is what they tell me)
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Sacha Nikoll Laine
08:45 PM on 10/04/2011
20 is too young because at that age they want to hang with their friends and have fun. I see a lot of young parents who are will to drop their kids to anyone in order to go out. Mid-twenties is not so bad.
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simzillyjp
Up, Up & Away
09:21 PM on 10/04/2011
Twenrty is better than being forty & having a kid. It's very nice to be done with it & have the fun while I'm still plenty young enough to do it. Sorry if you don't like th comment......Sometimes younger is better.......
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Num1Christy
Progressive Ohioan
03:28 PM on 10/04/2011
I had my first child at 21, having already graduated college once, I had my second at 23, I obtained another college degree. I have worked from home my kids entire lives and don't regret it for a minute. There is no magic formula for having kids. Being married isn't necessary (though I was), but having a supportive partner is. My mother had me at 30 and provided me with no more of a comfortable lifestyle than my husband and I provide for our children. I'm grateful that we'll both be working when our kids are in college because college tuition is going to be insanely expensive. What works for one woman (or one couple) may not be ideal for another. It's a personal choice.
03:08 PM on 10/04/2011
The perfect age is when you are married and old enough to understand the committment and young enough to have the energy. Sometime we believe in this society it is within our complete control as to when we have children but we must remember that it is out of our hands. It happens when it is meant to happen. You hear stories of couples who try for years only to give up and then get pregnant or people who against all odds end up pregant. I believe much of the time a greater force it at work with these matters.
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erinbliss
05:54 PM on 10/04/2011
Yeah, it's called 'coincidence'.