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Revenge of the Sperm Donors

Posted: 12/27/09 07:38 PM ET

Ever since 1884, when Professor William Pencoast of Philadelphia's Jefferson Medical College requested a semen sample of his "best looking" medical student in order to impregnate the child-seeking wife of a sterile Quaker merchant, sperm donation has held out the promise of parenting to infertile spouses, choice mothers and lesbian couples. Unfortunately, a misguided offshoot of the men's rights movement has recently started to assert paternal rights for sperm donors. This effort, which threatens both to undermine the stability of families conceived with donor sperm and to deter other would-be parents from availing themselves of such opportunities, has slowly chipped away at the established legal and ethical principle that sperm donors, while they may provide the biological material for conception, are not fathers. Now the Irish Supreme Court -- in a ruling that defies both reason and modernity -- has set family law back a generation by granting de facto parental rights to one such sperm donor. Vigilance is needed to make sure that this noxious jurisprudential seed does not spread.

The Irish case pitted a forty-two-year-old unidentified man against a lesbian couple whom he had earlier provided with sperm. At the time of his contribution, he apparently did not express any desire to retain parental rights. Instead, he was to be a favored "uncle" -- without any formal privileges or responsibilities. Later, after his friendship with the child's mothers deteriorated, he changed his mind. When the women attempted to move to Australia with their now three-year-old son, the sperm donor sued and obtained an injunction to keep the child in the country while he fought for his alleged rights as a biological parent. High Court Justice John Hedigan initially rejected his claims. However, on December 10, the Supreme Court's Susan Denham overturned Hedigan's verdict. Mustering a specious argument that could be used to reject virtually every case of lesbian parenting, Denham wrote: "There is benefit to a child, in general, to have the society of his father....I am satisfied that the learned High Court judge gave insufficient weight to this factor." Her decision, which awarded the sperm donor visitation rights while the larger issues of guardianship are resolved, is a slap in the face to lesbian parents everywhere. But its implications extend well beyond same-sex families. Any single female parent who has accepted donor sperm -- even one widowed or divorced -- is now vulnerable to the fatherhood claim of a stranger whose only prior parental contribution has been masturbating into a plastic cup.

American courts have so far generally resisted similar assertions. As early as 1993, a Manhattan Family Court ruled that a sperm donor, Thomas Steel, had no legal right to visit the daughter of lesbian parents Sandra Russo and Robin Young -- even though he had supplied half of her DNA. At that time, Judge Edward Kaufman seminally declared that Steel's efforts had "already caused [the child] anxiety, nightmares and psychological harm" and that, for the girl, "a declaration of paternity would be a statement that her family is other than what she knows it to be and needs it to be." In short, interpersonal and emotional bonds -- not genetic connections -- are what define families. Although that approach is now widely accepted, disgruntled donors have continued to press their cases.

The most widely publicized effort of a sperm donor to assert parental rights in the United States was a suit brought by Kansan Daryl Hendrix against his former friend, Samantha Harrington, who had given birth to twins using his excess sperm. A divided state supreme court ruled 4-2 that, in the absence of a written agreement, sperm donors were not legal parents. Yet Hendrix pursued his case all the way to the United States Supreme Court -- which refused to hear it -- and, in the process, became a darling of a faction of the American men's rights movement. Similar cases are working their way through the court system in other states. These efforts pose a genuine challenge to reproductive freedom and familial integrity.

The sperm donors' rights movement is the bastard stepchild of two strange ideological bedfellows. One group that has furthered such efforts are Christian conservatives who either oppose all forms of artificial reproduction or the single- and same-sex parental arrangements that can arise from them. These opponents of artificial insemination conflate the so-called "natural" with the desirable. (In child-rearing matters, however, they are often "naturalists" of convenience: Infant mortality, after all, is natural; vaccination and medicine are direct challenges to nature.) The other advocates for sperm donors' rights are men who, for various reasons, have missed the fatherhood train. Some have already played a limited role in the lives of the offspring they later attempt to claim -- but they often seek the benefits of fatherhood when they have earlier eschewed the responsibilities. Do not shed to many tears for them. If they had wanted the responsibilities of parenthood, as well as the pleasures, they could have had children of their own. Most still can. Instead, they have cast their lot with the most reactionary elements in the reproductive policy arena. Advancing the antiquated argument that every child should have a father, these forces have succeeded in preventing anonymous donation in Great Britain, Norway, Sweden, Switzerland, Australia and New Zealand. Great Britain and Canada no longer allow donors to be compensated. As a result, semen sources are drying up. The unfortunate consequence is that, without sperm, would-be mothers will not be able to conceive.

