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Fat Betty Draper: Why Do We Care So Much?

Posted: 04/ 2/2012 4:10 pm

"Well, with middle-aged women, it gets easier to put it on and harder to take it off." At the ripe not-so-old age of 34, Betty (Draper) Francis is sitting in her doctor's office facing two of her worst nightmares -- she's "old" and "fat."

Last night's episode of "Mad Men" brought Betty back into the spotlight after she was noticeably left out of the season premiere. And though her storyline included a cancer scare and an almost-touching phone call with ex-husband Don, all anyone could talk about -- including Betty herself -- was her very noticeable weight gain. The opening sequence starkly contrasted Betty struggling to get into her party clothes and ultimately faking sick to get out of going to an event, with the thinner and younger Megan, who had no trouble at all getting zipped into her mod mini-dress for a meeting with Don and a Heinz executive. The aspirational Betty Draper that every fashion blogger felt compelled to write about during the show's first few seasons is officially a thing of the past. Just as Don is facing the prospect of getting older and therefore irrelevant, so too is former-model Betty.

Betty's fear of permanently losing her lithe figure is compounded by a visit from her mother-in-law, Pauline. The elder Mrs. Francis tells Betty that she has a wifely duty to lose the weight in order to keep her husband attracted to her. "Honey, I know how it happens. You get comfortable and you give up a little bit, and then it just gets out of control," Pauline, a larger woman herself, tells Betty. Then she advises her daughter-in-law, "There are things you can do about this, there are pills you can take."

Henry, Betty's politician husband, to his credit, never once shames her for her changing looks. I can't say the same for "Mad Men" viewers, many of whom appear to see Betty's weight gain as a reason in and of itself to dislike her. (Personally, I find her generally cold and selfish demeanor to be a far more compelling one.)

Viewers' reactions to seeing January Jones in a fat suit, on top of the weight she has gained from her real-life pregnancy, ranged from supportive ("@erin gee: I'm so into fat betty #madmen"), to joking ("@neitherandboth Betty doesn't have cancer (TFG!) she's just fat #whitegirlproblemsof1960") to outright disgust. Unfortunately, there was a lot of the latter:

As Sady Doyle pointed out on Twitter, making Betty gain weight was a great way to tap into her anxieties about aging and "losing her looks," which she's so heavily traded on in the past. Julia Roberts' character in the recently released "Mirror Mirror," also grappled with these concerns, as do many women entering middle age. Unfortunately, Betty's extra pounds also awakened those anxieties -- and an explicit animosity toward overweight people -- among "Mad Men" viewers. Since the episode, two Fat Betty Francis-themed Twitter accounts that have popped up, as well as a meme that includes lines like "I got 99 problems, but one fat ex-wife."

Betty has been an unlikeable and unsympathetic character for a while now, but when audiences conflate a distaste for her personality with a distaste for her larger body, it says more about them than it does about her.

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09:44 PM on 04/21/2012
betty draper--after living a glamorous life as a model in italy (she speaks italian) falling in love with don seemed to her to be the fairy tale going forward. I see Betty's character as a quietly depressed woman-- looking after the children,peeling potatoes, sleeping with her husband who leaves in the middle of the night to sleep with someone else.. She tried therapy which her husband snooped on, she wanted to go back to being a model and got pregnant. Betty reminds me of the Kate Winslett character in Revolutionary Rd. Desperate and not caring what happens to her.
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05:38 PM on 04/04/2012
Betty is thinner than most of the viewers, true?
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rlj13
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12:16 PM on 04/04/2012
Well noticed! There is a lot of animosity for any female imperfections in TV or movies, way more than in real life.
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LeeLoPink
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10:19 AM on 04/04/2012
Ummmm, people have been bashing January Jones/Betty Draper since the very begining of Mad Men.

