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The Cognitive Dissonance of Being Gay and Republican: Paul Babeu Speaks But Cannot See

Posted: 02/22/2012 2:59 pm

Perhaps Paul Babeu, the Arizona sheriff and former Romney campaign manager, should spend more time studying the Republican Party's approach to gay rights. The former U.S. serviceman turned law enforcement officer, who by all accounts has lived an exemplary life, has a blaringly obvious blindside.

Babeu is currently embroiled in a scandal involving a Mexican immigrant male with whom he admittedly carried on a secret three-year relationship. At present, the details remain unclear, but the story seems to embody the classic characteristics of a love affair gone wrong: hard feelings became harsh accusations. Following the demise of their relationship, "Jose," the man identified as Babeu's ex-lover, has accused the sheriff of threatening him with deportation as a tactic to secure his silence.

Babeu, who is currently running for Congress on the GOP ticket, achieved national notoriety as a new, youthful face of Tea Party conservatism when, in 2010, he appeared in a reelection campaign advert for Senator John McCain. The now-infamous commercial focused on border control and featured Babeu alongside McCain urging President Barack Obama to "complete the danged fence." Babeu, who rode the post-2008 Tea Party wave into office, joined Governor Jan Brewer and the state's Republican-majority legislature in pushing for a strict anti-immigrant (read: "anti-Hispanic") platform, causing Arizona to become the stage for a trifecta of xenophobia, GOP politics, and anti-Obama sentiment. The relatively unassuming patriot, who previously served in Iraq as a member of the Army National Guard, bought into a reenergized Republican platform of national security, traditional values, and "taking back the country." In the face of growing concern over violence among Mexican drug cartels, and a flailing U.S. economy still struggling to provide jobs for American workers -- let alone illegal immigrants -- the GOP's aggressive message resonated.

But Babeu had a secret, and one he seems to have been all too happy to keep until forced to admit. Publicly, Babeu supported conservative, Republican dogma, which is all too often anti-gay-rights in general and anti-gay-marriage in particular. Privately, he has been perusing gay dating websites and engaged in romantic relationships with other men. This wouldn't be newsworthy except for its inherent hypocrisy and political significance amidst a Republican presidential primary race defined by culture wars. Abortion, women's contraceptive rights, and gay marriage have each become fodder for Republican debates and policy proposals, all in the name of Christian ideals and American exceptionalism.

In a recent interview with CNN's Wolf Blitzer, Paul Babeu naively suggested that the Republican candidates would agree with him that his personal life should not be infringed upon by the government. This is where the wave of cognitive dissonance presents an overwhelming tide. Either Babeu has no idea how aggressively far-right the modern Republican Party has become in the Age of Obama, or he has chosen willful ignorance, like too many openly gay Republicans.

Santorum made it clear there should be no public policy effort at the federal or state level to support, protect, or promote the interests of gay Americans. Mitt Romney has articulated his disappointment with President Obama's decision to repeal DADT, the antiquated U.S. military policy that excluded gays from serving openly. Romney went further by attacking Obama's directive to the Justice Department to cease defending DOMA, which allows states to ignore and disregard gay marriages that have been granted in another state or territory. Gingrich is equally static on the issue of gay marriage, despite currently being with his third wife, following two messy extramarital affairs and divorce. Ron Paul, hailed as the ambassador of libertarian idealism and freedom from government control, continues to spout the well-rehearsed line that marriage should be only "between one man and one woman." In what political universe is Paul Babeu living?

If love, family, God, and country are the central tenets of his faith and patriotism, then he appears sorely misguided. Today's GOP is as anti-gay as it is anti-abortion and anti-Obama. Babeu's insistence on supporting a political party forcefully opposed to issues that affect his personal happiness and govern his individual choice either reflects a deep-seated self-hatred and internalized homophobia or mirrors the broader hypocrisy of the modern Republican Party: namely, saying one thing but meaning another, using lies in defiance of facts, and promoting propaganda as a platform for political consciousness.

Babeu's opponent for the Congressional seat, Arizona State Senator Ron Gould, is now poised to gain more support in a relatively conservative district. Babeu, 43, had remained tacit on his public stance for gay rights, but following the revelation of his gay affair, he said, "I can be a supporter and get out and help articulate as we progress as a culture and a society." The logic behind such a statement is clearly flawed, as gay rights activists and organizations continue to work toward equality in civil rights, achieving real success from Washington to Maryland, California to New York. Babeu and his ilk remain trapped in a past that ignores progress, as if American culture and society has not already moved on beyond where the Republican mindset sits stunted. Countless European nations, and even South Africa, the former cradle of apartheid, have embraced gay rights. When will the so-called freedom-loving, compassionate conservatives in America come around to the idea? And why do gay Americans like Paul Babeu cling to GOP ideology and rhetoric that are specifically designed to deny people like him the fullness of an American dream and great American love story?