The irony of the sperm donors' rights movement is that it has undermined the rights of those donors -- the vast majority -- who do not want any contact with their biological spawn: Children are now pressuring sperm banks to identify their genetic "fathers" and several women have even succeeded in holding their sperm donors liable for child support. These trends also threaten to undermine the "no-strings-attached" policies that make altruistic sperm donation possible. Who in their right mind is going to donate sperm to a stranger when they risk being saddled with college tuition 18 years later -- as was one Long Island "father"? The result of these child-support efforts will not be men taking responsibility for such children. The result will be men refusing to sire such children at all. Unlike sexual intercourse, masturbating into a plastic cup has few concomitant benefits.

A handful of rare cases may exist where the identities of sperm donors need to be unmasked for medical reasons -- such as when a donor discovers that he has a fatal genetic disease that could not be tested for at the time of his donation. In all other cases, the identities of donors should be perpetually concealed. Moreover, these donors should not be granted any more rights or privileges than they arranged for at the outset. Our society would do best to view them no differently than the altruistic donors of other tissues and organs. If I donate my blood or even my kidney to a stranger, that affords me no right to socialize with him in the future and creates no legally recognizable relationship. As a recent divorce case in New York State clarified, I cannot even demand compensation for my donated organ if the marriage that it was based upon were to be sabotaged by the recipient's concealed infidelity. Why should society treat my donation any differently simply because it contains a germ-line cell rather than somatic tissue?

A generation of progressives -- women's rights advocates, gay rights advocates, supporters of artificial reproductive technologies -- have fought to transform the definition of "family" from one based solely upon molecular biology to one based upon love and mutual respect. In order to protect this progress, legislation is needed -- either at the state or national level -- to guarantee the rights of established families over the efforts of interloping sperm donors. The battle over sperm is just that latest fight in the ongoing struggle over reproductive freedom, yet we risk losing it even before we know that it is being fought. We should all get our Irish up.

 
 
 
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03:01 PM on 12/29/2009
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No one has a "right" to a child. No one has the right to procure a child in a way that violates the rights of the child as an individual, autonomous human being. No entity has the right to facilitate the creation of children by means which will later absolutely strip the offspring of their ability to acheive emotional wholeness, medical safety and the basic human right to original identity and biological heritage. Humans are not property, humans are not commodities, and human rights should not be undermined due to someone elses' goal of parenting. Helping people become parents does not need to involve such great moral chaos.
04:05 PM on 12/29/2009
THANK YOU! Well said.
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Balzac
08:23 PM on 12/29/2009
You're right about the parent not having a "right" to "procure" a child as some kind of entitlement. I like the idea that a child has a right to back-trace their biological ancestry and I disagree with the pettiness of those who would oppose the individual's right to know their biological parents.

If you're going to be a parent, don't try to rely on some cold bureaucracy to protect your identity from your own offspring. If that's how you feel about it, just don't be a parent.

If you feel helpless and you give up the child for adoption, and then you feel shame and you don't want to face your child, again, I have no sympathy for your petty reason for hiding your identity. I have sympathy for your child to get the chance to face you.

It's very easy for men to disseminate their DNA far and wide, impregnating hundreds of women, thanks to dubious "miracle" of modern science. Most people don't want to ride that crazy train at such a high rate of speed, with no negotiation. I'm not talking about "father's rights", I think a mere sperm donor has already shown his indifference and has no such rights. I'm talking about individual's rights to any available information on their ancestry.
02:58 PM on 12/29/2009
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Anonymous sperm donorship (1) robs the offspring of half of their biological heritage and original identity--both of these things are BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS. (2) lack of an on-going family medical history can be an absolute death sentence. (3) facilities, such as sperm banks, that are influential in family planning have a duty to uphold ethical values. The use of a man for his sperm and then casting him away without so much consideration for what the offspring may want or need down the line is extremely unethical. If a man wants to have sex to get someone pregnant and walk away, that is the choice between him and the concenting partner. To have an entity facilitate this between two people and it be enforced as a matter of law, completely disregarding the rights of the offspring created and making agreements on behalf of the offspring which they cannot consent to but will be held do later on down the road, is a grave moral injustice. Anonymous sperm donation should be illegal.
02:55 PM on 12/29/2009
Ahh yes, let's discuss bioethics.

