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Why Rules Create Toxic Religion

Posted: 05/07/2012 7:21 am

Whenever I'm enjoying a great conversation with someone I just met and they ask what I do for a living, I'm occasionally tempted to lie. On a recent flight, I sat by a business guy named Steve whose demeanor instantly changed when he discovered that I'm a pastor. Defensively, he exclaimed, "Well, I'm not religious!" I nodded and said, "No problem," and tried to return to our discussion of our favorite apps.

However, my response must not have been convincing because he repeated himself and fired an extra warning shot in case I'd missed the first: "I'm not religious, and I can't stand religious people." I looked at him for a moment and said, "We've got a lot in common then. I'm not religious and I can't stand religious people either!"

Christianity was not intended to be a religion but rather a relationship with God. Yet from the time Jesus walked on earth, people have tried to add rules to the relationship. In fact, the Apostle Paul battled a group known as the Judiazers who said a male must not just believe in Jesus, but he must also be circumcised to be right with God. Paul said, "Evidently some people are throwing you into confusion and are trying to pervert the gospel of Christ" (Gal. 1:6-7). The Greek word translated as pervert is mestastrepho and means to corrupt, to distort or to poison. Even with right motives, people take the purity of the gospel and pollute it with religion.

Any time you stumble into toxic religion, you'll likely see two poisonous problems. First, religion leads you to focus on the external rather than the internal. Religion requires a behavior-oriented path toward pleasing God. Religious people, often well-intentioned, focus on an outward expression rather than an inward transformation. Religion is our effort to close the gap between sinful humans and a holy God. Sadly, it reduces the beauty of the Gospel to a checklist of do's and don'ts. Rules try to regulate religion.

Not only does religion focus on the externals rather than the internals, but this external emphasis produces an internal pride. Rule-following religious people believe their behavior and beliefs are right and everyone else is wrong. It's like a piece of food that spoils--not only is it nasty and ruined, but it omits a noxious smell as well.

No wonder then that many non-Christians can't stand Christians. For starters, our spiritual pride often makes it impossible for us to get along with each other. Why should we be any better with anyone else? Some religious Christians are so convinced that their way of doing church is the only way, they discount and denounce every other style or philosophy. In doing so, they unknowingly become sour, self-righteous people. Why in the world would someone without Christ want to join a joyless, cynical, hypercritical and judgmental group of religious people?

Toxic religion tries to add rules, regulations, and requisites to the free gift that God offers us through relationship with his Son. Religion is Christ plus anything. In Galatia, some thought it was Christ plus circumcision. In our world, it might be Christ plus church membership. Or Christ plus tithing. Or Christ plus "the right" doctrine or theology. But the gospel is Christ plus nothing. The final work of Christ on the cross is everything we need.

Thankfully, Jesus didn't come to make us religious. He brought us the good news of his eternal life, a relationship with the living God. Religion is about me. Relationship is about Jesus. Religion is about what I do. Relationship is about what Jesus has done. Religion says, "If I obey God, He will love me." Relationship says, "Because God loves me, I can obey." Religion believes we have to do good things to get God's approval. Relationship says we get to do good things because God already approves us through Christ!

There's nothing more we need to do. Nothing.

Craig Groeschel is the founder and senior pastor of Lifechurch.tv, A best selling author, this essay is an adaptation from Craig's new book, Soul Detox: Clean Living in a Contaminated World launching May 8th

 
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Fenrir Lokison
I luv the sci fi of Evolution and the Big Bang
05:10 PM on 05/12/2012
Jesus didn't come to teach us how to be religious, but to love the Lord with all thy heart and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.

Jesus came to teach us about...

1. Who God is.
2. What God wants.
3. How God is.
4. Why God is.
5 Where God is.
6. That love of God comes first.
7. That love of people comes second.
8. What fruits of love are.
9. What the fruits of sin are.
10. That this world is going to be destroyed by God's justified and righteous wrath.
11. That those who follow will be saved and receive an eternal reward.
12. That those who do not follow will be sent to the lake of fire forever.

I could get more in depth. But, I think I made it clear, that while Jesus is about love, he is also going to destroy sin and punish sinners and reward his followers.
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just a voice here
Just because...
08:04 PM on 05/10/2012
Finally a person who understands the differences between being religious verses having a relationship with GOD.

Jesus didn't come to teach us how to be religious, but to love the Lord with all thy heart and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.
10:18 AM on 05/10/2012
Something rings hollow in this discussion. From the very start, it seems somewhat disingenuous for a Pastor to fend off an anti-religious naysayer with the statement, "I'm not religious and I can't stand religious people either!"

