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How I Lived For 2 Weeks Without Facebook And Twitter

Posted: 08/18/2011 10:23 pm

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It may be hard to imagine in today's world, but there was once a time when computers didn't exist, cell phones didn't exist. If you go back far enough, there was even a time the written word didn't exist.

We should feel privileged to live in an era of such advancements. It's easier than ever to stay connected with people and develop relationships all over the world.

But this era of Facebook and Twitter (each not even a decade old) can be dangerous too. Stepping back to a simpler world now and then can prove beneficial. It's also extremely difficult.

A Different Culture

This week I returned from my first ever trip to Hawaii. A friend greeted me, "Welcome back to reality."

It was an appropriate greeting -- and accurate. It didn't take long to notice the difference between the paradise islands and U.S. mainland. At O'Hare Airport in Chicago, I witnessed dozens of people rushing around, complaining about long lines and pushing those in their way while waiting for their flights.

I was clearly back in the land of "me first," "hurry up," and self-gratification. Cell phones were in full use, laptops popped up and poor attitudes filled the air.

OK, maybe I'm exaggerating a little. But there is no doubt a different energy and feeling in the air on the islands, isolated by thousands of miles in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. What a beautiful place too.

It didn't take long in Hawaii to feel the "Aloha" spirit (the "breath of life"), learn how to say "Mahalo" (everyone else was doing it) and flash the "hang loose" symbol every opportunity. As explained here, the shaka hand signal -- thumb and pinky sticking out -- is seen all over the place as "a greeting, cheering, expression of gratitude and a great mood indicator at once" -- at its essence: "Relax & Enjoy Life."

All of this was very contagious. The islanders' patience, friendliness and respect for others and nature were irresistible traits to emulate. Life just slows down there. With this backdrop, Hawaii proved to be the perfect time to launch an ambitious experiment: no Facebook and Twitter for two weeks.

Breaking An Addiction

Cell phones have been likened to cigarettes, and one study found that the average person checks their phone 34 times a day. Internet usage itself is increasingly becoming an addiction.

It's especially tough to step away from all of these gadgets and opportunities for connectivity when you work in the online business like I do. Industries today have been transformed by 24/7 Twitter feeds, touched by the ubiquity of Facebook and impacted by new tools like Google+. If you don't keep up, you'll be left behind by the intense competition out there.

The addiction is very real for me. Many told me I could never do it. I decided to try this anyway: Two weeks without publicly posting anything on Facebook or Twitter. I did the same on Google+, only posting occasional private updates to a special vacation circle.

On The Right Track

I sure felt good when I learned that I wasn't the only one giving up Facebook...

One of our tour guides, Daniel on the Big Island, said he and his fiancee had given up Facebook because it was "for your past" and they preferred to live in the present and future. It was a very Hawaiian thing to say, even though the Hawaiian culture has a lot of respect for tradition and honoring our ancestors. That's because in Hawaii you live for the moment. You enjoy it. And you interact in real life, not behind a screen.

This gave me some comfort to depart Facebook for a bit.

But it did little to ease my longing for Twitter. After all, it had become such a habit to post frequently since I joined the service in summer 2008. I've never gone so long without posting until these past two weeks, literally falling off the grid. Google+ was equally difficult to give up publicly, given my enthusiasm for the platform in the first weeks since its debut.

A Good Feeling

As Arianna Huffington says, we all need to "unplug and recharge" now and then. She's right, especially in our fast-paced digital world.

Fourteen days after I began my challenge, I'm proud to say I succeeded: not a single public update to Twitter, Facebook or Google+. Therefore, it is possible to step away, survive and even thrive. It's not necessarily lazy either -- it's opening up your eyes to brand new experiences (reading, observing and immersing myself in the culture and history of Hawaii, the people around me and nature, I learned dozens of new things every day).

So, as painful as it was at first, it was refreshing, relaxing and I truly do feel recharged, ready to get back to work. The proof is there in my streams, and no one can take it away from me: nothing public posted on my Twitter, Facebook and Google+ pages between Aug. 5 and Aug. 18.

Maybe that duration scares the daylights out of you, but I highly recommend you try this too. Even for just a weekend. You'll thank me later. Aloha! And mahalo for reading.

 

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It may be hard to imagine in today's world, but there was once a time when computers didn't exist, cell phones didn't exist. If you go back far enough, there was even a time the written word...
It may be hard to imagine in today's world, but there was once a time when computers didn't exist, cell phones didn't exist. If you go back far enough, there was even a time the written word...
 