First of all, the claims that sperm donors should remain anonymous because they were promised anonymity is to hold to the ever-so-flawed metaethical code of "Consequentialism." Most philosophers agree that a "good ending" does not morally justify the means by which a "good ending" (e.g. a woman becoming pregnant or a family having a child) was obtained. In addition, the "good intentions" by which sperm donation and resulting impregnation are based upon are also not a basis to justify the "end" which in the situation of anonymous sperm donation is clearly devoid of any sort of human decency or morality.

What immoral "end" and "means" am I speaking of here? A man gets to act on his benevolence and provide a child for a sterile couple and a couple gets to have a child to love and raise right? The lack of morality lies in what is often ignored but is nonetheless vital to the equasion: the lack of rights and lesser personhood of the offspring created through such a transaction.

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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
09:41 AM on 12/30/2009
That child most certainly does NOT have a lack of rights or a lesser personhood! They are JUST as much a person as EVERYONE else, who has just as many rights as anyone else!

They DO have a right to know their genetic history, and they DO have a right to know any medical concerns that might affect them (such as diabetes, or alcoholism) but beyond that, the rights of the donor reign supreme!
10:39 AM on 12/29/2009
Thanks for this article. One correction -- although Thomas Steele lost in the trial court in NY, he won his appeal. In a 3-2 ruling, the appeals court said he was Ry's father. When the highest court in NY agreed to hear the moms' appeal of that ruling, Tom dropped the case. So that appellate court ruling remains on the books in NY.

Model laws from the American Bar Association and the National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws say that a semen donor is not a parent unless there is an agreement in writing to the contrary. That is the best policy, and the one upheld in the Kansas case you write about.

It is also the approach taken in the law that went into effect in DC earlier this year. Here's a thorough description of that law: http://beyondstraightandgaymarriage.blogspot.com/2009/07/landmark-dc-law-grants-parental-status.html
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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
09:42 AM on 12/30/2009
Wait..... He lost the case, then won on appeal, then dropped his case before it could be appealed again????? That ruling should be stricken from the books, or they should have continued the appeal process because it was the MOTHER who was filing the appeal!
11:39 AM on 12/30/2009
Sorry if I wasn't clear. He dropped his attempt to be declared the father of the child, so there was no reason for the mother to continue the appeal. There was no longer a pending case. Unfortunately, the decision by the intermediate appeals court does remain on the books.
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tc2598
09:27 AM on 12/29/2009
So in a normal paternity suit, a woman claims she's got Fred's child. Fred says, no it's not mine. Fred gets a DNA test, and the test reveals Fred is the father.

End of case. Fred pays child support. And if the DNA established paternity of the child is enough for child support, then it's also enough to support some custody rights.

Doesn't all that sound right to everyone so far? Seriously, I'm asking.

Now if Fred and the woman (Wilma), had signed some papers releasing him of all parental responsibility and relinquishing his parental rights - seems pretty standard for a sperm donor to me - then Fred would not be paying support, nor would he have any rights.

In this case, did he sign away his rights and responsibilities or not? And even if he did, was the paperwork legal and binding? I would say, the court just ruled otherwise.

Even if the paperwork was in order, surrogate moms back out on their contracts all the time. The courts seem to rule on the side of biological parents more often than not, outside of abuse cases.

So it seems to me, this is really about lawyers looking for loopholes in paperwork, paperwork which none of has reviewed, and which the court has.

Not saying you can't disagree with the court, but it seems hard to do that convincingly without reading the paperwork.

Anyone?
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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
09:43 AM on 12/30/2009
No, I can disagree with the court all that I want. I might be WRONG, based on the paperwork, but with the information that I have available right now, I can make a basic determination. Something that YOU already did, but when you got challenged you came up with this BS story.
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07:44 PM on 12/30/2009
I did the exact opposite.

I did not make a determination.

I simply pointed out, there is good reason to believe a determination could be made either way.

Pointing out that we don't have enough information to make such a determination is not a BS argument. It's fact.

It's how people avoid sounding like they are talking out of their butts.
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tc2598
07:48 PM on 12/30/2009
So seriously, there's an argument right there.

What's the problem with the argument I've just presented?

