You miss him and you want him back.
There’s just one problem:
You’ve been so lovesick that it looks like you’ve been shot out of a cannon…
… directly into a brick wall.
Your mood is in the dumps, you look like a hot mess, and you don’t have the first idea how to win him back without appearing desperate.
Here’s how to get your Ex back without losing your dignity:
I know exactly what it’s like to wallow in self pity, eating enough ice cream to put Ben and Jerry’s grand kid’s through law school.
Getting back in the saddle is much easier than you might think… as long as you follow some very specific steps.
P.S.– A sure fire way to win back any man is by firing his emotional attraction triggers. That’s just what my Emotional Attraction Formula is all about. You can find out more here.
Summary –
1. Don’t try to get your Ex back.
Now hear me out on this… don’t try to get your Ex back right now, because if you’re constantly pursuing him you will lose all of your power. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t do anything… just yet.
You need to show discipline and give him some space so he can take in everything. Even if he’s hitting you up, show a bit of self control before responding to his texts. Right now is not about convincing him to come back to you, it’s about him making the decision on his own to want to be with you again.
2. Create an attractive new lifestyle.
I know it’s really difficult when a relationship ends, but that’s exactly why it’s time to focus on yourself and build the lifestyle you really want. Build your confidence back up, socialize, make new friends, pick up a cool new hobby, join a Meetup group, or take a trip. Do whatever you need to get yourself back out there.
Altering your environment can change your perspective, and help you realize what really matters. Plus, surrounding yourself with people who continuously work to improve can go along way.
Take this time to redefine YOU. If you go back to him with a disheveled life, then nothing will have changed or improved. He’s not going to want to stick around for that.
3. Accept the fact that you may never get your Ex back.
Don’t return to your Ex out of desperation! If you frantically give him whatever he wants, then you’re not being true and honest with yourself.
Yes, you want him back and you’re willing to change and improve, but are you willing to lower your own value and dignity just to get him back. Heck NO!
If you decide that you’re ready to get your Ex back, you should also be exploring other options. If you feel that it’s too early to go on a date with someone else, then it’s too early to fully re-engage with your Ex.
On the other hand, if you’re ready to go out with someone else… go for it! Get a taste of what else is out there. You may find you begin to second-guess if you want to get back with your Ex.
4. Reflect on the reasons why the relationship ended.
Do you have fundamentally different values?Are you compatible?Were you happy in the relationship or just comfortable?
These are hard questions to ask yourself and even more difficult to answer. But if you don’t face it, bad history may repeat itself.
5. Contact your Ex when you’re in a healthy mindset.
Please note, this final step is only after completing the first four steps. By doing this, he will be reminded of what a powerful, sexy, and confident woman you are.
Don’t jump in with over the top expressions of love. Instead, reach out on the lighter side and share a fond memory you shared together. Or tell him you’re craving your favorite takeout food. Bring him back to the positive times you had and let him reminisce about the great person you are.
If you do contact him and he doesn’t want to get back together, then it’s simply not the time for you two. Let him live in the regret that he didn’t get back together with you, while you go off and create an incredible life without him.
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