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Aging Myths: 5 Big Misconceptions About Growing Older

Posted: 03/20/2012 6:22 am

The longevity revolution is well underway, and everything we've thought about aging is up for grabs as we live and work longer than any other generation in human history. Many great minds are committed to redefining aging and retirement models that embrace this new reality. One of them is Laura Carstensen. Carstensen has been on the forefront of research on aging for nearly 30 years. She's a professor of psychology at Stanford University, director of the Stanford Center on Longevity, the author of several books and recipient of numerous distinguished awards.

The following five biggest myths about aging are based on her book, A Long Bright Future.

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  • 1. Older People Are Miserable

    Happiness is not the domain of the young. In fact, quite the contrary. According to research on <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/debra-ollivier/aging-and-happiness_b_1327800.html" target="_hplink">age and happiness</a>, older people tend to be happier than young people. Writes Carstensen: "With the exception of dementia-related diseases, which by definition have organic roots, mental health generally improves with age." Older people generally focus on the essential, don't sweat the small stuff, and enjoy their freedoms when their children leave the nest. (According to Carstensen, the empty nest syndrome is atypical. "Children make parents very happy... when they're living somewhere else," she writes.) This "paradox of aging" has to do with a shift our perspectives as our sense of temporal reality changes. Simply put, the less time we have, the more we cherish it and the more expansive simple pleasures become. What age group is the most unhappy, stressed, and prone to depression? The 20-something demographic.

  • 2. DNA Is Destiny

    According to Carstensen, "one of the paradoxes of American longevity ... is that medical science has become powerful enough to rescue people from the brink of death but remains largely impotent when it comes to erasing the effects of the lifetime of bad habits that brought them there." In other words, having a healthy lifestyle is as important as having good genes when it comes to age and wellness. Common sense prevails here. If you smoked a pack of cigarettes a day for decades, you'll pay later. Ditto for obesity, drug or alcohol addiction and lack of exercise. According to a <a href="http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/article.aspx?articleID=174810" target="_hplink">Harvard University study that's been tracking longevity since the 1930's</a>, there are seven lifestyle choices that don't necessarily trump genetics, but that certainly give us an edge: Don't smoke. Drink in moderation only. Exercise regularly. Keep your weight down. Cultivate stable emotional relationships. Get an education. Develop good coping skills for handling life's fast balls.

  • 3. Work Hard, Retire Harder

    We work long and hard. Our mid-lives are often filled with the stress of parenting, trying to save for retirement, and juggling multiple jobs. Then we're supposed to retire and do nothing for the next 30 years. "There is something wrong with this picture," writes Carstensen. Carstensen calls for creating a new model where "work is less demanding and more satisfying throughout life." The operative word here is "throughout." Putting off pleasure and fulfillment until our much later years is not only folly; it's unhealthy. Writes Carstensen: "Time after retirement is the only stage in life that has been elongated. The problem isn't you, it's the model, which was built for short lives, not long ones. It makes no sense to cram all of the work into the beginning, and all of the relaxation into the end." Adds Carstensen: "The beauty of a longer but more moderately paced career cycle would be that we could have more leisure throughout life, more time with our children while they are young, and remain engaged in our communities as we age, giving back some of the expertise we've accumulated throughout our time in the work force." A new "menu of options" would include part-time work, volunteer work or taking on an entirely new career.

  • 4. Older People Drain Our Resources

    The Scarcity Myth is precisely that: a myth. Longevity isn't feeding population growth. Booming youth populations in third world countries and other complex demographic shifts are the real problem. Writes Carstensen: "Bottom line: Population growth is an issue, but Grandpa living longer is not the problem. The true issue is that the gift of increased longevity is unevenly distributed around the globe. In some parts of the world where the youth population is booming, those children may never have the chance to grow old." Meanwhile, the aging workforce is a truly massive force to contend with.

