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Ann Romney and Working Moms

Posted: 04/11/2012 11:15 pm

My Twitter feed was on fire after an appearance last night on CNN's AC360, where I said that I thought it was wrong for Mitt Romney to be using his wife as his guide to women's economic struggles when she "had never worked a day in her life." Oh my, you should read the tweets and the hate mail I got after that. The accusations were flying. I don't know what it means to be a mom (I have 2 children). I obviously don't value the work that a mother does and how hard it is (the hardest job I have ever had); and I absolutely hate anyone who doesn't have the same views as I do (hate is a strong word).

Spare me the faux anger from the right who view the issue of women's rights and advancement as a way to score political points. When it comes to supporting policies that would actually help women, their silence has been deafening. I don't need lectures from the RNC on supporting women and fighting to increase opportunities for women; I've been doing it my whole career. If they want to attack me and distract the public's attention away from their nominee's woeful record, it just demonstrates how much they just don't get it.

My favorite tweet was from someone who said that Republicans like Ann Romney so much more than Mitt that by attacking her (which I didn't), I got people to defend him in a way they never would.

That last one I can actually understand.

Now let's be clear on one thing. I have no judgements about women who work outside the home vs. women who work in the home raising a family. I admire women who can stay home and raise their kids full-time. I even envy them sometimes. It is a wonderful luxury to have the choice. But let's stipulate that it is NOT a choice that most women have in America today.

Why does this even matter? It matters purely because Mitt Romney put the issue of his wife's views squarely on the table.

As Ruth Marcus noted in her column yesterday in the Washington Post, Romney, when asked last week about the gender gap, twice said he wished his wife could take the question.

"My wife has the occasion, as you know, to campaign on her own and also with me," Romney told newspaper editors, "and she reports to me regularly that the issue women care about most is the economy."

So it begs the question, is Ann Romney Mitt's touchstone for women who are struggling economically or not? Nothing in Ann Romney's history as we have heard it -- hardworking mom she may have been -- leads me to believe that Mitt has chosen the right expert to get feedback on this problem he professes to be so concerned about.

I have nothing against Ann Romney. She seems like a nice lady who has raised nice boys, struggled with illness, and handles its long-term effects with grace and dignity. I admire her grit in talking about her illness publicly.

What is more important to me and 57% of current women voters is her husband saying he supports women's economic issue because they are the only issues that matter to us and then he fails on even those.

Let's put aside for a moment his views on women's health issues -- such as his pledge to repeal funding for Planned Parenthood or repeal title X -- which provides important health services for poor women, and true anecdotes (such as when he was a Bishop in his church, he actually went to a congregant's hospital room and told a young single mother who had just given birth that she was shaming the church and should give her baby away). Let's put those issues of respect and health dignity away.

Let's just focus on his economic record on behalf of women. When Romney ran Bain Capital, less than 10% of the senior workforce were women. And he said in his 1994 Senate race that it was because he had trouble finding qualified women to be executives. Is there a woman alive who believes that? I personally believe that women hate the way our health issues were made a political football by the Republicans in the last several months. But I am pragmatic enough to believe that the economic issues do matter greatly to women and men alike. But the only way that Mitt Romney will succeed in closing the wide gender gap between him and President Obama is if he stops pretending that it doesn't exist.

 

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PhDcommonsense
05:00 PM on 04/29/2012
Hiliary I loved the way you and Rachel handled Alex and whoever the Republican Rep was. Also Hiliary, I think what you said about Ann Romney was correct. I think all of the Democrats over reacted to your comments.

There were Accurate and True. I don't think it was a put down of Ann.

