I have always thought when people passed away that the ones left behind
cried for the fact they would not have the person they loved in their
lives any longer. The truth is we cry for not having that person but we also
cry for all they will never get to do and to experience; new presidents,
newborns, love, restaurants, films, political and social changes etc.
I once read that nature is selfish -- a powerful but truthful statement.
Nature doesn’t stop for anyone or anything. No matter what is happening
in our lives people still rush to work, fight wars, make love, waste time and the
world goes through tsunamis, global warming, sunsets and sunrises.
It is so brutally shocking when our lives are falling apart and the rest of
the world does not seem to notice. The first time I really
experienced this was when my husband was lying in a hospital bed fighting for
his life and I went for a walk around the hospital. I needed air and
sunlight after spending three days locked up in his room without leaving.
As my body walked my mind was still tied back to what was happening in that
hospital room, but all the people walking by me didn’t seem to notice or
care. They laughed and carried on like nothing was happening. I
wanted to stop and tell them “Don’t you know what’s happening? My husband
is fighting for his life. How can you just carry on? ” But of course I couldn’t
do that. The truth is that everyone has their drama, small and big, at
different times in their lives and nature doesn’t care and it doesn’t stop. But that is how life is; it has its own
It is so important to live life for what we think is important and brings us
the greatest amount of happiness and satisfaction and not fall victim of any type
of fictional or social interpretation of what life should be or look
Life is what it is and it’s to be lived to the fullest at every moment
because things can change on a dime. This is by no means a gloom and doom
statement. It is actually beautiful and powerful and it can be simple to live
by making every day count and being in the moment. If the moment is
talking to a friend, then let’s dedicate the time to the friend. Let’s
not think about what we need to do after we leave our friend. Let’s be in
the moment. If the moment is making love, let’s not think about what
happened before and what will happen after. Let’s be in the moment and try to
let our body and mind experience every feeling and sensation.
We are so often in a hurry that we miss out on fully experiencing what
happens to us until something tragic happens and we realize that we have rushed
through too much and now have much to regret.
So while nature is selfish and life will continue on no matter what happens
to each one of us, we can make our own lives count by dedicating our journey to
ourselves. Our best friend lives within us, and it is actually
ourselves. We are the only ones who will never leave and will always
hear our thoughts and feelings and know everything that there is to know about
US. So why not give our best friend the best life possible by letting ourselves
truly experience life by being in the moment?
Think about it.
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