There was a gal I knew in college -- let's call her Lola -- who delighted in sleeping with the boyfriends of other girls. Lola would get friendly with the couple, the unsuspecting gal would start to trust Lola, and wham! Lola would seduce her guy. Lola got whatever Lola wanted, and you got an energetic knife in the back. As the saying goes, with friends like these, who needs enemies?
One minute you're red-hot furious at Lola; you'd like to poke out her eyes and drop-kick her across town. The next minute you're wondering what you did wrong. How come you didn't see this coming? Aren't you sexy enough for him? Too fat? Too flat-chested? Too bossy?
You may start to feel like you've got a constant cold, your immune system is shot, you're gaining weight from drowning your sorrows in ice cream, you've let yourself go, and you're just so tired all the time. Where has your energy, your passion for life, gone? Other than going after Lola with a pitchfork, what can you do to put this experience behind you?
You can remove the energetic connection you have with Lola or, for that matter, with anyone who has stuck a proverbial knife in your back. Maybe it was placed there by a jealous co-worker, relative or ex; energetically, they all work the same. Indigenous peoples knew that energy was real, even though it couldn't be seen. They knew how to remove virtual knives. I've learned one of their techniques that works well and I can pass it on to you.
Here are five simple steps to remove a virtual knife from your back :
The shamans of ancient Mexico teach that the breath in this exercise retrieves your energy from the scene and disconnects you from the negativity sent your way. By breathing in from right to left while remembering a feeling, your breath picks up your spent energy, and it's the expenditure of your own energy that is so aging. The exhalation from left to right gets rid of any unwanted energy left in your own energy field. I teach shamanic techniques like this one in my new book, "Be Your Own Shaman."
Chances are, you'll feel more vital and alive after the exercise. And you know you're much, much wiser now about whom you'll choose to befriend next time.
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we have all made mistakes
we all want to be forgiven !
when you forgive a trespass against you !
you forgive your self in the process !
and we all are better off in the end :)
for we are all one in living life
Thanks for the post.
i helped her out financially time and again
on so many levels she made bad decisions and i was determined to have a better life than my mother. so in the end i had what my friend wanted but was not able to negotiate.
she stole from me, complained to child services and generally created havoc. her own sister defended me against child services. her pragmatic words were at least now they know you are a good mother.
someone said to me no good deed goes unpunished.
i have not spoken to her since
if i ever meet her again i will tell her
"it is horrible to be old and poor in america. it is worse to be old and poor and sick. the only thing worse than that is to be old and poor and sick and stupid"