Today I want to talk about trust. How much do you trust yourself? How much do you trust other people?
I want to share a story with you about something that recently happened to me. The other day I was looking through Craigslist (one of my favorite places to look for a good deal on just about anything), and I saw the car that my wife really wants. The car is a 2009 Volkswagen Tiguan, and I saw one advertised on Craigslist for $15,500.00 That price is about $7,000.00 less than the cheapest one in the same condition I could have bought.
So I went back and forth with the guy selling it. The guy told me he was selling it for a friend.
I thought, "The guy is selling it for a friend of his? Oh man, I've heard THAT story so many times. Doesn't that just raise the red flags? There must be something wrong with this car. Why can't his friend sell it? Why is he selling the car for his friend? The title must be wrong."
So I ran a CARFAX report, which said that the title was fine. I then arranged for him to come out and actually bring me the car. I was kind of dragging my feet because I just had the feeling that the deal was too good to be true.
So what happened? I was expecting the car to come today, but unfortunately it didn't because the guy sold the car to someone else last night.
What I realized is that we have so many internal voices. All of us do, even me -- someone who really tries to work on this stuff over and over again. Even I fell into the trap of listening to the internal voice that told me that the deal must be too good to be true.
How many times do you see something that sounds too be good to be true, and you hear an internal voice repeating the saying to you that, "If it seems too good to be true, then it probably is?" We're so conditioned to doubt things in life that are good.
People do it in dating all the time. They meet someone who seems perfect in every way. The person seems too good to be true, so they start doubting.
We sometimes doubt when we see a good deal. Whenever we see a good deal, we doubt it and assume there must be something wrong.
In reality, though, there are just some times when there are good deals to be had. There are probably great deals every day on Craigslist.
There are "good deals" when it comes to dating too. Every time you go out with someone new and they seem fantastic, stop looking for the flaws and start realizing that you deserve someone fantastic.
We need to stop with this 'too good to be true' nonsense that we have scattered throughout the whole country, and realize that we all deserve good and fantastic things in our life. We need to do this so that the next time an amazing deal pops up, all of us will jump on it and not fall prey to internal voices like I did.
I should have bought that car a few days ago. I should have jumped on it right away. I knew it was a great deal, but I listened to that internal voice saying the deal was too good to be true.
I learned a really valuable lesson. The next time this happens, I am going to jump all over it. Since I practice an abundance mentality, I know there will be a next time. I truly believe that the world is abundant with good deals, great people and great things.
The next time a great deal appears in front of me, I am going to ignore that "too good to be true" voice. Of course I will do my homework. If it's a deal on a car, I will run the VIN and check out the CARFAX report. If it all checks out, though, I am going to jump on the decision.
How do you carry this over into dating and meeting someone? It's easy to run the VIN and check a report for a car, but how does this work with people?
If you meet someone who seems too good to be true, just keep meeting them. Keep going out with them. Be open and stop looking for flaws. Start embracing the magic of who they are.
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