You were BRILLIANT IN YOUR COMMENTS on Meet the Press This Morning.
02:31 PM on 04/29/2012
Rosen's comments were not disrespectful or dismissive of the importance of raising children by stay at home mothers. As she clearly repeats in this posting for those who did not listen to what she said and the context in which she said it. Ann Romney is not a suitable source of advice to her husband about the way women in this country are impacted by this economy. She has lived an economically privileged life for her entire adult life. That life has virtually nothing to do with the lives of the women in this country, except for others who are members of her country clubs. That is the point Rosen made and it was crystal clear at the time. This is a made up story being used by Republicans to try to hide their War on Women, in which the Mittster is now a general.
11:10 AM on 04/29/2012
The most important job, is parenting, NOT a stay at home mom. Stay at home moms need to get over themselves and realize that many women are capable of being a great mom and hold down a job. I salute those mom's who work and care for their children. I am tired of hearing what a hard job the stay at home mom encounters...I wonder how many stay at home moms have cleaning services, maids, and a nanny.
01:24 AM on 04/18/2012
One thing I find irritating in this entire discussion is that if a couple makes the decision to have one of them stay at home with the kids they must be wealthy, like the Romneys. After we had our second child, it just seemed silly to spend so much on daycare for two kids and have strangers raise our kids. So we got by on my wages as a Registered Nurse, while me wife stayed at home with the kids. It was amazing how condescending people were to my wife as a stay-at-home-mom...Like she checked out her brains and education at the door because she stayed at home with our kids. Our kids are smart, intelligent, and well-adjusted-in no small part to the great job my wife did by being a stay at home mom. People like Rosen remind me of the women who spoke down to my wife because she decided she wanted to be a parent first..only the most important job in society.
12:10 AM on 04/19/2012
look, I am pretty sure Hilary was not directing a personal attack towards women who stay home and take care of their children. However, I am sure that she was just posing a simple question; is Ann qualified for the high stool her husband placed her upon? I am pretty sure that it is well within the means of Romney's campaign to find someone far more suited for the position. I am sorry, but his wife's credentials offers no substantial evidence that she has knowledge of important concerns women face. Would you like a to have a doctor with no medical experience give you a check-up. If anything, you should notice how Mit has not made the best decisions on current concerns of women and note that Ann is responsible... In other words, given Mit's records, his wife should be fired.
04:16 AM on 04/27/2012
Wait, I'm confused. Did Hilary not say that Ann had "not worked a day in her life"? If she did (which I believe to be true), then that IS a personal attack on any parent who chooses to stay home with their kids. Why wouldn't she have any credentials on issues women face? Is she not a woman? Just because she might be financially better off than some of us does not mean she doesn't understand women's issuses. Give me a break.....
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nevadagirl
Socialist in high heels.
01:21 PM on 05/18/2012
Nobody was criticizing your choice. If they were, who cares? I am real tired of people acting as if they are victims of other people's opinions. If a woman decides to stay home or work, other people's opinions of it are just opinions. They are not hurting you.
04:52 PM on 04/17/2012
Perhaps if we had a family in the White House that understood the benefit of living within a budget like most stay at home mothers understand, instead of insisting that the wife needed to work also to support the family, our economy might be healthier. Talk about war on women!
02:46 PM on 04/17/2012
Please spare us Hillary. Everyone who knows you knows you were a stay at home mom for what a couple of years. In your case your partner was bringing home BIG BUCKS while you made P&J sandwiches.
But your ego was missing the accolades you get from the screaming feminist fans if yours. So now your family is blown apart, kids were shuffled around etc when you went back to work NOT FOR FIANANCIAL
REASONS.
Who are you to NOMINATE and determine who speaks for anyone else? I would listen to anyone before you and your giant ego.
02:17 PM on 04/17/2012
Ann Romney is the poster stay-at-homes Mom for the 1%
01:57 PM on 04/17/2012
What disturbs me the most about this is that we are referring to raising kids as a "job". Raising kids is a responsibility and a privilege that some do not get. At any rate, I agree with Ms. Rosen. all the conservatives are taking her words out of contest. They all know Ann Romney never filled out a W-4 and raising kids with a staff that cooks and cleans is not that hard. If fact, the finacial part is the hardest part about raising a child.
02:51 PM on 04/17/2012
Thank you. Well said. Hillary refers to it as a job. I doubt Ann R has considered it as anything but a sacred contribution..
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rosey7
12:59 PM on 04/16/2012
Answerman ny,

