Make Your New Year's Resolutions Stick with Three Steps in Thirty Days
It's January 1st, and the party's over. The holiday binge expires, the hangover wares off, and we're left without excuses for gluttonous behavior. Consequently, we turn to the resolution bandwagon. New Years is traditionally considered to be the perfect time to create change. Unfortunately, real change rarely lasts.
Making change stick requires more than eight-minute abs, Nicorette gum or the South Beach Diet. True change doesn't allow for shortcuts. It calls for willingness, commitment and ~ing! Your ~ing is your inner guide, your inspiration, your intuition. It's the loving voice in the back of your mind that keeps you connected to an infinite source of positivity.
You might be thinking, "If everyone has ~ing, then where's mine been hiding?" It's actually not hiding at all. Your ~ing lives inside you and never expires. You've just been unable to receive it. What's blocked you from ~ing's presence is fear, negative thought, resentment and self-destructive behavior. In order to clear these blocks, follow my fun, three-step process designed to help you clear up the darker areas of life and create permanent change.
I'll guide you through a process I've dubbed The ~ing Equation: Rethinking + Moving + Receiving x 30 days = Changing. The ~ing Equation is a 30-day repetition of physical activity, deliberate positive affirmations, and creative visualization. This will bulldoze negative thought patterns and create positive change so you can move forward and live an awesome life. The beauty of the ~ing Equation is that you can apply it to any life challenge.
Below are the step-by-step ingstructions to the ~ing Equation:
Step One: Rethinking
The process of rethinking is all about retelling your story. The unhealed areas of your life are the ego's playground for nasty thoughts (the ego is the voice of fear.) In order to change these patterns, you will actively replace your negative thoughts with loving ideas. These loving ideas are called "affirmations." The process of rethinking allows you to turn every negative thought into a positive one by choosing to change your mind. For instance, if your fearful thoughts repeat, "I'm off balance and anxious," reverse it and recite the affirmation, "I am calm and balanced." Each conscious decision to change your mind takes you one step closer to reconditioning your brain and changing your life.
Step Two: Rethinking + Moving
In step two of the ~ing Equation, you add Moving. By layering your affirmations with physical activities you will shift the way your body responds to your mind. The ego's negative stories from the past live deeper than your thoughts; they inhabit your mind and body. This step matches up specific physical activities with the different areas of life to allow you to create these changes. For example, if you need to let go of an old fearful belief, you can use dancing to move it through you. Or if your life is off-balance, I suggest jumping on a trampoline. However, there are many activities that apply to different issues and the ~ing Equation is not limited to my suggestions. If you have a certain interest in a specific activity that you dig, then by all means ~ing with it. The key is to find activities that guide you to release and empower you to change. Bring your new affirmation into your physical activity. This is when the energy of your mind and body flow together. You'll receive a wonderful endorphin charged kinda feeling very much like the one you might have experienced after a great run.
Step Three: Receiving
The final step of the ~ing Equation is Receiving. This step is focused on meditating, to clear space in your mind and hear the voice of your inner guide. When your mind is clear you can receive truthful thoughts, inspiring ideas and honor your intuition. If you're a meditation virgin, I've made it super-easy for you. All you have to do is download my guided meditations off of iTunes, and allow me to guide you. Alternatively, simply turn on some of your favorite mellow music in the background (preferably without lyrics.) We're going to go on a journey through your subconscious brain. This step is to allow you to let go of your left brain's practicality and welcome your right brain's intuition and creativity. The intuitive right brain says stuff like, "You don't like your job, so it's time to start following your passion." Or, "You're ready to let go of that old pattern of X, Y or Z." Meditation is a great way to allow your right brain to speak up and be heard. Thanks to the physical and mental work of steps one and two, thoughts that were in the way have been silenced allowing you to hear your inner guide. The meditation in step three is crucial because it is an opportunity for you to slow down enough to receive guidance from within.
The key element in the Equation is Repeating. It's this thirty-day repetition that will allow you to truly make your desired change stick. Indeed, neurobiological studies show that thirty days of repeating new behavior reprograms your brain by reversing neural pathways. It's this reversal that changes your patterns and behaviors, and therefore your life.
If you're inspired to create permanent change test-drive the ~ing Equation for the next thirty-days. To further your ~ing transformation you can pick up a copy of my new book ADD MORE ~ing TO YOUR LIFE - A Hip Guide to Happiness.
Follow Gabrielle Bernstein on Twitter: www.twitter.com/gabbybernstein