Are you saying that what I've said doesn't at least make you think about the guy's side of the story?

I'm all for disagreeing. I'm all for opposing viewpoints. But why not tell me, because I'm really asking, where did I go so crazy wrong in my line of reasoning up there? Aside from not matching up with the neon NO PARENTAL RIGHTS FOR THIS GUY sign in your head?
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BoyInBOYCOTT
10:18 PM on 12/28/2009
Children created by sperm donors in many ways win the genetic lottery. The vast majority of sperm donors are male medical students. They will have intellect, and are selected on their appearance and athletic physique by discerning mothers.
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Rosanneofpgh
some days youre the dog;others the hydrant
02:22 AM on 12/29/2009
Medical science has stated that a child's intelligence comes from its mother.
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BoyInBOYCOTT
03:23 AM on 12/29/2009
ABSOLUTE LIE

Do you know how many human genes would govern as complex a trait as intelligence?
Trying to claim all of that comes strictly from ONE paren's genes doesn't even pass a SMELL TEST.
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tc2598
09:17 AM on 12/29/2009
If medical science states that so clearly - which it might, I don't know - it shouldn't be hard to cite someplace where medical science actually states it.

RIght now, you are the only one stating it.
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Dana Seilhan
07:10 PM on 12/28/2009
continued from a previous comment...

Considering that sperm banks are often local entities and that many local lesbian couples may obtain sperm from the same clinic, personally, if I were the daughter of a lesbian couple I would WANT to know who the donor was and to be able to identify my donor-siblings. Otherwise I might inadvertently get involved with a half-brother (assuming I turned out straight, as most kids of lesbian couples do) and boy, you don't wanna go there.

This is already a problem with sealed adoption records. Family legend tells me one of my uncles fell in love with a woman many years ago and almost married her, til he found out she was his long-lost sister. Seems my grandmother had a fling with a priest, a big no-no in that Catholic enclave... this being before Roe, she gave the baby up for adoption. Adoptions in the U.S. are almost always local affairs, and people were less mobile back then than they are now. It stood to reason the girl would grow up nearby and run into her blood kin sooner or later.

I guess they really are handing out degrees and job titles like Cracker Jack prizes these days if someone can be OK with these potential scenarios and still call himself a bioethicist. Maybe the laws against misrepresenting oneself as a physician need to be extended a bit farther to cover other professional titles. Just a thought.
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07:30 PM on 12/28/2009
I fail to see how a woman being lesbian and using sperm donations differs from a straight woman using a sperm donor in a specic location with few sperm banks? A single mother straight or lesbian will also be as EVIDENT she didn't produce the child by herself, but you sopecificly single out lesbians. The whole I support LGBT Human Rights,,BUT usually means all that was said before BUT you don't mean. The gender role and butchness of a partner was just SILLY in your post. None of that matters to anyone but those women in the relationship....PERIOD.
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Dana Seilhan
07:10 PM on 12/28/2009
I never thought I would say this because generally I am in favor of gay rights, up to and including full marriage equality. (In fact, I think all legal marriages should be called civil unions, and religious "marriage" left up to religious institutions, with no legal clout whatsoever.)

But. I'm gonna say it anyway.

I'm sure you are all familiar with the homophobic notion that lesbians are lesbians because they cannot "get a real man," and hets often perceive the lesbian couple as one member of the couple being the "male" partner while the other is the "female," in role if not in biology. Understandably, lesbians resist this sort of labeling--it doesn't nearly cover the full possibilities of the lesbian relationship and it's insulting besides. No basis in the reality of sexual orientation whatsoever. Only passing resemblance to SOME lesbians' relationships, sometimes.

So... all else being equal and lesbianism being more about relating to women than about avoiding men (or being a man), WHAT exactly about a sperm donor being known to his child is going to destroy a lesbian relationship? Do you really think keeping the donor anonymous is going to make everyone believe that Mrs. and Mrs. Smith created that baby all by themselves? Is this the new definition of "butch" now?

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06:11 PM on 12/28/2009
I am concerned that the inevitability of the need for a complete medical history and the denial of parental, or at least the father's rights are being denied. It seems to me that if you look into the genetic issues that are prevalent in childhood diseases and into adulthood, it would only make sense that the persons involved, both the mother and the "sperm donor" father have the same rights to either personal privacy or not. There is no excuse for a child not to have the influence of their biological father.