This feeling is further compounded when the article declares, "Religious people focus on an outward expression rather than inward transformation." However, when a curious reader follows the link through to Lifechurch.tv it is not long before he is confronted with a page of suggested Next Steps, all of which strike me as being an "outward expression". Getting baptized, and tithing are claimed to be "Essential Steps". These sound a lot like rules to me.

Essential for what? Essentially, avoiding hell.

The article tries to differentiate between "religion" and "relationship" with two statements that mean the same thing. Both contain the word "obey". It is holding up the Bible as God's rule book, and saying, "Obey, or else," this is nothing less than a not-so-veiled threat. "No wonder then that many non-Christians can't stand Christians."

In the end, it is difficult to shake off the feeling that you have fallen victim to the ol' bait'n'switch. Drawn in with the tantalizing promise of a form of worship free from toxic rules, the inquisitive will very quickly find themselves confronted with all sorts of "toxic rules" being passed off merely as God's requirements for our salvation.

(acfromn.com)
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Fenrir Lokison
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05:18 PM on 05/12/2012
Definition of RELIGION
1a: the state of a religious; b (1): the service and worship of God or the supernatural (2): commitment or devotion to religious faith or observance
2: a personal set or institutionalized system of religious attitudes, beliefs, and practices
3 archaic: scrupulous conformity : conscientiousness
4: a cause, principle, or system of beliefs held to with ardor and faith

Definition of RELIGIOUS
1: relating to or manifesting faithful devotion to an acknowledged ultimate reality or deity
2: of, relating to, or devoted to religious beliefs or observances
3a: scrupulously and conscientiously faithful; b: fervent, zealous

It would appear that one cannot worship God without following religion or being religious, for these words describe the relationship between God and humans in this instance.
10:00 PM on 05/09/2012
"Religion" is such a loaded word. It can mean whatever you want it to mean. This pastor defines it as works-based legalism. Most of his audience however would describe it as doctrines, many of which he probably believes in. Still others define it as institutions, denominations, clergy and churches. It could also be defined as "spirituality" or any non-scientific or superstitious belief system. The whole "Jesus vs Religion" thing is sort of vague because it never defines who exactly "Jesus" is or what "Religion" is. Everyone from Unitarian Universalists to Pentecostal Fundamentalists could support that dichotomy because they have very different definitions of those terms.

One could argue that most of what Jesus taught, as recorded in the gospels, is "religious" by nature. He constantly references the Hebrew scriptures, claims supernatural authority, performs healings and miracles, and talks about the afterlife. I wonder if Jesus would be more into what we call "religion" than we like to think.
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Abdul-Halim Vazquez
08:53 PM on 05/09/2012
How can you reconcile the idea of rules being toxic with the idea that a perfect, wise merciful God allegedly gave 613 of them in the Old Testament?
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Oblongato
My micro-bio defines me.
03:04 PM on 05/10/2012
It would appear that God is not as wise and merciful as many people assume.
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Oblongato
My micro-bio defines me.
04:21 PM on 05/10/2012
Read your inexplicably removed comment, responded with Great Flood example of lack of mercy and wisdom.
01:55 AM on 05/09/2012
I understand the category of people who you are trying to criticize with this article, but you make some claims which obscure the Christian vocation and miss the point of religion in general:

-The focus of Paul's argument involving circumcision was over Gentile admission into the practice of the new Christian religion. The covenental rules set down by God for the Jewish people (circumcision, dieting laws, etc.), were an initiative by Him to create a relationship. Love means you follow the rules of the person you love. Jesus gave us his commands on with the Beatitudes and elsewhere.

-As for the idea that "religion is about me," this is a type of personalism which misses the mark of "worshiping God in Spirit and Truth" (Jesus' maxim for the Samaratian woman at the well). The mystical body of Christ, His Church, is an 'outward sign of a hidden reality' (i.e. the good news), and therefore the practice of religion is the classic "twofer"--inner sanctification and an outer evangelization. I'll leave you with a thought from the great Christian thinker and writer GK Chesterton:

"The modern habit of saying “Every man has a different philosophy; this is my philosophy and it suits me”—the habit of saying this is mere weak-mindedness. A cosmic philosophy is not constructed to fit a man; a cosmic philosophy is constructed to fit a cosmos. A man can no more possess a private religion than he can possess a private sun and moon."
united dreamer
The meek shall inherit the earth, trust me
12:41 PM on 05/09/2012
Eloquently put. Its a common trait to forget where we came from and whose sacrifices put us where we are. And easy to put aside when it becomes unfashionable or uncomfortable.
united dreamer
The meek shall inherit the earth, trust me
12:52 PM on 05/09/2012
Anyway, anyone who mentions the Beattitudes as fundamental to the precepts of Christian faith "gets it" in my book;-)
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Claude Hosch
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07:24 PM on 05/08/2012
I read an article about divorce, and how one spouse finds ways to remain angry at the other to not return. That phenomena seem to unfold among 'some' of the "anti- God" group. There is an expression of sustained anger driving them to read of a subject they want little to do with.
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Claude Hosch
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07:05 PM on 05/08/2012
Some live for God; their business is their focus. Some live before God; their business is in how much they do right. Some live in God: to reflect him in all they do.