I happen to like JJ, but it seems like most people do not - regardless of her weight.
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01:07 AM on 04/04/2012
The warning to young women isn't to not get fat, it is to not allow the your looks to be the only thing about you that you find value in. We all will get older, fatter, or just plain less good looking in the end, it is unavoidable. But we don't need to let it destroy our self esteem or keep us in our rooms feeling lousy and missing out on life. If you don't let your beauty or lack of it define you, then you are better able to connect with others and your own needs. You don't want to wake up one day with a lump and realize you spent so much wasted time worrying about how you look to others that you forgot to live for yourself. I think people dislike Betty because she so often represents the road less traveled. I think we can all relate to(project onto others) that.
Bianca S
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11:38 PM on 04/03/2012
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08:11 PM on 04/03/2012
Wait one second. Why do people hate Betty Draper? Why? Because she became numb to life? Wouldn't you if you had a husband who was such a loser? I mean, if you take away Don's handsome demeanor, what does he have left? There's something wrong when we judge women more harshly than men.
11:41 PM on 04/03/2012
He's freaking brilliant - and he doesn't hit his kids.
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rlj13
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12:17 PM on 04/04/2012
He cheated on Betty every single episode. And I don't think not hitting your kids exactly qualifies you for the husband / father of the year award.
10:12 PM on 04/22/2012
Don is a brilliant creative director and a good, caring father. Betty is a horrible person.
02:03 AM on 05/14/2012
oh, shut up! maybe u r of don's character in ur life! how can anybody not like betty???
05:48 PM on 04/03/2012
I can't believe modern women are actually saying those things about Betty; granted she's a fictional character, but "seeing [her] makes me want to starve myself"??? Really? Have some compassion; I like this story line and am curious to see how Betty's weight gain affects her dynamic with those around her.
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03:44 PM on 04/03/2012
Betty and Megan are the same. Two educated women who want/ed to be included and important in Don's life. Don just got to them at different stages and that's why he interacts with them differently. It's like Juan Peron and his 1st wife, Eva wanted to be vice president to Argentina and he refused but gave it to his 2nd wife.
12:05 PM on 04/03/2012
Keeping in mind that I have not sympathised very much with Betty for years, I actually found her far more sympathetic in the last episode than she has been in years. While Betty is now overweight and obviously depressed, she also seems calmer and a bit nicer to people. I honestly don't know why people have noticed her weight gain, but ignored the fact that she seems as if she at least a little more at peace with others, if not herself!
11:58 AM on 04/03/2012
Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like she lied to Henry about the nodule being benign. I'm probably reading too much into it. That said, I think she's such a complicated character, like Don, I find myself liking/not liking her depending on the episode. This last episode I liked her. However, my distaste for Megan is consistent. I can't figure out if it's because she's young or just because I suspect she's putting on quite the act. The first episode this season, her friend tells Don Megan is quite the actress, and I think we are going to see that play out.
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05:23 PM on 04/03/2012
I concur. The Surprise Party showed Megan craving for and enjoying everyone's attention especially when she sang. Megan wants to be in commercials, on the stage or in the movies. I think Megan is using Don Draper to introduce her to someone with more power and wealth - then she will leave Don cold.
11:50 PM on 04/03/2012
Megan's just smart, get over it. There have been moments of true kindness, compassion, patience - etc - is she ambitious? yes, and she told Don that right from the get-go. If you understand french, you can hear the way she speaks to her parents. She's open-minded, has great taste, enjoys her friends, and as young as she seems, she already had a life before she met Don. She was a waitress who made a lot of tips as well. She gets people - she's a lot like Don. And she likes it on top. I think she's a wonderful character, and brave in marvelous ways, and again, she's smart.
08:38 AM on 04/04/2012
I guess we will have to see how it plays out. One thing I love about the show is that you see each character's dark side. Waiting for Meg's to pop up.
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11:48 AM on 04/03/2012
Eating disorder is being handled in an interesting way: did no one else catch Megan refusing breakfast as Don cooked for the kids last week? "Just black coffee for me." This week Sally won't finish her ice cream. What kid doesn't finish her ice cream?
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11:15 AM on 04/03/2012
As usual, January Jones gives a fascinating portrayal of Betty. I think this weight gain and the cancer scare will ultimately cause a change for the good, and January will pull it off just right. We've seen the beginning of a positive change even in this episode.
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11:01 AM on 04/03/2012
I once had higher hopes for Betty and her character's evolution. I liked when she took charge of the situation, when their neighbor made angry threats toward the Draper's pet dog after it went after his pigeons, which frightened Sally. It was very un June Cleaver of Betty to not wait until Ward/ Don came home to handle it, and take matters into her own hands with a gun, and cooly start aiming at the man's birds with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, as they flew over her yard.
I thought that it displayed some maternal fiber and depth brewing beneath the petulant, fragile blonde surface, and that there would be more of these sparks of independence being ignited by her frustrations-still hoping it is not too late. Perhaps losing her father had Betty regress and turn to Henry, after Don continued to pull away? Old habits dying hard. Maybe she will start to grow up this season. I find that the trio of Peggy, Joan and Betty possess the most potential and intriguing character arcs -the women the Men made Mad. But Betty's seems the most inconsistent-did some circumstance force them to change horses in mid stream or has this always been an intentionally slow evolution with the occasional setbacks?
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09:05 AM on 04/03/2012
I feel her weight gain had to do with an upcoming addiction to diet pills. Plus I felt her phone call to Don outshines her weight gain... Why do you feed into the whole weight issue and have it be YOUR focal point, it wasn't mine. Why don't we talk about Megan on the verge of going crazy on Don.