It would have been one thing if he was suddenly putting himself forward as the poster-child for the dangers of oral sex, which aren't currently part of the health class curriculum. Instead, he did the opposite, minimizing this detail with the horrid summary statement of "it's that easy."
When I was 20, away at college full of hope and terror, I confronted the fact that if I revealed too much about my real life, my stepfather's sexual and physical abuse, or my deep attraction to other young women, I could lose the life I was trying to build.
If I'm judgmental of you, just because of how you breathe and who you are, that anger will consume me and I can't be myself. When folk hate or reject LGBT people, it affects the person who is doing the hating.
The shock of this revelation was many-fold: AIDS was considered to be a gay disease, and here was the fantasy he-man -- a likable, non-threatening Hollywood action figure, admired by men and lusted after by women, proclaiming that he was gay.
For a long time institutional Catholic Church leaders, knowingly or not, have fostered an atmosphere of secrecy and denial in dealing with LGBT people and issues. This environment affects more than clergy.
Spandex grannies with perfect manicures, jeans-wearing gents in blazers and hot Jersey girls in tight dresses had some interesting company at the Borgata casino in Atlantic City the last weekend of September.
It's time for Facebook to finally step up and make a change, or admit that it's not truly interested in building a social network that champions diversity, safety, and creative expression. And if that's the case, it's time for us as users to walk away and build something new.
We arrived and it was clear -- by the bold signage on the street-facing windows -- that we'd be surrounded by Picassos, Basquiats and Warhols for the evening, not to mention a lively mix of queer downtown nightclub celebrities, veteran rock stars and young artists dreaming of gracing the surrounding walls one day.
My five-year-old daughter loves to tell people this. Whether we're at the local pride festival or standing in line at the community pool. We have matching rainbow dresses, after all. Still, it took me a while to get used to -- and I'm not the only one.
There were the good days, the great days of being dad, when nothing else in the world mattered at all -- not the future, not my career, not my underlying dysphoria. There were days when there was the feeling of being trapped, and I wondered whether happiness for me was an illusion that would never see the light of day.
The pope, according to the Vatican's clarification, knew little of the particulars of her story. It appears it was not a private meeting to endorse her. A Vatican spokesman even described it as not "a real audience" -- quite an insult to Davis -- unlike some of the pope's other meetings.
Recognizing the trans community's own efforts towards its liberation is critical, and the culture within the LGBT population can be changed for the better by ceasing to cast trans women as sidekicks to the gay leads.
The Vatican allowed Kim Davis to dominate the message and prompt reaction from LGBT Catholics groups that no longer jibes with what they are saying really happened. Private meeting? I doubt he even knew who she was.
We are heirs of what I call "LGBT America's heroic legacy," the acts and words of men and women who chose to stand up for their humanity, integrity, and fully equal American citizenship -- rather than accept the shame and silence they were told was their lot in life for being "different."
Please, Pope. Just be honest with us. Who are you to judge? You have answered your own question -- You are one to judge. Your definition of freedom is radically different than mine. You have thrown a crumb, but people are still starving.
I talked with Jennifer Finney Boylan, the first best-selling transgender author in the U.S. whose writings, teachings and activism have significantly illuminated and articulated the transgender experience.
I've written about how millennials are leaving organized religion and its associated anti-LGBT animus in droves. As an atheist and as an LGBT activist, this seems like a good thing. The faster conservative religion is overwhelmingly seen as mean, crazy, violent, hateful, misogynistic and anti-science, the faster we as a society can move on.
When I say living in Texas makes me feel threatened, I'm talking about things like keeping relationships and job security. I've developed friendships with people under the assumption that they were seemingly open to liberal ideas only to be smacked in the face.
The alarming thing - for those who live the church and know its social and institutional fabric - is the cynical and unscrupulous attempt to exploit the person of the pope in order to score a point in favor of the ideological opponents of the pope