The Crisis Of Incongruence -- The Hidden Cause Of Unhappiness

The Crisis Of Incongruence -- The Hidden Cause Of Unhappiness
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In the principle of Emergence, we learn that life doesn't happen to us, it happens through us. All of life is trying to express as us, but it can only do so according to our level of receptivity and alignment with it. Because of this we don't experience life directly, we experience it through our perceptions or filters.

The bad news is that, even though life is totally on your side, you can only experience it to the extend that you're on your own side. The good news is that there's a divine destiny, an emerging impulse, always seeking to bring you into harmony with your true purpose -- so that life can fulfill itself through you.

The challenge is that the same mechanism that allows us to manifest a more expansive life as we embody more expansive perceptions, also causes a more limited life when our beliefs are limited.

The reason is that this inner mechanism is always trying to make us congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that we've accepted about ourselves or the world. It doesn't know good or bad, right or wrong, it just knows what you believe deep down -- and then it works 24/7 to bring your life into integrity with that belief system.

Like the principle of homeostasis, it's always trying to bring us back to a state of balance or congruent. For example, if you have a self-concept that says, "I'm not good with money" or "Money is hard" when it comes to money, even if you do all the right things to make money, it will beat a path out your door as fast as possible. Why? Because this mechanism is trying to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint.

This is the meaning of the saying, "To he or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, to he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, and it will turn out wrong." Whatever your inner blueprint is, if you're trying to do a bunch of actions that aren't in integrity with it and you're not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into alignment with it.

Even when you have what the world would call success, if you're not happy and fulfilled it's because, on some level, your outer life does't match your inner blueprint of true happiness. This can cause successful people to self sabotage, or become addicted to quell the pain and confusion of being so unhappy when everything says they should be overjoyed with their life.

The work we must do is to get clear about what our inner blueprint for success and happiness is, then either change it if it's not constructive and supportive, or begin the process of bribing our whole life into congruence with it. This includes the people, places, activities, and objects we fill our life with -- and the things we take out of our life.

You'll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if your blueprint doesn't match, or isn't increasingly coming into alignment with the grand blueprint.

"True joy and happiness comes from living on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase, and progress."

The first step is to look at your own inner self-concept, your own inner blueprint and see if it is in alignment with your highest and greatest desires or if you have acquiesced to limiting conditioning.

Are you merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are you just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others, when internally you believe you're not worthy, capable, or unable?

That's like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint.

When you do that, you don't have to make it happen, you are making it welcome. Then the law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity or congruence with it.

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.

To Your Emergence!

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Derek

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