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What Is Your Life About?

Posted: 07/13/09 07:43 AM ET

We are all afraid of death. Yet when we meet this fear and clearly face the reality of our personal end, we have a supreme opportunity to discover what our lives are being lived for. When we don't flinch from the reality of death, then the inevitability of our end serves to focus our attention on what is truly important to us. Death becomes the ally rather than the enemy that haunts us.

Take a few moments to imagine you are in the last hours of your lifetime, and look back over your life. What has it honestly, essentially been about so far?

From the perspective of the end, why in fact has it been important to you to survive? If you made or didn't make a name for yourself, when the last hours are here, what was your life really about? When all possibilities for success and fame, failure and disgrace are finished, what is your life really about?

These questions are relevant for you now, before you are in the last hours of your lifetime. If we wait until the end of our lives to ask the most important questions of our lives, we waste our precious gift of time. A gift that is over too soon anyway.

When we are willing to meet our own death, we gain strength and resolve to live our lives in ways that support what is truly, finally important to us. We decide how our lives will be used, and what they will contribute to. We stop obeying others' notions of what should be important to us and find out for ourselves what is important.

The responsibility that results from discovering what you want your life to stand for is not burdensome. It is light with the spaciousness of freedom. A free life is free no matter what the apparent constraints may be, and these questions can be asked whatever your particular circumstances are in this very moment.

If you want your life to be a beacon of love, where do you find that love?
If you want your life to be an avocation of peace, how do you live?
If you want to know the Truth, what can stop you?

What do you want your life to be about from this moment on?
What supports that?

Gangaji is holding meetings and retreats this summer in Amsterdam, Copenhagen, Berlin, Baden-Baden, London, Dublin, and Dorset. Read more about Gangaji's events and catalog of books and videos online.


 
 
 

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04:21 PM on 07/20/2009
Thank you, dearest, most beautiful Gangaji. I am so excited to see how things will unfold in 'my' life from now on. Today, the first day after the retreat, I am seeing everyone in the local town with love - no difference. And there are no boundaries. I went and stood on the harbour wall and looked out to sea - and I am that ocean... No words are adequate.
08:42 AM on 07/18/2009
Rumi:

Dissolver of sugar, dissolve me,
if this is the time.
Do it gently with the touch of a hand, or a look.
Every morning I wait at
dawn. That's when it's happened before.
Or do it suddenly like an execution. How else can I
get ready for death!
.
04:08 PM on 07/15/2009
I recently found this quote from Rumi. This is what my life has been and is for. "We come spinning out of nothingness, scattering stars like dust." You are my love, my heart.
11:18 AM on 07/15/2009
In her Elegy to Michael Jackson, Maya Angelou's poem says, "Beloveds, now we know that we know nothing, now that our bright and shining star can slip away from our fingertips like a puff of summer wind....No oceans can rush our tides with the abrupt absence of our treasure. Though we are many, each of us is achingly alone, piercingly alone."

In the face of your own death, you are achingly alone, piercingly alone. And in 'unflinchingly' meeting this silent gaping void a rare opportunity arises, as you say, '...to focus our attention on what is truly important,' and deeply inquire into, "When all possibilities for success and fame, failure and disgrace are finished, what is your life really about?"

Perhaps in this fleeting moment of inquiry, you can see, really see, beyond all notions of meaning, that your life is the flowing perfection of something so pristine, so indescribable, so vast, it renders it immaterial whether you are aware or not of this silent perfection. And in seeing beyond all concepts of 'success and fame, failure and disgrace,' you can discover for yourself a deep an abiding fulfillment.

No oceans can rush your tides, when you know, transcending all knowledge, that your treasure can never be lost and that regardless of what you did or didn't do in life your treasure is always Here.

In That you can piercingly see, achingly see, that you are never alone! Wow!

Love to you...
Jill
12:28 PM on 07/15/2009
Thought that we are alone is just a thought that we are separate individual beings.
Let go of that thought and experience that we are never alone, never separate.
11:15 AM on 07/17/2009
Alone and 'never alone' are both thoughts. Too easily we can dismiss the experience of being separate from each other with spiritual ideas of oneness, perhaps to avoid the fear of our own death--the infinite paradox that you are both form as well as formless. In the Heart of Hearts all is welcome--paradox or no paradox, thoughts or no thoughts, alone or never alone, death or eternal life--and in This welcoming of everything true freedom is Always Here. : )
09:17 AM on 07/16/2009
Jill,
So beautifully said! Thank you. :o)
11:30 AM on 07/17/2009
Hi Barbara...thank you...and your comment below speaks my heart as one heart ; )

Love to you...
Jill
09:00 AM on 07/15/2009
"we stop obeying others' notions of what should be important to us"
These words are so valuable. As social animals we tend to reference our behavior according to what we think is appropriate and acceptable. That is valid in many situations but when it comes to what Really matters there is absolutely no reference possible. In my experience there is the invitation to even and maybe especially give up what we ourselves Imagine to be important. We all have ideas, subtle and gross, of what will bring us fulfillment. In giving up All ideas, all notions, generated inside or outside of us, the possibility is to open to what is Already Here. Good News, very Good News.
It is the unexpected, unearned absolutely unlimited silent Love and Intelligence of my own Being that Matters to me, now and at the hour of my death. Come what may.....
11:29 AM on 07/15/2009
What may will come, regardless of our opinion of what form it should take. The illusion comes from the false notion of control over the may (Reality, God). Regardless of a label we use, any experience of Reality, in any form is a blessing.
We can not open, if we are afraid. We can not be free, if we are not open.
How are we able to Love, if we are not free? We can't.
03:23 PM on 07/14/2009
I love this, thank you so much. These questions are VERY important!
I do want my life to be a beacon of freedom and love.
I do want to live peacefully and for that to be what is transmitted through my everyday actions and choices.
I know this is possible because it is true in my life. I consciously choose to love, to live for loving, and to receive the blessings that are offered every day - and they are bountifully offered in the very fiber of life itself!
Look as if you will find it - Because it is here, it is! It is actually who we are. And there is support for this life of love - all around.
Look for it, it is here, truly, really, right now!
02:32 PM on 07/13/2009
I would have to say freedom, peace, and truth.
To accept, that we don't know anything, we only think that we do. ;))
Just because we think or believe something to be so, doesn't mean it is the truth.
To stop inventing our own Reality, our own Dream!
No matter how good the bullshit may sound, it is still the bullshit. Bullshit still stinks and draws flies.
To be free - to let go of all attachments, including all opinions, thoughts, concepts, and believes. To let go of the past and all struggle, resistance, fears, wants, and desires. We can never possess anything anyway - nothing can belong to us. Nothing!
Simply stop trying to be and you are free! ;))
05:18 PM on 07/14/2009
Amen, mbeyder. We only think we know anything, and the tricky part of that is to express that is to say it like we know it, but we don't know anything. It goes round and round -- it's the difficulty of language. Gangaji lives in that space of not knowing (or at least it seems she does), and her languaging is about as close to being right there as any I've heard.
09:08 AM on 07/15/2009
I agree, Miles. In a world gripped by blind faith and unquestioned thoughts, emotions, pretence, roles people pretend to play to get what we think we want, Gangaji is a breath of fresh air, Love, Freedom, Joy. To hear, one only has to listen.