 

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Perhaps Paul Babeu, the Arizona sheriff and former Romney campaign manager, should spend more time studying the Republican Party's approach to gay rights. The former U.S. serviceman turned law enforce...
Perhaps Paul Babeu, the Arizona sheriff and former Romney campaign manager, should spend more time studying the Republican Party's approach to gay rights. The former U.S. serviceman turned law enforce...
 
 
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05:40 AM on 02/26/2012
Gay Republicans are perpetually trying to play a double game---working within a party that despises them and they are in denial over this contradiction. The fact that they support homophobic candidates and policies means that they have no one to blame but themselves for their third class status.

But hypocracy seems to be stock in trade in the Republican party---so one might argue that Log Cabin Republicans are just falling in line with a time honored GOP tactic.
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chatnuptime1
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05:50 PM on 02/25/2012
Why indeed? Lets see.
1. only a small percentage of GOP are hard headed religious fanatics.
2. Many are just sucking it up to the Corporate well moneyed for the sake of well money and power, and influence and havn't a religious bone in their body even if they say they do.
3. Most are not social conservative as they are fiscally conservative.
4. There are allot of fiscally conservatives that will hang on to the GOP even if their moal conservative values don't line up. They realize in the end the moral war was lost and its taking the religious side of the GOP a bit to long to assimulate that fact but eventually they will.
12:09 PM on 02/27/2012
Re: #1 - it sure seems like the vast majority of GOPers are hard headed religious fanatics.

You should take a look at the Gingrinch speaking at a church in Georgia thread, for more than ample proof.

#3 is just an outright falsehood. Three out of the 4 current 'contenders' signed the so-called "Marriage Pledge", and a vast majority of the frightwing are of one accord on that matter - or America would have had true Liberty and Justice for ALL a LONG, long time ago.
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Larry Motuz
More prayers, fewer preyers.
12:34 PM on 02/27/2012
[F]rightwing :: marvellous! Will use in future. Thank you.
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chatnuptime1
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07:45 PM on 02/27/2012
Oh lol I must not have made it clear I was not posting about #4 in terms of contenders but their electorate. The voting block.. As for the pledgers.. those are nifty tools that the GOP use to keep all their ducklings in line.. Like the Kotch pledge and the rove pledge to say "no" to taxes.
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Larry Motuz
More prayers, fewer preyers.
12:53 PM on 02/27/2012
I am uncertain what you mean by your last sentence that the 'moral war was lost'. Could you elaborate?

In my view, "Do not sin" is a personal :: not a political :: objective. Indeed, much of classical liberalism--especially its language of human rights and equality before and under the law--was and remains largely, though not totally, based on the political and legal principle of "Do no harm." And, further, the idea of "Do no harm" largely arose out of conflict with the authoritarian natures of governments based on "Do not sin" because that personal injunction was applied holus-bolus to limit the personal freedoms of just about everyone.

Perhaps the surprising support for Santorum is not indicative of 'hard headed religious fanatics", but I can see no other reason for his intemperate language than its appeal to those whom he believes are majority Republicans.
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07:39 PM on 02/27/2012
I am uncertain what you mean by your last sentence that the 'moral war was lost'. Could you elaborate?

I am uncertain what you mean by your last sentence that the 'moral war was lost'. Could you elaborate?

I am uncertain what you mean by your last sentence that the 'moral war was lost'. Could you elaborate?

I am uncertain what you mean by your last sentence that the 'moral war was lost'. Could you elaborate?
The War the christian right had waged to keep things like gay marriage and the sexual revolution of the 60's at bay and at least illegal for the most part as was the case for many decades before.
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07:40 PM on 02/27/2012
sorry about that.. technical errors in the response. It was not showing my typing at all so I thought it was doing anything. Huffpost and their glitches.
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BooBoo Bob
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08:36 AM on 02/24/2012
I'm not one to tell another person what to believe in or how they should vote but, for the life of me, I simply do not understand gay republicans. I simply do not get how they can't see that, at least in the current view of the party, they are not wanted and actively worked against. Fiscal and governmental conservativism is one thing but the party has gone way over the edge in terms of social issues and I don't see how a gay person can reconcile that on a personal or community level.
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Kenneth Alton
02:51 PM on 02/23/2012
If you listen to young Republicans, opposition to gay marriage within the GOP could well end up in the dustbin of history. The day could arrive that gays will not be an issue and find welcome as members of both parties. (I mean, who would have ever thought that Dick Cheney would be lobbying for marriage equality in Maryland?!) Until that day arrives, we're going to continue to see odd creatures like gay Republicans and homophobic Democrats.
01:10 PM on 02/23/2012
For years "gays" have been victimized by society and "themselves," experiencing self-hatred and distorted, low self esteem because of their sexual identity and the resultant and negative feedback of our crippled society. It seems to me that gay Republicans are just extending that tradition of self-hatred by supporting the last large segment of our society that hates with a focus on gay and any liberating ideas that serve to free individuals from the tyranny of Judeo-Christian nonsense.
12:11 PM on 02/23/2012
A creative slander of Ron Paul, Mr. Williams...

