Needing sanctuary doesn't imply that we should isolate from people. On the contrary, to be emotionally healthy and make sound choices, we need connection to others. We need to feel love, so that we may feel both more calm and yet emboldened to be more honest or courageous.
Perhaps there's no greater freedom than to live life with a healthy relationship with death. That healthy relationship allows you embracing each moment, realizing that we are not promised tomorrow. This good relationship with death has been given to me by the funeral profession.
When opportunity comes along, ask yourself if it will allow you to spend more or less time inside your living circle. Don't go outside your living circle any more than you have to. Every minute spent outside your living circle is a minute of your life that you've lost forever.
When someone you love leaves the planet, you are no longer quite the same person. Wishing to return to your old self is an exercise in defeat. Instead, recognize that you are growing into a new self. This new self will integrate love, loss and change. Life is always about change and integration.
The Third Metric was just the reminder I needed that I have all the tools I need to navigate my way through the good and bad days every life has. So now when asked about my hopes and dreams for the future I respond: a good job, a happy family and the wisdom to know when to stop.
Most of the time, we don't want tension. When conflict is used intentionally and faced directly, the result is deeper partnerships or friendships or more of the love we all crave.
Stress alone doesn't makes you a better, stronger person. What makes you resilient is the way in which you shift and strengthen your response to the stress around you.
We all get to choose what we do with that time and how we feel about what we did with that time at the end of each day. Meditation can help you enjoy the moments a bit more, but only living life to its fullest can bring you the true joy we all crave.
Success is a state of mind and being content with your true self and not identifying success by what an individual owns, but by their internal awareness.
One person might say, "I am laying bricks," a second might say, "I am building a wall," and a third might say, "I am creating a cathedral." All three share the same day-to-day labor, it is the perspective that differs.
Our hardiness, grit, adaptability, and perspective are some of the ways we can use these unwanted circumstances as an opportunity to help us fulfill our goals. A great example of a person who turned his circumstance into opportunity is Woody Roseland.
To me, laughter is a non-sexual orgasm. My mind, body and spirit are tickled, sending waves of euphoria that reverberate throughout me. All that is negative is converted into positive waves of light and love. I greatly value the healing and connecting properties of laughter.
Compassion is listening and truly hearing what another has to say. It is a conscious pausing and a slowing down to see and feel the person beside us -- to notice that they are just like us and that they count.
When we become still through meditation, we realize that everything we do has value, that every moment we're breathing is a miracle. And if we can carry even a little bit of that truth with us out of our meditation and into our day, we'll be so much more content and happy.
I also see a worrisome trend afoot. Increasingly, mindfulness is being equated with stress reduction or learning how to center under pressure to enhance performance. This is cause for alarm. The intention of mindfulness is not to make us more "chill" with the insanities and inanities of our post-modern lives.
Similar to love, emotional intimacy is a profound mystery, which will not be penetrated. It is a daring undertaking, calling for an earnest commitment to continue learning about who we are and what our relationships are asking for.