More Dating Advice for the Young, Single, Black and Female

Hey Girl,

In case you were just minding your own business acting like a lady and thinking like a man, Tyrese has some new advice for all the independent single (black) ladies.

Excerpt via New Black Woman:

I want to say to all the women out there, especially black women in particular, y'all are on this independent kick. "I don't need no man, I'm independent." I want y'all to know the difference. There is a very big difference. Independence in the eyes of a man is when we say we want an independent woman; we don't want a woman that's [depending on] her sexy and nice body to help her get through life. You don't wanna work, you don't want to go to college or school, you're not inspired to do anything on any level to try and help further yourself on any level. You just want to be sexy and free-load....nobody wants that as a man.

Then some women are so on this independent kick they end up alone. You're going to independent your way into loneliness. You go off and buy all the little poodles you want. "At least my dog is happy to see me when I get home everyday." That dog or "rabbit" will never be able to replace what a real man can do for you. So stay independent, get your own, but nobody wants to be alone period. I know it's a lot of men out here that are playing on both sides of the fence, it's confusing, and it's a lot of homosexuality going on out here. I get it, it's a lot of frustration that women have. [But] there's a lot of man's man still left; We're out here, we're waiting, we're wanting, we desire you just like you desire us. Just don't give up on us..."Stay." That's my 'Open Invitation'. Give [us] a shot at your heart.

Please don't independent your way into loneliness.

 

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Comments

[WellWe11]

06:24 PM on 11/21/2011

So silly. Was not checking for you at all. I swirled and have not looked back. Out of the Matrix baby. Out of the Matrix with my independent self with a man who can match that.

[thelmarowens]

09:03 PM on 11/20/2011

Lord! Lord! Lord! A real man and real woman knows how to love and knows how to endure. BF is of no use in any kind of a relationship, whether it is between Man and Woman, God Almighty and Man or Woman and God Almighty.

[noudidnt]

08:05 AM on 11/20/2011

Blackvoices = fail

If you're posting tyree's garbageon this site, I guess we have solved all of our community's problem.

[meanlady21]

10:19 PM on 11/19/2011

men giving advice to women is tatamont to the fox guarding the hen house. Men are always looking out for their best interest not womens. Their advice is no less than self serving and not going to further a womens self interest or self esteem for that matter. and never ever take advice from a violent man a man with a history of abuse or drug use and never a man who"s ex wife ended up with not a penny in her pocket ladies.
Women today must be educated and independant. it's rediculous to put all your eggs, hopes and dreams in one basket, especially when the basket has a lot holes.

[Trueletterson]

09:02 AM on 11/21/2011

No true we men have sisters, nieces, and female cousins that we love and it sadden us when we look in there eyes and see them sad and alone and sometimes acting like they are happy but later it hurts us when we see the sad look on their face. If I [we men] had the power we would fine them a good man so they can be happy! The women I am talking about are independent, well educated and successful in there career but they are sad and alone and it hurts me to see them that way!

[meanlady21]

06:35 PM on 11/21/2011

I Think it's time black women realistically look at their options. We need to be willing to look outside our race for eligible men. For those who are not willing that's ok but whinning is off the table. We women must be able to survive regardless of our chioces in men. it's sad that so many wait until they are 40 something before they are willing to move on. Get your education and start looking at OTHER GOOD MEN. You only need one good one.

[MJeter]

11:03 AM on 11/22/2011

So-called "good" men aren't always "compatible" men. If you men had the power, you would pick out a man that looks good on paper, but who isn't necessarily compatible. I don't know why men refuse to understand that. In your own lives, you look for women who are the complete package--including the attraction.

When men look at other men, attraction isn't a part of the equation. Well, quiet as it's kept--attraction is as much a factor for women as it is for men(except golddiggers--they don't care what you look like).

And for the record---alone doesn't always mean sad. That is a male projection(no pun intended). Men are the ones who can't be alone.

[Denmark Vesey]

12:56 PM on 11/18/2011

Unfortunatly, guys with the potential to be "Mr Right" ( studious, mannerable family minded) don't apeal to females in their younger years. Females tend to go for the cool, attractive or risky types. Now at maturity we have to hear, "where are the good guys" ? Well ladies, they WERE RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, he's probably taken now because at the time you weren't interested.

[ltiya75]

08:48 PM on 11/21/2011

I don't agree with that. I find that "Mr Right" usually go after "Ms Wrong" and then proclaim that they do not appeal to females in their younger years.

[Denmark Vesey]

11:25 AM on 11/22/2011

Then why is it college females or others, ignore the studious geeky high potential future moneymaking nerds in the library, but will climb a bedsheet rope to get into the athletic dorm or love the party guy ? By the time most of our sisters wake up, the fomer geek is spoken for.

[EdCorey1971]

09:37 AM on 11/18/2011

Look ladies...I know that there are a lot of lousy dudes out there, but there are some reasonably decent brothers out there. When I was single it was always a red flag to me when a woman felt the need to tell me that she was strong or independent. I would preferred to see those things in action...not word. People are generally observant enough to realize positive traits in people without them shouting if from the roof tops. It's like me saying "I'm a real man" after every sentence.

Most of you would probably be like wtf is wrong with dude...why he keep saying that crap. Why won't he just BE, and I will determine if he is the "Real Man" is says he is. So I understand what Ty was trying to communicate. Some of you just didn't appreciate his delivery. Plus...it looked like he need some Carmex or something on his lips. LOL

[Myonie Payton]

06:04 PM on 11/17/2011

I swear this is borderline slave selling. Is this man actually advertising Black men to Black women on some 'get 'em before their gone or you'll be alone'??? lol Even more funny is it's coming from a guy that couldn't make things work with his wife. Guess she wasn't or was too independent.
Perhaps he needs to maintain his own home as a man instead of trying to tell us how to care for ours as women.
And what's this peepee incident???

[jvic]

11:58 PM on 11/16/2011

The great thing - the *truly* wonderful thing, really - is, I was never in danger of caring what Tyrese things about my independence or my love for my dog. So there's that. I mean, he played a fetus! Come on.

[MJeter]

02:00 PM on 11/17/2011

You know--ever since someone on Black Voices called him "peepee boy", I've never been able to take him seriously in anything he's done. This just clinches the fact that he's a joke. Seriously, Tyrese, hon, you're a B-list actor with A-list dreams. I say you stick to acting and perhaps taking some classes before you end up doing voice over work for Depends commercials. ok...

[Dr of psychology]

07:28 PM on 11/17/2011

You do not take him seriously based solely on someone calling him "peepee boy?" What type of reasoning is that?

(SMH)

[meanlady21]

10:22 PM on 11/19/2011

B list how about a has been singer and not an actor at all just a guy who played a role in a sucky movie. Tyrese is NOBODY any one, male or female should listen to, what a joke!