 
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Dayne
People are people
07:09 PM on 09/11/2011
Amazing how technology can change aspects of our social lives in such a short time. I remember traveling to Europe when I was 17 (school sponsored activity). In the 40 plus days I was gone, I think I talked to my parents twice. Nowadays I just shake my head watching people (not always the younger crowd) lose themselves in their technological social world. The biggest danger I see besides (blowing red lights, running up bills, being rude to the cashier and person waiting behind you, falling into mall fountains, etc.) is that it has become an escape from dealing with people and the world in a personal way. Just like these comment sections. I wonder how many people would say some of the things they do, if they weren't hiding behind the anonymity and safety of a computer screen. To all you social media users, moderation is a good thing, even when talking about using moderation.
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Ken Scherer
02:08 AM on 09/09/2011
My daily addiction is e-mail, FB, HP, MM, YouTube, & Lernu (I have Twitter but don't use it), when I'm not changing my stroke-victim mom-in-law's diapers, dressing her, fixing her teeth, feeding & medicating & transporting her back & forth between bed, wheel chair & recliner & shower, along w/house & yard work. Other than dropping off & picking up my daughter at school & going to pharmacies & Wal-Mart, I'm home 24/7. I'm a 45 year-old nerd who wears Star Wars & DC & Marvel t-shirts. I lost my job of 18 years when my facility closed, & I also took care of my stroke-victim dad-in-law 2 years before he died last month). The internet allows me to keep in touch w/relatives & friends & helps me stay informed about my political leaders, whom I routinely contact. That's my tell-you-all-about-me cabin fever story :)
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02:35 PM on 09/03/2011
i do not belong to facebook or twitter, they're both a monumental waste of time
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Helen Greenfeld
"There is Nothing New Under the Sun"
07:47 AM on 08/29/2011
No big deal, I've done it for months on end. I look at facebook as comedy relief. Nothing serious. If one had to think of facebook friends as true friends if they never met these people unless it's a support group, I would say get a life.
11:13 AM on 08/23/2011
i've lived 5 happy decades without facebook or twitter; i'll make the rest of the journey the same way
11:28 PM on 08/22/2011
It appears the rest of world survived without your public postings too. I'm guessing your "special vacation circle" hoped you'd give them a break too.
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booker52
avid reader
05:55 PM on 08/22/2011
I don't twitter much, but I do check FB several times ago. My biggest vice? Reading newspapers and posting comments. Maybe I too need a break.
02:27 PM on 08/22/2011
I manage fine without either. I prefer life.
10:17 AM on 08/22/2011
2 weeks? hahahahah. I've gone 59 years without any of that foolishness.
08:59 AM on 08/22/2011
Hell I've lived 58 years without facebook or twitter and I feel privileged not to have wasted my time.It's amazing what a face to face conversation with a real live person can do to one's well being or to use a phone and hear someone's voice.
08:43 AM on 08/22/2011
I'm 20 and I do have a Facebook account, but I've only logged in one time since registering months ago. My little brother's on Facebook all the time posting "updates". My profile picture is from preschool, and my only friend's my brother. I think it's really silly how some adults are just completely obsessed with it and log in every day, talking about what they did that day and so forth. I don't have a Twitter account. In fact, I still don't completely understand how Twitter works.
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multidoc
Re-animating the dead since 1922
10:49 PM on 08/21/2011
I'm SO impressed.
07:51 PM on 08/21/2011
Hey Hey, this is a good article!

If anyone needs some google plus invites to help ditch their twitter and facebook addictions, I got 149 left here

http://theramblingsofawreck.blogspot.com/2011/08/invitations-to-google.html
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Jim in California
The greatest enemy to human souls is the self-righ
07:49 PM on 08/21/2011
It's a bit ironic that social media that is supposed to bring us together is basically creating a generation that is socially inept except in front of a screen. The internet is amazing and has changed our lives in more ways than I could list in this comment section. But, it is incredibly impersonal and has created a generation of young kids who feel that having 1,286 friends online is better than having a handful of friends to bicycle to the community pool and chill.
09:52 PM on 08/21/2011
My partner works with young people who have grown up with Social Media. He has told me that many of them lack realtime Social skills like saying Good Morning and Good Night.

May I write an article for HP on how I survived 60 years without Facebook or Twitter? However, I do enjoy HP. It has reminded me that there is still Intelligent Life on Earth.
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Jeffrey Garza Falcon
01:04 PM on 08/22/2011
Here's a confession. I like my online friends more than my real life friends.
02:27 PM on 08/22/2011
Too funny.
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Mort
Once I thought I was wrong, but I was mistaken.
06:57 PM on 08/21/2011
I was excited to do Facebook. Started out great, until the games, invitations, gifts and meaningless chatter piled up so high I couldn't see the top. It's not the place I thought, where you can check in with friends & family when you have a minute to keep in touch. It's a time and life sucker. Some I know spend day and night glued to it. It's their whole social life.

I just can't afford that. So much to do and so little time. Everyone thinks I'm antisocial cause I'm not building a farm or kid nap ping them. Oh well! I have a life!