There is a distinct difference between personal choice and oath to an office.
* Dr. Paul doesn't condone heroin use as a personal choice, but defends the right of an individual to make their own decisions as part of his oath of office.
* Paul doesn't condone racism or bigotry, but defends the 1st Amendment rights of individuals of freedom of non-violent expression.
* Paul believes that marriage is between a man and a woman, but defends the law of private contracts between two willing parties.

Paul will never take heroin, become a bigot, nor marry a man -- but defends the individual's rights to make their own decisions. You can add examples of raw milk, marijuana, holistic medicine, etc...
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Carl Caroli
I just don't understand people
11:05 AM on 02/23/2012
Babeu and GOP gays are in denial about themselves and their party. They long to fit in and are willing to compromise themselves for acceptance into the club.
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scorpions5
Facts do not cease to exist when ignored.
10:41 AM on 02/23/2012
This is why many people have left the republican party. They are the party of anti-freedom, anti-liberty and anti-civil rights because they have put their religious views in front of the constitution. They think that religion will solve all the problems, including fiscal and social. Just ask Ricky Santorum, who commented on this during the debate. His solution to all our problems is having a family of two opposite genders, to get rid of the pill because it lets women be free to have sex before marriage. He blames the single mothers for the mess this country is in. My mother raised me as a single parent, I graduated high school with honors, I attended college and graduated with honors, I became a teacher for 35 years. I know that there are many women struggling out there as single moms because I taught their children. But I will tell you those children did well in school because they had a caring parent. The children that were problems came from a two parent home, opposite genders. It has nothing to do with single families, or gay parents, our problems have to do with how parents raise their kids.
10:33 AM on 02/23/2012
It's in the best interest of the nation to have at least 2 strong parties with meaningful exchange of ideology, differing sometimes, similar at others. It's too bad USA is getting away from this, with Republicans more and more getting reputation of narrowing ideas and obstruction. That being said, there can be such thing as a LGBT Republican who is for smaller government and the striving of the individual to take care of himself/herself without dependency and handouts. Didn't that used to be Repub. ideology? Seems to be going to the Libertarian route.
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demisfine
Often correct, NEVER right.
10:26 AM on 02/23/2012
The rules they want to enforce and implement are never meant to apply to they themselves.
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NavyRetiredInTexas
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10:23 AM on 02/23/2012
You talk about clinging to the Republican party. What about blacks blindly clinging to the Democrats that have a solid platform of enslaving blacks economically by putting as many as possible on welfare and food stamps.

You talk about "anti-Obama sentiment" by Republicans but if you read just about any post or comment on HuffPo you will see anti-Bush sentiment. What is the difference? Does looking in a mirror bother you much?
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chatnuptime1
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05:58 PM on 02/25/2012
Really lets see 38.8 Whites are on welfare today..
39.8 Blacks are on welfare today.
17.6 Hispanice are on welfare today.
2.4 Asians are on welfare today.
Now tell me between the one full percentage point difference then the other because of the unemployment insurance running out for the middle class white workers are not just one point behind Blacks. If the poor are not taken care of they will rise up in increasing crime. Social injustices and well you would start seeing things on tv here that you had seen on Tv for London. And a social shift would accure that would again drive racism thru the roof.
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08:46 AM on 02/23/2012
In a totally unofficial, man-in-the-street poll in today's Arizona Republic, 67% say Babeu will not win his election race for congress.
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05:59 PM on 02/25/2012
Thats ok by me.. Let a Dem win it.. all the better.
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Add In Canadia
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03:46 AM on 02/23/2012
The only way I can come up with a logical answer the question proposed here is simply this:

It's just like any abusive relationship; specifically the one in where the woman is in 'love' with the drunken and violent man. The woman is beaten up, gets black eyes, missing teeth and the like; and then as an apology the man buys the woman a box of chocolates or something and all is forgiven. At the same time the woman's sentiment in this relationship is "He's a wonderful man really, he just has a temper."

To anyone looking in at such a relationship we often question at how this woman could possibly stand by this horrible man's side despite all the abuse, at how she can excuse all the horrible things about him.

I can only suggest that gay Republicans are essentially 'cheap', a box of chocolates and all is forgiven.
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RepublicansAreFail
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01:13 AM on 02/23/2012
It's called "Self-Loathing". It's a phenomenon exclusively to the right-wing.
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10:25 AM on 02/23/2012
Interesting micro bio. If facts were actually unbiased than liberals/progressives wouldn't be around very long.
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12:55 AM on 02/24/2012
Republicans lie because their ideology cannot fit with reality.
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10:39 PM on 02/22/2012
This gay marriage thing pops up every couple years. I see it as a distraction. It always seems to happen around election time.
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Mikeygr
09:59 AM on 02/23/2012
If your civil rights were being denied, I think you would not see it as a mere "distraction".