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5 Easy Ways to Become More Empowered

06/05/2015 02:59 pm ET | Updated Jun 05, 2016
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Caitlyn took the Internet by storm earlier this week, setting herself apart from men, women and other celebrities with facades, simply by copping up to who she really is and always has been. Oh- and that's Caitlyn with a "C", not a "K". Sorry not sorry, Kris? I think we have an empowered woman on our hands and I couldn't be more delighted!

The Vanity Fair teaser released on Monday gets me all sorts of excited and emotional. Caitlyn Jenner -- the former Bruce Jenner -- describes her transformation as finally becoming free. Feeling free and embracing your true self is all I can hope for- for anyone. It is a freedom worth fighting for. When you give yourself the space to love who you authentically are, you are able to live your life wholeheartedly.

Jenner compares her Vanity Fair cover shoot with winning the gold medal in the 1976 Olympics: "That was a good day, but the last couple of days are better... This shoot was about my life and who I am as a person." Who would think that celebrating your own realness could feel better than becoming a world-class champ?

Well I'm all for it! And anyone can allow themselves that sort of satisfaction and independence because we all have the power to become the best versions of ourselves. So here are a few easy steps to take toward your own journey of accepting and loving who you really are as an individual and finding your personal sense of freedom:

1. F**k what people think of you
Understand that when people judge or criticize you, they are saying more about themselves then they are about you. I advise you to listen to what others say, but consider deeply -- is this about you or them? Sometimes criticism can be helpful and beneficial for you. Other times, it may be directed toward you but not about you, so leave the purposeless stuff behind.

2. Don't let society define you
This has to do with what's expected of you. Courageous individuals and groups are breaking down the old-school compartments and labels, and have been for decades. Women were expected to be homemakers, men have to be the major 'breadwinners', same sex marriages aren't acceptable, and more. Those ancient-minded 'faux pas' are becoming the new normal if they're not already. You must do what brings YOU fulfillment.

3. Observe your intuition and inner thoughts
The only way to find yourself is to pay attention to what goes on in your own mind. As mentioned before, we are shaped by what we've learned throughout life. Make the differentiation between what you truly desire and what you've been conditioned to accept.

4. What makes you happy?
Write it down, make a list, keep a journal... but answer the question! And the second part to the question is: What are you passionate about? The answer to these two questions will be what drives you. Bring these interests, ideas and beliefs into your world.

5. The "golden rule"
Treat others as you want to be treated. Taking others' into consideration will shed light on who you are as well. As mentioned in item 1: judgments and criticisms are usually about the person doing the judging or criticizing. We can also self-reflect in our generous acts as well, such as choosing one act of kindness over another because you can relate to it. Before you direct any sort of energy - positive or negative -toward someone else, find out where the motivation comes from within yourself. As you gain more awareness of yourself and how you act toward others, you will find the root of where your intentions come from; therefore, getting to know your true self.