More

Featuring fresh takes and real-time analysis from HuffPost's signature lineup of contributors
Gretchen Rubin

GET UPDATES FROM Gretchen Rubin
 

How Can I Help You With Your Happiness Project?

Posted: 02/15/09 11:02 AM ET

I'm working on my Happiness Project, and you could have one, too! Everyone's project will look different, but it's the rare person who can't benefit. Join in -- no need to catch up, just jump in right now. Each Friday's post will help you think about your own happiness project.

Because of the big boost in happiness I've gained from my happiness project, one of my main goals in life is to try to convince other people to do happiness projects of their own. I've become a real happiness evangelist (at times, I suspect, a tiresome evangelist), and I'm always trying to think of new ways to coax people into trying various strategies.

People often email me to let me know that they've decided to start their own happiness projects; in fact, there are many blogs chronicling people's progress.

What I do to help other people with their happiness projects? Every Friday, I post a resolution that I've tried and found helpful, for other people to consider: Make Your Bed, Don't Perform Random Acts of Kindness, Enter into the Spirit of the Season, Abandon Your Self-Control.

I also email my Resolutions Chart to anyone who wants to see my resolutions for inspiration as they devise their own. (Just email me at grubin "at" symbol gretchenrubin dot com. Sorry about writing it in that roundabout way; I'm trying to thwart spammers. Just write "Resolutions Chart" in the subject line.)

In a month or so, I'm going to do the beta-launch of my fabulous new website of eight happiness-project tools, called (straightforwardly enough), the Happiness Project Toolbox. More on that in future weeks.

But what else could I be doing? Although Friday is usually the day I propose a resolution, today instead I'm following one of my most useful resolutions, to "Ask for help."

Help me, tell me: how could I do a better job of encouraging other people with their happiness projects? -nudge them to start a project; propose ideas for strategies to try; inspire them to stay motivated; connect like-minded people with each other.

I'm going to post this question from time to time. I'd love to hear any ideas, and at this point, I'd be particularly interested to hear suggestions about how to use Facebook effectively. I have Friends on Facebook, and there's a Happiness Project Group (that's how I met my lovely blogland friend Jackie Danicki; she suggested that I sent it up), and there's a Gretchen Rubin Page.

I don't have a good sense of how best to harness these tools, however. I love Facebook, but I use it in an extremely basic way.

If you're a Facebook user, what would be useful for you? What would you like to see happening there?

Feel free to post a comment below, or if you'd prefer, email me directly at grubin "at" symbol gretchenrubin dot com.

 
 
 

Follow Gretchen Rubin on Twitter: www.twitter.com/gretchenrubin

I'm working on my Happiness Project, and you could have one, too! Everyone's project will look different, but it's the rare person who can't benefit. Join in -- no need to catch up, just jump in right...
I'm working on my Happiness Project, and you could have one, too! Everyone's project will look different, but it's the rare person who can't benefit. Join in -- no need to catch up, just jump in right...
 
 
  • Comments
  • 4
  • Pending Comments
  • 0
  • View FAQ
Comments are closed for this entry
View All
Bloggers
Recency  | 
Popularity
photo
HUFFPOST BLOGGER
Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
03:22 PM on 02/16/2009
nice, honest piece. I think Facebook could use a little instruction manual as well for those of us not on there a hundred hours a day!

Looking forward to seeing more of your work.
Cheers
kari
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
brandnewstuff
03:01 PM on 02/16/2009
Happiness is a state of mind- What you tell yourself or be influenced- I chose my own thoughts and path- having babies in the family is happiness
12:17 AM on 02/16/2009
Why "don't perform random acts of kindness?" I suggest that this blogger read the wonderfully inspiring random acts of kindness described in the column of that name on this website.
12:09 PM on 02/15/2009
Remember, one of the noble truths of the Buddha is that suffering comes from desire, so you should not desire happiness for that will only lead to greater unhappiness. However, there are efforts that can be made to improve upon or increase one's feeling of contentment. For example, I have a technique for replacing unhappy memories and frustrations from the past with good ones. Over the past several years, I have re-read (some many times) the books that I read in junior high school and high school English literature and English themes class. Many of these books were associated in my memory with the trying times of adolescence. And so, I re-read these books when I am feeling happy and use those feelings to overwrite the fading, distant "bad" memories. This also has the added benefit of having a sense of accomplishment. When I re-read the books now in middle age I have a much better appreciation and understanding of the material than when I was younger. Conversely, I will read a book that is associated with past happy memories when I feel down. Then I use the previous happy memory to overcome the present low mood.