Do you ever get moments in your life when you feel extremely lost and confused, when you start doubting everything that you're doing, wondering whether it's right, whether it's even what you want, and you just want someone to give you the right solution so you can move forward and feel positive again?
But then when you talk to friends and family about your situation (although they mean well and give you the best advice they would give themselves), their solutions don't seem to fit your situation at all?
I went through one of these moments just last week, after my mom and brother left back to Canada. I turned out to be the black sheep of my family, returning to our home country, Romania, after living in Canada for more than 20 years. I also turned out to be the black sheep of my circle of friends, jumping into the unknown world of entrepreneurship, although I had a successful corporate career that I had worked long and hard to achieve. After my family left, I started to miss the familiarity of the life I used to have in Canada, because having them here reminded me of it so much. I spent a full day crying, wondering what the hell I am doing, living far away from my family and the developed country where I grew up, opting to face the unknown, the challenges of a developing country and entrepreneurship, all at the same time?
Crying helps get things off our chests, but it doesn't exactly provide solutions...
So I turned to the old technique that always helped me find the right solutions, make peace with myself, and move on positively whenever I faced difficult moments in my life (I first started using it in high school). It's as simple as: A pen and a lot of pieces of paper, writing all those creepy thoughts down, slowly detaching from them, as if they were not your own, and then writing advice back to yourself, as if you were giving it to someone else.
It really helps to see your thoughts on paper, because you allow yourself to separate them from your emotions, and then you can really analyze your situation clearly and provide yourself with the best solutions for your situation.
Doing this helped me put things in perspective, remember why I chose to leave Canada for now to explore different countries, why I chose to leave the comfort of working for someone else to build my own business, etc. Suddenly, I didn't feel sorry for myself anymore, because I remembered how lucky I am to now live the dreams that I had a few years ago. It's easy to sometimes forget how much we once wanted what we have today... So now I'm back on my feet, grateful for this journey and pumped with ideas and new projects that I'm excited to start working on.
The moral behind this story is that we'll always find the best solutions within ourselves. We just need to find the most effective way to get there when things tend to get blurry within our heads.
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Consuela Dezso is a Career & Happiness Coach, Business Strategist, and Speaker dedicated to empowering professional women who thrive for a meaningful work-life to embrace who they are, share their individuality with the world, and attain happiness and abundance from it. She holds an MBA in Business Strategy and a Coaching Certification, but most importantly, a passion for "bringing out the best in others."
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