If one has to tell others one's a Christian, one is not very good at being a Christian.
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Fenrir Lokison
I luv the sci fi of Evolution and the Big Bang
08:40 AM on 05/09/2012
False. Jesus says let it be known who we are and who we belong to. Even Jesus told the people who he belonged to. So did the disciples. And they are our examples.
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Claude Hosch
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10:30 AM on 05/09/2012
Context, context. "if one has to tell others one's a Christian:" emphasis on "has" implying the only way you know is they tell you: they are not showing their 'light of example,' and therefore not following Jesus' instructions.
11:33 AM on 05/08/2012
I don't know if it's only me, but "toxic religion" sounds so much like a redundancy to me.
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methodman
11:11 AM on 05/08/2012
Also you is expressed differently in different cultures there are side slides and fundamental sentences and interchangeable definitions that can be credited and discussed. Christianity has none of these and to anyone who cares about civilization or literacy Those of us who believe we have a right to appreciate civilization. I am not broken, I have forcibly made time to make sense of the world. I have no connection or desire to communicate using your withdrawn interpretation. I also am not part of the right's political party.
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methodman
10:59 AM on 05/08/2012
I wanted to add that when I encounter virgin birth stories I introduce myself to a new stochastic statistic. See this way I can mix both religion and science and I can force the conversation my direction!!!!
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researcher
12:59 AM on 05/08/2012
Nice start with your words about religion but: first you cannot have a relationship with God, the Source of all that is.

A relationship denotes that God is separate from you and me. This cannot be as this Source of (all that is) is infinite. Infinite means all and all. Oh to find one Christian just one that understands the concept of infinite.

We are expressions of this Infinite, not having a relationship with "God". That is duality and there is no duality in Infinite. it appears to be a duality but appearances are very deceptive. Very deceptive. Even Jesus taught that about appearances.

Religion has made a God in their image. This is ego centered and yes the ego is that deceptive that it can deceive the most interested spiritual seeker.
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Claude Hosch
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07:12 PM on 05/08/2012
If it were not possible to have a realtionship with God, he would not have said "I am a jealous God" Ex.20:5; jealousy having to do with our behavior toward God: aka, how we relate to him.
08:09 PM on 05/09/2012
There is a way that enters this non-duality or oneness through dualism. One can be passionately absorbed in the divine. That through this zealousness (i.e., jealousy) one realizes his inner nature as being divine. You become so enamored of God that the divine is all there is.

This is one of the possibilities that Lord Krishna speaks of to Arjuna in the Gita. In a sense this passion is God's call to you. It is not that the Beloved reciprocates your moves but rather simultaneously acts on them. You seek God simply because the Divine has drawn you to herself.
08:10 PM on 05/09/2012
researcher,

Once again faved!

It is not a relationship but a realization.
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BOBinPS
Really?
08:54 PM on 05/07/2012
I was with you until you did the Jesus crap. If he even existed, his followers twisted his words to their own liking. Jesus's words mean nothing. Those words are not his. Nobody knows what he said; or if he said anything. What we do know, is that if he existed (I think he did), he was not important. He was never recorded in Jewish or Roman documents that we have access to. Whatever his message, it has become just politics. It still is.....
08:22 PM on 05/07/2012
Article on Toxic Religion is well written. My dad used to say he couldn't stand "Jesus Freaks", meaning overtly religioistic people. He was the most spiritual and Christ-like person I've ever known. He also said, "Never associate yourself with people who think their s___ don't stink". The problem with religion and its twin 'religiosity', is that the folks who go around with this baggage totally oblivious to the fact they are perpetrating bigotry. Most of them think it's okay to actively pursue codification of their doctrine, thereby stealing free agency and free will. I'm not aware of any religion that requires its adhearants to gain more members through the use of coersion, fear, hate and bigotry. Why these folks think all non-members of its congregation must be forced to abide its dogma or be labeled deviates, outlaws and sinners, is I don't know, 'Freakish'? It's contrary to every faith in the world. Preach by Love.
TomP100
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07:33 PM on 05/07/2012
Why do I need, or want, a relationship with an imaginary friend? That doesn't seem particularly rational.
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10:46 PM on 05/07/2012
That is what it comes down to. Which version of Jesus-rules aren't the problem. it is far more basic.