In her latest blog at the A.V. Club, Cameron Esposito says that little gay kids push the boundaries of gender on Halloween out of a necessity and a sense of survival. While I may not have recognized it at the time, or at least attached a label to it, I was one of those little gay kids who, as she says, felt something "off about heteronormative culture" and used the holiday to protest it.
Apparently it sucks to be a black gay guy. At least that is what "Stevie" over at gayguys.com claims in his post "20 Reasons It Sucks To Be A Gay Black Man." I am over articles like this one, which measures our worth as gay men by white men's standards.
That's when it hit me. All those future Halloweens. I never considered I might not be around for those. Was this the first and last time I would take Clark trick-or-treating? Was this the only costume I would ever see him in?
I returned from the Southern Baptist Convention's Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission convinced that it's only a matter of time before the SBC changes how it relates to the LGBT community. The question is whether that change will be a gentler spin on "love the sinner, hate the sin," a softer rhetoric toward some and a harsher one toward others, or the beginning of a deeper journey toward understanding.
I'm still on the frontline: this time for my school. After a long battle to end the oppressive "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy in the military, I wanted to restart my life.
The thought behind the outcry being that marriage has always been the exact same institution ever since the dawn of time or at least since the dawn of the Bible. Same-sex marriage, it is argued, is a radical departure from this unbroken tradition. But does the Bible actually present "marriage as an unchanging picture?"
Fox News helped turn a bogus story about subpoenas sent to a handful of Houston pastors into a national rallying cry for religious liberty. Now the network is helping promote an event that will pit some of the country's most extreme anti-LGBT voices against the city's nondiscrimination ordinance.
If you're a black man, it doesn't matter how many degrees you hold. It doesn't matter how much money you make. It doesn't matter where you live or what kind of car you drive; to some you're still a n*****, and that is the cold, hard truth about the world we live in today, and it's what my parents had to teach me growing up. I don't experience this with my identity as a gay man.
My journey began as a student at Monmouth College, now Monmouth University, where my psychology professor taught me that homosexuality was a serious mental illness.
In my entire 40 years, I've never once been high or intoxicated. Still, an AA program would serve me well. Approval Anonymous. A support group that could help eliminate my need to be accepted by other people and direct me toward the sense of self that I am just beginning to claim after decades of living inauthentically.
I have seen a shift in the dialogue regarding LGBT equality, with leaders increasingly examining the business implications of how companies align internal diversity policies with external marketing and public policy advocacy.
It strikes me that he would be pissed and proud that I wrote this post. He may have had a good life, but I mourn the fact that he was never really free. I feel the echo of his frustration and rage, and the ferocity of his commitment and love. I am haunted by him still.
Sure, we've grown accustomed to celebrities coming out, some with great fanfare. But businesspeople? It's a rarity. Big businesspeople like Tim Cook? Hardly ever at all. In fact, just a short time ago, BP CEO John Browne resigned for fear of being "outed." That was 2007. My, how times have changed!
The queer saints gather to break bread together, to keep Sabbath, to pray, to watch and witness, to hope, believing in the Beloved Community of unconditional grace that we have not yet seen in fullness -- only in a glass darkly in our queer koinonia. This is true love for God, without self-interest, with nothing left to gain.
Apple has an impressively large and well-organized segment of out employees -- most of the major tech companies do, in fact -- and I bet they are all walking a bit taller and prouder today. We have a long way to achieve that level playing field, but that "sunlit path toward justice" Tim refers to just got much, much brighter.
It's been a pleasure to contribute to the civil-rights debate, and I've enjoyed the feedback I've received. I realize my analysis is one of many, and the debate has helped me refine my understanding. It has helped when the debate is civil, which it often is not, and that leads me to today's post.
Our queer ancestors, the ones who fought at Stonewall and marched on Washington and were arrested and beaten and murdered for their queerness, weren't battling so that we could be like everyone else. We have never been just like everyone else and I hope we never are.
The way I see it, the world is an intensely scary place right now. You can keep your American Horror Story gets-ups and your bloody severed corpses -- I have enough drama in my life. I just want to pour myself a glass of some oddly colored punch, binge on Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, and stare at some pecs and ass.
For a company like Apple to stand at the forefront of diversity and equality issues as well as embracing a prominent gay CEO sends a message to businesses that to succeed, you need to embrace diversity and equality. Tim Cook has instantly made himself a role model for countless gay youth who can now point to a successful openly gay businessman and say, "I can do it too."