In truth, we don't need studies to tell us that a self-esteem deficit clearly exists in our society. Just talk to any teenager, or small child for that matter, and ask them if there is something that they feel critical of in themselves. The answers are sure to shock you.
The good news is, anyone has the ability to turn a tough exterior into a strong mindset. Just like physical strength requires ongoing training, mental strength requires regular exercise that will help you improve and grow stronger.
You no longer become eager to see what others do and want to change their attitudes and actions. This significantly reduces your burnout and frustration. You become refueled from within.
What makes people assume that I want to settle down and start a family right away? My boyfriend of six years isn't being asked when he's proposing to me, so why am I being questioned?
The person you fall in love with should enhance your life. He or she is supposed to make you smile more than you frown. They ought to make you feel great about yourself. They should fascinate you, amaze you and of course, make you very, very happy.
We all have awareness and a sense of what we want in life. We already know what feels right and is the right direction for each of us toward our own happiness. So listen to your soul's GPS and seize upon your moment!
Intentions feel more gentle, more allowing. They allow me a broader framework to continue my evolution and development in a way that feels natural. Unlike goals, intentions allow me the permission to take my time. Intentions allow me to fail and try again.
I have been challenged in countless ways during this season of healing, and yet the greatest obstacle of all has been waiting.
I spent years believing I was so introverted that I could only "handle" small doses of people, even the people I loved most. I would get exhausted if I spent time with people two or three times a week.
You don't need to be perfect to be worthwhile, and you don't need to completely self-sufficient to cope with stress. In order to experience true connection, we must need and be needed, give and receive. Over, and over again.
Narrowing your focus is a mental model that you can apply whenever you want to start a new behavior or take on a new project that seems too big or overwhelming or complex to handle. It is a filter you can run larger problems through to approach issues from a more useful place.
We all fear that we are not enough, and if that is the case, we won't be loved. But through an understanding of our experiences, we can come to the realization that these fears simply aren't true and that we have so much power within to create a life we want and deserve.
I understood in that moment for the first time the weight of the responsibility I was taking on my shoulders... on my heart... by becoming a doctor. The pain of losing that patient was overwhelming and the sorrow from the failed miracle was so immense it could drown me.
This is what we do to ourselves. We get caught in the fear of what's around the corner and get frozen. But if we'd simply trust and take those first few steps, we would realize there is nothing to fear except the tricks our minds play on us!
The greatest gift people who don't approve of us give us is a more defined idea of who we are and who we choose to be. If we start changing who we are to gain approval, we lose ourselves.