Whether it's a job, a friendship, a relationship, a SHIRT, you can't force something that just isn't right. You can -- and you will -- be persistent about making what you want happen, but don't force anything.
Over the last few years I have learned about mindfulness and added to my knowledge of brain health. Knowing more in these two areas has helped me slow down and, in essence, accomplish more.
Perhaps "surviving cancer" doesn't sound as exciting and rousing as "beating cancer," but the latter implies that those who've died lost. Like they did something wrong.
I swear if scientists removed the top of my head right now and took a look at my brain, there would be a deep groove worn in it from having thought the same self-defeating thoughts over and over (and over) again.
If the norm for thoughtfulness now comes in a package of 140 characters or less, then so be it. Yet, let us never underestimate the power of our words in this new age of brevity. There are no shorter or easier ways to say 'I love you.'
Keep your palms open to the sky, Nice Girl.
Just like the teams that make families in catalogs look just a little too perfect. Just like Photoshop. It's all an illusion. I don't think we are better off. Not even close. It's lonelier. It's isolating. And without a major shift in the way our world works today, I have no idea how to change it.
I started to think about what we say in the therapy world about meeting clients where they are at. I think that is important for us to do for ourselves too. On that random Thursday I met myself where I was at.
Writing has allowed me to find myself when I found myself looking for answers. But most importantly, like Anne Frank, it allows me to build courage consistently to pursue my dream. I hope you will take the time to find your voice using your writing as your guide post.
One of the reasons so many relationships don't last is that we confuse "falling in love" -- the temporary, emotional, hormone-infused high -- with the act and art of loving, the sacred work of relationship.
I was a little over a year sober when I really started the dating thing. I was confident with my sobriety, the person I was becoming, and thought for the first time in years that I may actually have something positive to offer to a relationship. But why was dating so uncomfortable?
The not doing that some call "procrastination" is universally steeped in shame and guilt and treats this incubation period like it should be included in the list of deadly sins next to greed and murder.
There is something that you can do even in these situations where the person doesn't really tell you how you can help them. It is one of these hidden reasons that we may not always think of or realize unless we choose to really sit back and focus on the big picture.
How often have you met someone new and been won over by their charm? Or maybe you have a friend who always seems to get his or her needs met through you, yet always manages to find a way to make you feel special. Although these scenarios can be taken at face value, they can also be indicative of someone's narcissism at play. Although a small dose of narcissism can actually be healthy, there's a very fine line between what is normal and what is pathological.
There are times that we encounter fearful and obsessive thoughts that can be difficult to manage. For some people, the more they try to get rid of the thoughts, the stronger the thoughts become and the more difficult they become to manage.
It's easy to feel like we, as adults, are the teachers and it is our job to share everything that we know and have learned with the youth of today. It's funny how sometimes, the things we have "learned" are the same things that hold us back in our lives.