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06/11/2013 09:09 am ET Updated Aug 11, 2013

3 Ways to Break Free From Anger

No matter how badly we all want to be happy, much of the time we feel a whirlpool-like force pulling us back into negative and destructive emotional patterns. No matter how desperately we want to break free and stop spinning in circles, we just can't. The force is magnetic and much too strong. The power of the subconscious mind is formidable and will do everything it can to keep us in its grasp.

Releasing and letting go of those deep-seated beliefs that do not serve our highest good, allowing us to inch far enough away so we are able to move in a different direction, is the only path out of this endless cycle. Little by little, getting farther and farther out of the reach of that magnetic pull, so that it loses more and more of its strength, is the only way to free ourselves from this invisible prison.

Following these three suggestions will help you swim out of that dangerous whirlpool of anger, resentment, disgust, and feelings of insufficiency (not enough money, not enough affection, not thin enough, not smart enough, not enough __________) in your life:

1) Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind
Everyone has memories of past hurts and old wounds. These are attachments that hold you back and block your highest good. They have programmed into you a learned response, learned behavior from your upbringing or environment. That is not who you are. Holding on to past disappointments and hurts is robbing you of your power in the present and is also creating your future.

In order to release these old energies and make room for new energies to come in, the subconscious mind has to be reprogrammed. This can be done by listening to subliminal suggestions and guided meditations in musical recordings, such as those from Brain Sync and Hemi-Sync. This positive reinforcement will eventually replace the negative tape in your head that plays itself again and again, keeping you living in the past and not moving forward. In addition, saying to yourself, "I am happy; I am healthy; I am free" and many others you can think of are affirmations that will eventually change the negative labels you have placed on yourself. Start labeling yourself in a good way. It won't change your thoughts overnight, but stick with it, and you WILL see yourself in a new, more positive light. Once you begin believing differently about yourself and your life, the world around you will shift in your favor. Do the work. Face the fact that change, freedom, and happiness come from within.

2) Be "Born Yesterday"
If you're sick of the way it is in your life and don't like the way you feel, rewrite "The Book of YOU" starting today! Create a new beginning with new possibilities. Each and every day is the first day of the rest of your life. Make each day count. You are not your past. Reinvent yourself. When the sun comes up in the morning, it is a new chance, a fresh start. Do something powerful with it!

3) Forgive
Forgiving another person, a situation, and especially yourself may be the hardest, most important and profound thing you ever do. It will also bring the greatest rewards. Internalizing anger and resentment toward yourself or someone else is a heavy burden that can consume your life. You may be happy in every aspect except for that one person who has hurt you deeply. It's that one thing you can't seem to get over. You desperately want to forget it, but that undertow keeps pulling you back into the whirlpool. It's something you can't seem to escape no matter how hard you try.

The bottom line is that you have to come to the point where you have suffered enough. Your children have suffered enough. Your spouse has suffered enough. When you are no longer vibrating "that," you will see a remarkable shift in you and those around you. It will almost be immediate. Make a command decision that "enough is enough." It's exhausting to internalize anger, and it's damaging to the cells of the body.

That which you embrace has no power over you. You are empowered by forgiving and letting go. Be respectful of the choices other people have made in life. They may have been different from yours, but all experiences serve a higher purpose.

End the cycle of anger in your life. It's time to live in peace and joy and feel relief. A huge burden will be taken off your shoulders. It's the ultimate act of self-love. It's time.

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