  • 5. We Age Alone

    According to Carstensen: "Aging is inevitable. <em>How</em> you age is not. You will very likely spend about three decades of your life as an old person. Deal with it. Death is the only alternative. If you can put behind you the fantasy of eternal youth, you can begin to plan seriously for what comes next. You can begin to think hard about the type of old person you want to be..." Carstesen cites the burgeoning greying demographic as proof that that we will all, invariably, face old age together -- both in our local communities and as a global community.

 
 
 

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10:11 AM on 05/07/2012
"Scientists from Ohio State University report that marijuana, contrary to the conventional wisdom, may help ward off Alzheimer's and keep recall sharp. Their findings, released today at the Society for Neuroscience meeting in Washington D.C.: chemical components of marijuana reduce inflammation and stimulate the production of new brain cells, thereby enhancing memory."
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01:10 PM on 04/08/2012
I am 76...... I'm getting older, but I'm not getting old. Because, you know what ? The only people who grow old are the ones who act their age.
06:39 PM on 03/31/2012
I was born in 42 when I get old I'll let you know what its like
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05:27 PM on 03/27/2012
I have spent the last 20 years working in long term care and hospice. I took care of a woman that was nearing 100, and her oldest daughter was about 82. The daughter once told me that the best years of her life were her 70s. She was retired, she travelled, visited her children and grandchildren, wrote books, played cards with friends, and had a wonder ful 10 years. She was 82 and said that other than having more health problems, she still felt good. she didn't travel much anymore and that was okay with her. She visited her Mom, played cards with friends, watched the sun rises and sun sets, and enjoyed being in her 80s.
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09:32 AM on 03/23/2012
things get BETTER?
07:40 AM on 03/22/2012
I read somewhere that if we can survive the next 20 years, then it may be possible to at least double our lifespans. This is because of new technology that cleans arteries, improves cognitive function, improves hormone levels, grows new organs, etc. However, we have to have the money and be reasonably sound physically to take advantage of these new technologies. 90 is going to be the new 50. Stay fit, healthy, mentally active, eat right, and keep your stress levels to a reasonable level. See ya in 20 years!
05:06 PM on 03/21/2012
I have never thought of myself as an 'Old Lady', although I am 72. It's kinda funny, but everyday is a new adventure and no, I do not have Dementia or Alzheimer's. I continue to learn new things daily, am well read, exercise on a regular basis and live a simple lifestyle. Like others, I have new teeth, can hear, great knees, and love to laugh. Non a bad life for a 'NeauxGrayMare'?????
04:13 PM on 03/21/2012
What do old people do for entertainment? They read old people comments about an article about old people. What a hoot!
04:04 PM on 03/21/2012
Here's a brief chronicle of the past seventeen years of my life:
(1) Retired in 1995 at age sixty-four and a half.
(2) Achieved 10th Degree Black Belt in Kenpo Karate at age sixty-eight in 1999. Been doing it for fifty-three years - Still active.
(3) Wrote, directed and produced my first Feature Length Movie at age seventy-eight. Am in pre-production and casting for #2 now.
I realize I probably don't have enought time to produce all of the scripts that I have now because I keep getting new ideas and writing more all the itme.
It would be great if it all ends in a Dead Heat. You know, finish my last movie and then croak. Wish me luck. And good luck to you in all of your future endeavours - remember - it ain't over till it's over.
02:22 PM on 03/21/2012
Iam one of those and get very upset to see older people act like idiots and trouble makers what are they trying to prove the rest of the world did not make thier poblems,and make life miserable for people who they vent thier fustrations on.people who trying to make a living for thier families in these tough times.Iam just appalled at thier rude and demanding ways to insult these poor souls to show thier authority.these people think they can demand and get things to suit them at any cost to satisfy thier ego which in my belief they get satisfaction out of doing this. my assement of this 60 plus years of trying to please them! a no win problem
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02:11 PM on 03/21/2012
So my last one did not go thru let's try again.
I have lived more years then I had ever thought I would and retire in a beautiful country setting where it is
as close to heaven as it can be.
Vietnam,riding w/motorcycle gangs,hell raising,etc; yet I made it this far to a quite life now from the city,
