Is It Possible to Try Too Hard?

07/10/2012 07:45 am ET | Updated Sep 09, 2012

We've heard it so many times that by now it certainly must be true: "If it didn't work out the first time, try harder." We're told that we'll get nowhere without taking action. That we can meditate all we want, but our action is what will actually make things happen.

However, we must ask: If taking action is always the answer, why do so many of our actions have unintended consequences? Why do our actions often result in frustration?

The Infinite Range of Possibilities

Whatever it is that we are looking to achieve in life requires some sort of action to be taken. You may have tried some things, or maybe many things, and overall the results may not be close to what you expected, and certainly far from what you want. So what actions should we take?

The honest answer is this: There are far too many possibilities, and there is no way your conscious mind can analyze all of them and come up with the right thing to do. Sifting through billions of possibilities and deciding what the best action to take is, and in exactly what manner, is simply not your conscious mind's role. Instead, it's the role of your subconscious mind. When you hear someone say, "You have to let go," it doesn't mean you should give up, but rather allow your subconscious to direct you to where you need to be.

It is assumed that successful people are in control of their business, relationship, health, etc., when in actuality, they only appear to be in control. If they are human, then over 95 percent of their daily lives are in the hands of their subconscious. For example, you could examine someone who runs a small business. They may really want success, but the subconscious might not allow it. The successful business owner's subconscious, guided by the owner's core beliefs, is what truly allows the business to be successful.

Taking Action: A Three-Sided Coin

Most people speak about the concept of "taking action" as if it only has two sides: action and non-action. There is another side that needs attention and has to do with the source of the action. Physically, your action might look the same: You may still move your mouth, use your voice, grasp with your hands, and move with your feet as you go from place to place. The difference is what drives the action... where the action originated.

The origin might be a place of anxiety. For example: "My business is not doing as well as I expected, I must act now!" Yes, this thought will result in action, but when anxiety is what drives you, you're more likely to mess things up even more.

Another type of action comes more from the subconscious mind... those actions that happen through you. For example, take driving: Most of us only have to imagine ourselves somewhere, and our subconscious takes over. It gets us dressed, in the car, through the gas station, and performs the millions of muscle movements needed to navigate us physically to where we need to go. All you did was imagined yourself somewhere, and the subconscious did the rest. Hasn't that happened to all of us before? All we did was visualize ourselves somewhere, and before we know it, we have arrived. The subconscious was at work. An amazing feat was performed effortlessly.

We can be fully aware of the actions, yet we do not control them.

You can choose to take no action at all, you can act through struggle, or you can simply allow actions to flow through you. Allow and be aware as your subconscious uses your body to move forward, and before long you will be achieving amazing things.

What Drives Our Subconscious Actions

You may ask what the difference is between your subconscious easily and successfully performing a variety of complicated tasks for you, and other things just don't seem to work out despite trying. The answer is your core beliefs. Think about it: Through experience, you learned that driving is an easy task. When thinking getting ready to drive somewhere, you offer no resistance. However, when you think about things that you find difficult, it's a different story.

Here's an exercise: Entertain the thought, "I can easily create a million-dollar business." Then observe the barrage of follow-up assaults coming from your ego. They'll probably include thoughts like, "No, I can't," "I don't know how," "I need a degree for that," or "I already tried and failed." Those thoughts don't reflect reality, only your own self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs cause resistance that in turn tells your subconscious that you cannot be successful. This happens in all areas of life, including business, love, health, and fitness.

Stop Trying, Start Achieving

You know that your subconscious controls your life most of the time, and that it's much more powerful than your conscious mind. Don't fight it. Trying the same things again and again is not the answer. Instead, what you must do is get your subconscious on your side! You can achieve this with my VOLT system:

  • Visualize -- Visualize how you want your life to be, how you want to feel, and what the end result looks like. Use strong, positive affirmations regularly.
  • Observe -- Observe as your ego reacts. Allow negative thoughts to pass through you. Remember: they are only thoughts, not reality.
  • Let go -- Let go of the need to control your physical actions. Instead, allow your subconscious to take action through you.
  • Trust -- Trust that while real change doesn't happen overnight, you are on the right track to achievement.

Love. Allow. Be.

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