What I know about my own personal relationship to the screen in my pocket is that I grew dependent, not on the access to information or the potential for connection, but to the very empty promise of validation. I chose to use my various accounts as a chance to display and impress.
A weight has been lifted -- one I never knew I was carrying. My legs cry in pain every time I move, but my heart is lighter. The Boston Marathon hurt me last year. But that same great race made me stronger and gave me back my finish line. And with it, a new PR of 3:42:34.
Mastering the precious commodity of time is not as much about the organization of time, but rather, it's much more powerfully about the attitude you hold about yourself and how this attitude affects every happening in your life.
Sitting in meetings, or just talking to people outside of them, I'd hear stuff that some could say was were nearly cliché-like in its simplicity but it made so much sense that I couldn't help repeating it to nearly everyone I came into contact with.
Emotional health will never just be a school age or adolescent issue; the preparation and teaching starts as early as birth and continues throughout our whole lives. But until there is more nationwide focus on the matter, what can we do now to start fixing this?
Your spouse is growing distant. You're terrified of losing your job. Your teenager is driving you insane. On the inside, you're falling apart. But from the outside, no one would ever know.
Everyone needs to reset their physical and mental vantage point every so often for a fresh outlook. It doesn't have to be a full-blown move or change; it can be a small adjustment. If you don't like the picture, reframe it. If things become too burdensome, take time to stop, clear and reset.
A pause doesn't have to be a vacation or a physical change of scenery. It can be a daily routine that you create and allow yourself to just "be." Try not to overthink anything, and remember you are just there, being.
This one change has made conversations immediately livelier, deeper, and less awkward.
We often think that we want an open road and the ability to choose any direction for ourselves. But sometimes, what we need is a tunnel that can reduce our choices and send us in a focused direction.
We are all going to die. Our parents are going to die. There is nothing any of us can do to stop that. So if you truly love someone, help that person find the most happiness they can during their time on this plane of existence, even if that shortens it slightly. I'd rather have five good years than eight lousy ones.
Since my new book Thrive is concerned with many of the same questions, I asked Tolle about the series, why this is a conversation we as a society need to have now, and the moment he knew he needed to change his life. Here's our conversation.
Recent research indicates that most American workers report not using all the paid vacation days they are given. What is a frequent reason given? That people are too busy at work. I'm sorry, but isn't being too swamped at work the whole reason these vacation days are needed?
When faced with the loss of one so precious and so dear, as in the loss of a child, the challenge is to find the beauty in the sorrow. It is there to be certain, but one must empower one's eyes, heart, mind and soul to see it.
I now know that everything I want is already within me. I also know that success is within every one of us and that until we own and embrace the truth within us, we will restlessly search for fulfillment for the rest of our lives.
I've realized that life really is about what we choose to make it. Ultimately, we have more power than we fully realize or appreciate, and the responsibility is only on us to take ownership of that power and to determine the trajectory we desire to be cruising along.