I find this reminding me of the influence that male bull elephants have on young male elephants. Without the male bull, the young males become unpredictable, dangerous and in some cases have to be put down. This is a well documented fact.

We have a society that embrasses the mother (provided she is not the "birth mother") and denigrates the father (provided he is not the "birth father"). We also have young men killing people in their schools and colleges.

Does the similarity not strike you as important?
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BoyInBOYCOTT
06:24 PM on 12/28/2009
What you know about herd animals is seriously flawed.
An ALPHA male elephant, horse, lion, gorilla, or wolves will push away all inferior juvenile males, because they challenge his dominance, the juvenile males move in their own herd.
No male animal recognises it's progeny, that is one distinction of human beings.
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Balzac
09:17 PM on 12/28/2009
Wrong. The "alpha male" pushes away most other males because they are ANNOYING, not because they are a challenge to his power.

But "alpha" status is for animals and for people who think like animals. Among people who are really "on the level", there is no such thing as social hierarchy. People who don't believe in social hierarchy find themselves at the top, but among others who also seek neither authority nor accept subordination, there is mutual respect.

Fathers are not "alpha males", they are the "man of the house", responsible for duties belonging to that role. This is not some kind of contrived authority, and there isn't any good reason for power struggles between parents and children. Only neurotic people have to deal with that.
10:25 PM on 12/28/2009
Boy - I am so very sorry you are not correct. According to studies done with the African elephant's in South Africa, the Bull or Alpha, will push a young male aside, but will not do it because they are inferior, but simply because that is the nature of the pecking order. However, the elephant is a totally social animal and young males, left to their own have indeed been found to become out of control and savage. Try looking up "Kenya" "Elephants" "males" and you might come across the study. It was done through several Universities as well as the National Wild Life Reserve in Kenya and publicized by The National Geographic.

Young males of the predatory species, NOT Gorillas or Horses, such as lions (who will kill a young male of another dominant male) and wolves (when there are too many in the group), will run off the young males and an over abundance of females, if they are not of the genetic line of the dominent female (wolves) or the dominent male in lion pride. For lions this is normal, since too many males would kill the pride - males do not hunt and yet eat well and usually first. Too many would create a starvation scenario.

Gorillas do not run off young males, unless they try to poach the dominent males mates and Horses are simply enforcing the pecking order.
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BoyInBOYCOTT
05:06 PM on 12/28/2009
WHERE WILL THIS END?

Religious folks who claim to care so deeply to save the unborn. Are you going to go back to a birth mother who gives up a child to be adopted, that later they can make the birth mother financially responsibelfor her PARENTING?
If not how is she NOT responsible, and her sperm donor would be?

Cuz all that will acomplish is more women ABORTING.
05:08 PM on 12/28/2009
This has nothing to do with religion.
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BoyInBOYCOTT
05:15 PM on 12/28/2009
READ the article this is a PAIRING of Men's Rights groups AND religious fundementalists

"The sperm donors' rights movement is the bastard stepchild of two strange ideological bedfellows. One group that has furthered such efforts are Christian conservatives who either oppose all forms of artificial reproduction or the single- and same-sex parental arrangements that can arise from them."
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Ametista
Biologist and unrepentant leftist
05:26 PM on 12/28/2009
Actually I came to the same conclusion. If sperm donors (whether from a one-night-stand or a plastic cup) can sue for custody it will encourage abortion because no woman wants to be stuck dealing with some jerk she barely knows (or doesn't know at all) for 18 years just because his dna mixed with hers.
10:35 PM on 12/28/2009
Ametista, do you have children? If a woman wants a child that badly, they don't care. How do you think adoption brokers stay in business? Because when a woman or couple - and women are the biggest pushers for this - want a baby bad enough, they will do what they have to. Good grief - read some First Mother (Birth Mother) blogs!
04:41 PM on 12/28/2009
Bonus points for use of the phrase "misguided offshoot"......
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Balzac
03:42 PM on 12/28/2009
Let's just be upfront about this. It's not just religious kooks who are creeped out by "fertility doctors" anymore. Normal folks, secular, scientifically-literate, atheists, liberals - we're also free to express our "politically incorrect" reservations about scary reproductive science.

People keep getting pushier. I read a story about "gender reassignment" of a child and it really creeped me out. Some parent was insisting their son was a girl trapped in the body of a boy and they wanted to surgically modify him and put him on hormones. I got creeped the hell out by that.

