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6 Ways to Shine With Summer Confidence

07/18/2014 03:13 pm ET | Updated Sep 17, 2014
  • Debra Rogers Relationship expert and author of "He Did You a Favor"
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Summer is a time where baring more of ourselves can actually cause our self-esteem to plummet. But now's the time to love the skin you're in and embrace what's great about you. So while you're relaxing at the beach and building sand castles, here are several ways to build self-confidence.

1. Be a daydreamer.
During these lazy days of summer, allow yourself to drift into delicious daydreaming. What would your ultimate dream life look like? What would it feel like? What would it smell like (yes, I said smell)? Get super specific. Now, let those dreamy thoughts fill you up and give you a feel-good boost.

2. Be the change.
What's one habit you'd like to start this month? Do you want to start jogging again? Or be more on time for appointments? Or spend more quality time with your partner? Years ago, I decided to start a habit of drinking eight ounces of water when I first woke up. I've been doing that for 12 years now and I've never missed a day. By making something a habit, it'll become part of your DNA and will inspire you to make more positive changes in your life.

3. Be your best selfie.
We are in the age of the selfies, where we constantly put ourselves on display for others to see. Think about this the next time you post something on social media. Are you showing your best self? Are you inspiring others? Are you sharing and commenting on the best in someone else? Be confident in who you are and the positive effect you can have on others.

4. Be brave.
What's one daring act you can do this week? Is it to make a call about a job you're interested in? Or to take that Barre Class you've always wanted to take? Or is it to go up to that guy you've been crushin' on for months and ask him out for coffee? Step out of your comfort zone and do one brave thing this week and see how it feels.

5. Be complimentary.
It's so easy to compliment others, but not as easy to do it for ourselves. In fact, many times when we receive a compliment, we'll dodge it, deflect it, or downplay it until it's nothing more than a pebble in the sand for the waves to wash away.

So the next time you finish an assignment on time, or implement a new habit, or even try on a new dress that looks great on you, acknowledge it right then and there. Say something nice to yourself. Accept the fact that you're simply awesome, because you are!

6. ...And believe in you.
Many times, I have to remind myself to get the heck out of my own way and just simply trust. So when fear, insecurity, and self-doubt creep in, tell them to step aside, please. Kick them to the curb and head on over the sunny side of the street. Know without a doubt that you have the confidence to accomplish anything you desire in life and in love. It's your time to shine, so let the good times begin!