Don't look now, but while marriage equality has been spreading across the country, homophobic lawmakers have found a sneaky new way to chip away at civil rights. And not just gay and lesbian civil rights -- EVERYONE'S civil rights.
Let's start with the first page, which begins with the instructions, "Let's start with an easy one: Are you a guy or a girl?" Wait, what? Do movies buffer differently for guys and girls? Do women need their tech advice given in a pretty pink font?!
I'm a butch lesbian, and, as long as I can remember, I have had my gender mistaken on a daily basis. These incidents range from being called "sir" to being chased out of restrooms and locker rooms by security guards to anti-queer and anti-trans harassment on the street
As the final Supreme Court showdown approaches, lingering resistance to marriage equality centers on the claim that affirming the freedom to marry for all Americans would somehow constitute an attack on religious liberty. Once and for all: Nonsense. Double nonsense.
This whole gay lifestyle thing sounds so decadent and hedonistic and sinful, like a two thousand calorie dessert and here I am gay and living my boring little life, paying my children's college bills, remaining faithfully married to my husband and taking out the trash. Clearly, I have missed out.
Sadly, LGBT kids are more likely to be thrown out of their birth homes or to be removed from them as a result of abuse or neglect.
The first time I learned that gender could be fluid was in sex ed in the 9th grade. I remember the teacher mumbling under her breath that some people don't identify their gender with the biological sex they were born with.
While some people will remain opposed to same-sex couples getting married -- just as a dwindling handful still oppose interracial marriage -- every sign exists that marriage will go away as a political issue. Most conservatives, even dedicated culture warriors, will simply move on. The marriage issue isn't going to turn into a replay of the abortion issue.
Eventually, even Louisiana politicians will figure out that the story of LGBT people in Louisiana is like the story of the Upstairs Lounge, itself: uncomfortable, suppressed for too long, but always there, ready to be heard, and never going away.
Let me try to explain why what you said was not an innocuous sound byte, but rather an offensive statement. First, I do not have a lifestyle. I didn't choose my sexuality the same way you didn't choose yours. Second, being gay is not what defines me.
Remembering Deshawnda means remembering all of her -- not just parts and pieces. Her life was a testament to authenticity. We all have a responsibility to safeguard her dignity after death, even if it wasn't always respected during life.
Being a two-dad family, it was a little annoying to see yet one more thing that made us feel invisible. However, we were still jumping through hoops to complete our adoption, and advocating in our home state to legalize same-sex marriage. We had more important battles to wage.
3. Since 2013, Violet has been part of the "Village Queens." This artsy, ragtag group of drag queens come from Mary's, the dirty gay hipster bar in the East Atlanta Village. These girls are known for their highly creative, dumpster diving, bewitching drag numbers.
Second, Tovey isn't just "proud to be masculine," as I've seen some trolls insisting. It isn't "just the way he is" or "who he wants to be." Tovey places a positive moral value on being masculine, and negative value on gay male effeminacy.
Understandably, this has caused fear and dismay among transgender people around the country. We all have to use the bathroom, but these laws would seemingly force transgender people to choose between fines and jail, risking horrific violence or leaving the state.
The Rev. Malcolm Boyd died last week at the age of 91. Accolades began popping up, but many do not know how Boyd shaped a generation of seekers in the 1960s to understand that unless Christianity was about justice and inclusion, it was just blowing smoke.
We appreciate that the New York Times has a style guide, like every media outlet. A style guide, much like the law itself, is meant to guide its subjects toward action that benefits the collective over the individual.
Discrimination in any form does not come from a loving God, or a loving person. Discrimination occurs when people travel the path of fear. This path is not freeing, it is confining. It hurts both internally and externally. I know this from the decades of hiding my own truth and living in shame and fear of discovery.
I was the very embodiment of everything our society worries could go wrong with a little boy, and in my small Midwestern town in the early '80s, I was every father's nightmare awoken and menacingly mincing my way through our local mall's food court.