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Greeting Cards for the Laid-Off

Posted: 11/16/11 02:55 PM ET

Last week my boss instructed me to get "good-luck" cards for two co-workers being laid off. We had all been pretending it wasn't happening, but this was it for me: I was charged with selecting "the right card" for two young women who had gained employment with the agency two years ago, fresh out of college and full of passion, but were now looking at unemployment checks, cobra, and moving back in with their parents.

I started my uneasy and perplexing mission in the greeting card aisle of the closest supermarket. There were two cards in the "good-luck" category. The first featured a dancing teddy-bear and falling four-leaf clovers. "Hope everything goes really well for you," it read. The other, was "from all of us" -- a bunch of goofy-looking dogs -- and expressed congratulations for an unspecified achievement. I should have offered to bake a cake instead, I thought.

Inevitably, I ended up at the local Hallmark store. A blank-card type myself, and to avoid sorting through the overwhelming, ever-growing choice of collections and occasions, I asked the attendant if she might point me to "good-luck" cards. She started us out in the "congratulations" category. "I'm afraid that's not going to work. Unfortunately, we're saying good-bye to two co-workers who are being laid off," I said. She turned quickly around, and asked, "How's Obama working out for the country now?"

The remark was so unexpected and out of place, I barely had time to react. Was I in the "blame somebody" section? "Obama has nothing to do with it," I said, and thanked her for her help. She was off mumbling, "He has everything to do with it!"

I walked right past the "congratulations," "good-luck" and "job loss" categories, and made my selection from the "encouragement" section instead.

I later drove home blaming myself for my weak answer. But today I think it was the right answer, on several levels. The attendant's conduct -- in her place of employment and directed at a customer -- was simply inappropriate, and did not deserve engagement. My reply was a literal and true rejection of her remark. Obama has nothing to do with my co-workers' job loss. They are losing their jobs, and the agency is losing their program, because of changes and cuts to New York State's Medicaid funding. And whether or not the state had a choice, or made the best possible choice, Obama is not exactly the greatest proponent of cuts to the so-called entitlement programs such as Medicaid.

This morning, before we had cake and cards for my departing co-workers, I had the opportunity of speaking to them in private. One is recently engaged; the other carrying on the responsibility of a parent's mortgage. They had a very difficult and often risky job; they did it well, and were even passionate about it. But, suddenly jobless, they blamed no one. They worried about the vulnerable clients they were leaving, and whether the state would find an alternative way to take care for their needs. They hoped to find jobs once they had a little more time to look more diligently. But they blamed no one.

 
 
 
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CSKAP
Morlock or Eloi?
10:35 AM on 11/17/2011
Republicans “The Government can’t create jobs, only the private sector can”. (Before you agree, you might check the defense industry)
Republicans “President Obama, where are the jobs?”
So they complain that he has not created the jobs they have said he can’t create.
10:20 AM on 11/17/2011
I have been laid off three times in eight years. It is nothing less than gut wrenching when you try to figure out your next move and realize that every year of experience I have the more expensive I become. As a teacher with eight years of experience and a Masters Degree, I can pretty much assume that I won't be hired anywhere because of how much I will cost now. That being said, if you are a co-worker that fortunately gets to keep your job please don't skirt around the issue of the job loss. Ignoring it just makes it worse for the person who has lost their job. We don't need you talking about it every day, but acknowledge that it happened, offer to keep your eyes and ears open and BE SUPPORTIVE. This is a tough time for millions of Americans and ignoring it doesn't help. I think that it is nice that they were having a small get together for the ladies that lost their jobs. Most places make you pack up your personal stuff and leave immediately without being able to say good-bye to friends/co-workers. Who cares who bought the card, the ladies won't know and as long as everyone was able to sign it they will feel supported by their former place of employment.
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Robert SF
05:16 AM on 11/17/2011
See, this is the kind of story that makes me want to punch everyone in the face.

This isn't the fifties. What kind of pointy-hair boss is sooooo important that they can't be troubled to pick up a couple of cards for the people THEY are laying off?

And how can it not be Obama? Who else is President? Oh, of course, he didn't personally break the economy. But his guilt lies in his reaction and how he's handled the situation. He's handled it so poorly that many people are talking about not voting for him again.
07:11 AM on 11/17/2011
The Alternative is What?
THE GOP group of candidates from the House of Horrors?
Obama has some faults it is true.
He is not as blatantly Liberal and reformist as we hoped.
Nobody could right the inheritance of disaster he got.
Not in a short time anyway.
He has an obstuctionist group in Congress as well.
Yes,the boss could have gotten the cards.
They are a nice touch I guess.
They could have been laid off by phone or Email.
I bet that happens everyday.
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TokyoTea
09:22 AM on 11/17/2011
Obama was the one pushing hard for cuts in Medicaid?
06:47 PM on 11/16/2011
I don't know which is worse -- that there's a greeting card section for laid-off co-workers or that a boss couldn't be bothered to find the cards personally and had to tell someone else to do it.
06:41 PM on 11/16/2011
Yes, people are blaming Obama when he is the only one working to create jobs. When I ask my Republican friends what THEY would do, their answer is always to give MORE TAX CUTS to wealthy people -- the same people who have NOT CREATED any jobs with all the billions of tax cuts they got over the last 10 years. Republicans are USELESS when it comes to job creation and helping Americans who have been fired. "If you can't find a job, it's YOUR fault," as Herman Cain says.
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Robert SF
05:18 AM on 11/17/2011
Yes, the Republicans are useless, but they don't hold the Presidency. Obama is the President. He may be "working to" create jobs, but he's not actually creating jobs. Do you understand the difference? It's not his intentions that count. It's his accomplishments.
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TokyoTea
09:24 AM on 11/17/2011
And he has to deal with Republican obstruction. He can't do it all by himself. Do you understand the difference?
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Comicoffee
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06:05 PM on 11/17/2011
He's President, not King. He can't create jobs programs by decree-it has to clear Congress first, and guess who's voting down everything he proposes?
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MyOwnPerson172
Progressive because I have a brain and a heart.
04:30 PM on 11/17/2011
The Republicans at all levels are working to stifle the economy and paint Obama as the reason it is stifled. The CBO says that deregulation won't increase jobs. Tax cuts do not create jobs either. Taxes are paid only on profits, the money that already wasn't spent to create jobs.
04:24 PM on 11/16/2011
An unfortunate position for everyone to be in... these reactions simply highlight the difference between those with internal and external locus of control. Best of luck to those hard workers.