Don't Chase Memories

Memories.

Whether they're good or bad, we all have them. Unfortunately, there are those you prefer not to remember, but for the most part, your mind flocks to the better memories. This is true when you break up with someone. Instead of remembering the bad times, you tend to think of the fun moments you shared. Your mind plays tricks on you and seems as if it wants you to feel miserable thinking of the good rather than the bad. But, then, you must bring yourself back to life and remember why you broke up with them in the first place.

It took me such a long time to get over my last boyfriend that it carried over into my latest relationship. In the beginning, I was so scared because I missed my ex-boyfriend and didn't want to get close to another guy, so I pushed him away. But, then, I reminded myself why it didn't work in the first place and I was brought back to reality.

When I'm at work or doing something, I sometimes am reminded about certain events in my life. The memories start flooding in and I miss that moment in my life. It takes me a little bit to come back to my present life.

Since my boyfriend and I are over 800 miles away from both our families, thinking about the past has been a regular occurrence. It was worse in the beginning because all I'd think about were the memories I shared with my family and friends. I mean, sure we still have conversations and talk to them often, but things definitely aren't like they used to be.

You'll never lose those moments and crucial memories in your mind as much as I'd like to. Sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's a bad thing. So, there's no use dwelling on the bad happenings in your life because it will do nothing other than bring you down. Instead, think of your present life since you'll never be able to jump back in time and change anything. Don't chase your memories, live in the present!