So, as long as ambitious scientists and gender-role-angstivists are going to keep pushing for more weirdness on all fronts, they're going to creep out moderates and liberals.
04:48 PM on 12/28/2009
Exactly. This is not a liberal vs. conservative issue. It is a human dignity issue. It's a responsibility and procreation issue. It's a best interests of the child and society issue. Reproductive 'technology' is getting completely out of hand and distorted by all these conflicting "what about MY rights!" arguments. We have to get back to some fundamentals here - which is putting the focus back into the child best interests - not adult rights and reproduction politics.
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BoyInBOYCOTT
05:26 PM on 12/28/2009
Yeah TAKE away the adult's Rights to concieve as they CHOSE, cuz some UNGRATEFUL kid might not like the result. GOOD LUCK selling that program.

in case you missed the focus this is DEPRIVING lesbians from having sperm donations, and infertile couples. Take away their CIVIL RIGHTS, and then who's Rights are you going to take away? Maybe next a Little Person will be told they can't use reproduction services, or maybe an inter racial couple.

THIS is a dangerous slippery slope Religious folks need to BACK OFF!
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Ametista
Biologist and unrepentant leftist
02:43 PM on 12/28/2009
Not too surprising coming from what is arguably the most backwards "westernized" country. In Ireland men can beat their wife daily and she can't divorce the dude unless there are multiple witnesses, and it has to be severe beatings too. They still think women are chattel, so of course they are not about to let a couple of lesbians walk off with the child.
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Balzac
03:35 PM on 12/28/2009
I'd side with the lesbians, in the case, based on what little I know of it. But then again, I might change my mind if I learned more. Did he indeed masturbate into a cup? Then she was artificially inseminated? If so, he was only a sperm donor and has no rights.

But what if he had intercourse? If he did that and if she had one or more orgasms during intercourse, and they were not fake, then maybe he has some rights. But if it were a menage, then I don't know what to say. In general, a woman has rights over a man because women and men are not equals in the care of a young child.

I automatically favor the woman to have custody for any child unless she's incapable of proper care. The reason is because the woman bears the child in her body and then, in theory, nurses the child, and does all the other difficult work.
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Ametista
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05:20 PM on 12/28/2009
She had to have real orgasms? If thats the rule there are a lot of kids out there without "real" dads LOL
01:42 PM on 12/28/2009
Hmm, how is this different from adoption?
Seriously, sperm donation is 50% adoption, you have agreed to give up the rights to your child. Nuff said. For that matter, going after a sperm donor for child support is about the same as going after the biological parents of the child you adopted for child support.
Someone tell me how there is any difference between a father of a living child agreeing to let the mother and her new husband adopt the child, and a sperm donor agreement?
02:37 PM on 12/28/2009
"Hmm, how is this different from adoption?"

Intention is the difference. But at the same time, I do think this should be handled in the same way as and open adoption - with all the checks and balances in place - for the best interest of the child. Not for the best interests of the adults.
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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
03:33 PM on 12/28/2009
How is the intent ANY different?

I donate my sperm, KNOWING that I will never know any children created from that sperm, vs I father a child KNOWING that I'm not ready to be a father, and the mother and her new mate adopt said child...
04:59 PM on 12/28/2009
Open adoption contracts are typically not enforceable, and parents often move and leave no forwarding information. The interests of the child are not considered, nor are they considered when anyone chooses to conceive with anonymous sperm. They are selfish.
02:58 PM on 12/28/2009
Intention is the difference. But these arrangements should legally be handled in the same way adoptions are, BUT only done in an open manner, with all the checks and balances, in the best interests of the child (who quickly grow up to be autonomous adults with needs and rights to their full genetic identity for their own personal reasons as well as for their children's and their children's personal reasons).
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LeftRight
TANSTAAFL
08:01 AM on 12/29/2009
You're right, they SHOULD have the right to know the GENETICS of their parents. But to claim any sort of PARENT/CHILD RELATIONSHIP???? Not a chance.
01:28 PM on 12/28/2009
You want your cake and eat it too. Biological fathers should be allowed to intercede if mothers or the children are allowed to find out later. BTW, don't you think that a child from a homosexual couple isn't going to figure out that they couldn't be conceived from his/her parents?

Overall to society, it's probably best to know. Usually, honesty and truth are best.