it feels like here, this summer, as I fall asleep ever night in my childhood bed in my pink room with the lace curtains and the hum of the crickets outside, I am merging my two lives. And it's beautiful and challenging and emotional and wildly funny at times.
Remember that many of life's miracles often do not happen quickly; they require patience. Illnesses and wounds heal best with patience. Life often reveals its mysteries with patience. Difficult problems sometimes solve themselves with patience. We grow into healthy, functioning adults with patience.
Only when I started to practice yoga and meditation by myself was I ļ¬rst introduced to the master, the true healer within me. I didn't ļ¬nd it in therapy sessions but in the silence within
Sometimes in life we become someone we never imagined possible or that we never knew we were, even though we have always been that person from the very day we were created.
When we let go of regrets we open up space within our being. This space then has the opportunity to bring creative endeavors into our lives. The present moment becomes realized as we release ourselves from the chains of the past.
Examine what holding patterns you may be settling for. Tell yourself the truth and examine the options. When two people are making skillful relationship choices, there is no limit to where things can go.
You are good enough this very moment to be loved and accepted and healed. Believing this is a matter of deciding to adopt the healthy response to mistakes and failings -- to forgive, be kind and helpful. When you do, you decide you don't need to do anything else to be OK.
My own search for a daily spiritual practice that doesn't shrink from reality but offers a link to the best in life and spirit has led me to create a simple prayer to center my days.
When we approach everything with kindness, it all gets a little easier to bear -- the good, the bad and ugly.
This is the inspiring lesson of Beethoven's Opus 131: It mirrors the nonstop demand of life to have us make music of what we're given, not knowing what will happen. Inevitably, having to play seven movements without pause, the instruments will go out of tune.
There are, I think, two dilemmas that complicate the reconciliation of wanting what we have and having what we want. Let's refer to them as the "night on call" conundrum and the "wrinkle in time" fallacy.
If you listen to the contents of your internal dialogue, it is often a running description of the experience that you are actually living now. That is to say, you are continually telling yourself the story of your life, even though you are the one supposedly living it.
Forgiveness applies to all the big as well as all the small wrongs you experience -- whether real or imagined. Doing it on a regular basis frees up your energy again and gets you back on track.
As a psychotherapist and coach, I'm in the unique position to hear from both men and women what they hate and love about online dating. I hear about red flags, things that work, and things that freak people out.
Every one of us has the exact same power within to transform our lives at any moment. Each of us has available every single day the exact same magic formula.
Life changes when you make it okay to fail. To me, the only true failure is not making an effort toward what brings you joy, and the only way you can do this is by making it okay to fail.
Tony Endelman, 2013.18.06