a good wife and children, a small country church,fishing spots galore and hunting bountiful, seeing the
sun rise and set in the evenings on our porch as I have a cool drink of tea.
What a wonderful life this is and I made it when so many others have not nor ever will.
Yes I'm Blesses and why I do not know except by the Grace of GOD.Pray others can make it this far and be happy/content. Blessings to All....
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Jimmy Wang
Speak the truth. Or else it will always catch up
02:06 PM on 03/21/2012
Old people aren't miserable. You MAKE yourself MISERABLE. I have deal with miserable people that comes to the CASINO with all ages, sexes, races, sizes. Here is a interesting thought. If you don't have fun in this world, IT IS YOUR OWN FAULT. Feeling pain? Don't tell us about it because most of us DON'T CARE and can't feel it for you. Tell your health professional for advise on pain managements and/or physical ailments that needed to be treated. Only give empathy for the people who really deserve it.
04:00 PM on 03/21/2012
You don't deserve it.
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Jimmy Wang
Speak the truth. Or else it will always catch up
04:37 PM on 03/21/2012
I don't complain about my own problem. Don't make it other people problem either because no one owns your problem. Unless you are a child who are helpless and elderly who are frail.
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Willow712
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05:32 PM on 03/27/2012
I've worked in long term care for 20 years, and I sincerely believe that your personality follows you from infancy to old age. Someone that is a grouchy, strict, perfectionist complainer, was usually a child that didn't adapt to changes well, and wanted everything his/her way. Someone that as a child, sat back and day dreamed, smiled at everyone and was just plain happy is the same way at 100. One 104 year old got mad at her neighbor across the hall for being so touchy and complaining, and said of her neighbor, "She is just like her Father!!" (who died 94 years ago, lol). Moms that were loving and caring to their small children when she was 25, is loving and caring to us nurses when she is 95.
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Jimmy Wang
Speak the truth. Or else it will always catch up
05:54 AM on 03/28/2012
In many country in the world, miserable people are the ones who is getting rewarded. Nice people don't make history..Only tyrants and people with huge personalities and their offsprings get noticed--and catered to depending on their social status.
02:01 PM on 03/21/2012
I was terrified of turning 30. Isn't it funny how "old" is perceived when you're nowhere near it? When I turned 40, I told everyone I was turning 36. When I turned 50, I didn't tell anyone. And is that woman in the mirror? One thing I notice most is that I just can't clean the entire house in one day. You know, dust the bookcase, take a break, move the chair, take a break, vacuum a corner, take a break. By the time I get done, it's time to start over again. Geez! Aches and pains - oh yeah, I sure have those - courtesy of my wild young life, of which I have no regrets….yet. Aging makes me remember what older people told me when I was young, and how I didn't like listening. That could be why my niece rolls her eyes at me when I offer my (unasked for) advise. Hmmm. My Mom is 91 and she just says, “I’m not going.” That’s worked out pretty well so far! But, isn’t it a shame that we have to get old (or decade-challenged) to finally understand that old saying, "Youth is wasted on the young." Too bad I had to get old to come to the realization of how true that statement really is, and so does every other young person. But I do love my memories…..so make some good ones, youngsters – you WILL need them later on in life!
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Willow712
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05:33 PM on 03/27/2012
Just as I love the statement, "I wish I was as fat as I was when I thought I was fat." Now I get to take a break and go to Facebook! LOL
01:56 PM on 03/21/2012
The economy is really messing with some people's retirement. Social security and medicare cut threats are frightening and things that I didn't even know I had are beginning to introduce themselves with creaks, groans and aches. Aside from that life is good, especially when the alternative is considered. But as my 91 year old neighbor says, "where are the golden years I heard about? The only thing golden about old age is my urine"
01:55 PM on 03/21/2012
An overly simplistic "feel good" piece. NIMH reports suicide rates are significantly higher for people over the age of 65 compared to younger and 85 and older white males about five times as likely to suicide as younger and others. This is a very firm statistic which suggests higher levels of depression in the older population. See http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/older-adults-depression-and-suicide-facts-fact-sheet/index.shtml