Answerman ny, No one "hates" Ann Romney. Simply being a woman does not make one automatically relate to another woman. That's just silly. I doubt Ann Romney has good friends living lives unlike her own. I could not have worked part time and raised my older 6 kids without help. I was fortunate to have it. However, Ann Romney's 21 million a year family income puts her in a category of the top 1% and other than giving birth- she has little in common with 99% of women. Ann Romney has never worried about paying bills, putting the best food on the table, nice clothing on their backs, health coverage, sending her sons to the very best schools and colleges just as her husband attended them on daddy's dollars. Their five sons have 100 million dollar trust funds while most women agonize over whether they can put their kids through a junior college or pay state college tuition. Ann Romney's life is one of great privilege. What makes her relatable to some women is her battle
with MS and breast cancer. However, most women do not have the ability to access the best medical care as she has. And that, sir, is just one of the many differences Ann Romney has in being part of the 1% of America's wealthiest families. No one hates her for it- but they do not believe she has any idea what most women's lives are like.
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robert9671
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08:06 PM on 04/16/2012
Agreed. Ann Romney has no idea what most women's lives are like.
04:19 PM on 04/17/2012
Being wealthy means you don't have to associate with those who are not.
11:00 AM on 04/16/2012
There is a certain irony in how Mrs. Romney is a survivor of breast cancer (kudos to her!), while her husband wants to defund Planned Parenthood...who happens to provide breast cancer screening for low income women.

This is such a faux controversy, it's sickening. If those attacking Ms Rosen would actually read the full context of her comments, it would be crystal clear that she meant that Mrs. Romney has never been forced to seek employment in order to make ends meet. She's never had to fight for maternity leave from work. She never had to fight for an equal wage (See: Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act...which her husband opposes). She never had to face the glass ceiling that all the women who worked at Bain Capital faced.

And when this "scandal" is juxtaposed with Mr. Romney's comments regarding how stay-at-home mom's need "the dignity of work", it is exposed for the rank hypocrisy that it is; an opportunistic political attack by the biggest flip flopper in American history.
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12:08 AM on 04/25/2012
Always refreshing to hear common sense - fanned and faved.
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chancefavors
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10:40 AM on 04/16/2012
Dear Democrats .. If you don't stop apologising (for breathing/existing) I am going to stop voting for you. Sincerely, C. Favors..
04:21 PM on 04/17/2012
Democrats want to be liked; Republicans want to be feared.
09:16 AM on 04/16/2012
I'm sorry that HR had to apologize. I understand what she was saying in that AR never held a job outside of her home, where she had to contend with the nonsense we sometimes have to deal with at work & having to stay a job we hate because we're thinking about our family. Then, you come home & work again by parenting, PTA meetings, homework, cooking, cleaning, be a wife, GF, etc. Also, since AR is part of the 1%; she likely had a lot of support from nannies, housekeepers, lawn service, cooks, etc. (although we can't see what went on in her home) in caring for her family. When I think of a stay at home mom, I see a woman who does everything - cares for the kids, cooks, cleans, manages the entire home, is exhausted at the end of the day but gets up everyday & starts it all over again with pride. The responsibilities for a stay at home mom goes on & on. I see AR's situation differently & I'm sorry HR caught a lot of unwarranted flack for her comment despite it being true. You go HR, you are right!!!
10:34 PM on 04/15/2012
Dems never get in trouble more than when we tell the truth.

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10:21 PM on 04/15/2012
"Let's just focus on his economic record on behalf of women. When Romney ran Bain Capital, less than 10% of the senior workforce were women. And he said in his 1994 Senate race that it was because he had trouble finding qualified women to be executives. Is there a woman alive who believes that?"
Women and everybody else had BETTER believe there are very few MEN and women who are qualified to manage venture capital. Also, Romney has proven he can do that very skillfully- whereas Barack has been to college. I'm way to the left of both of them- but- lets face it: Romney has made half a billion managing investment capital and Obama has been to college.
That liberals think executive level capital management is something all kinds of women could do but for putative sexists like Romney is virtually the definition of "out-of-touch".
I may be a strong government leftist- but my investments are managed by the likes of Romney- not by Obama and Rosen liberals.