You know, I was online today and I saw that Biggest Loser trainer Jillian Michaels has come clean on her stance on pregnancy. She states that she does not want to have a child because she doesn't want to wreck her body, and wants to adopt because there are so many kids who need a home.
Here is what is really ironic about this. She works with people teaching them how to lose weight. It is her job to mold and get people's bodies back into shape.
So, in my opinion, she is a pure scammer. If she got pregnant, what would she gain? Maybe 25 pounds? She is someone who gets people to lose more than 100 pounds.
It sounds like someone who isn't prepared to practice what she preaches. I am a dating coach, and I have always lived the exact life I coach my clients to live when it comes to dating.
If she was so good at what she does, she would not even blink at pregnancy and know that 25 pounds is nothing. She is just another self-proclaimed guru who has some deep inner fears about her own body.
She should be a role model. How else can we have faith in her, when she seems to lack it within herself.
As I read the article a little further, the author took the position that women throughout the world are going to stop having children out of worry for their figures, just because of what Jillian Michaels said. Who really gives this much power to a celebrity trainer?
Are we going to actually allow our lives to be dictated based on one person saying they don't want their body ruined by pregnancy? Should this really change any woman's stance on pregnancy? It's really ridiculous, and it made no sense to me when I was reading this.
Remember when we were kids and had to deal with peer pressure? Peer pressure was especially bad when you'd go to a party and all the kids would want you to drink (and drink a lot).
Sure, that is all there when you're a kid. Are adults really subject to peer pressure though?
Is there really peer pressure on women to stop getting pregnant, just because some celebrity trainer stated that she herself doesn't want to get pregnant out of fear that her body will be ruined? Do people really believe this will cause an actually trend down in the number of women who get pregnant?
The reason why people have so much trouble nowadays, is because they are so influenced by people who don't matter. Let's even take this outside this issue of pregnancy.
It's hard enough to date. How many people who are single, though, have body issues and are afraid to be naked with someone? How many people won't put themselves out there because they feel like they have to lose ten pounds first?
We've become a society that is so obsessed with physical appearance and with what other people think, that we can hardly get up in the morning.
I've been coaching men and women on dating for the last fourteen years, and one of the biggest things they struggle with is approach anxiety -- the disease that doesn't exist. Approach anxiety is the fear of approaching members of the opposite sex. People come up with all sorts of excuses to not approach the opposite sex, and whenever they read something or hear something they feed this fear even more.
Life is about being an individual, and determining what's good for you and your own life. It should never matter what other people think.
So to that writer who thought that Jillian Michaels' statement was going to influence the female population at large, I have to ask: do you think we are all still fourteen years old, at that party, feeling the pressure of drinking that beer? Or, are we just adults making our own decisions?
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