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Jalees Rehman

Jalees Rehman

Posted: January 9, 2011 11:10 AM

Jared Loughner: The Sad Relief

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When I heard the news that the Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords had been shot in front of a grocery store, I was in a state of denial and shock. These things are not supposed to happen in the USA. Just a few days ago, Salman Taseer, the prominent governor of the Punjab Province in Pakistan had been assassinated for opposing the religious right in Pakistan. As tragic as his murder was for his family and Pakistan, it had occurred in a faraway country, where even the former Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto had been murdered. Even though we have learned about the tragic assassinations of Martin Luther King and John F. Kennedy through the history books, we do not usually think about such events occurring in the contemporary USA.

The early reports had suggested that Congresswoman Giffords had been fatally shot, but later reports confirmed that she was in surgery and there was a significant chance that she may survive the attack. I felt a great sense of relief at that moment. This feeling was quickly tempered by the reports that a number of other victims had died, including a nine-year old girl, a judge and one of the Congresswoman's aides. Just the thought of the parents of the girl made me want to cry.

Then the name of the alleged shooter was released: Jared Loughner. For a brief moment, I felt sense of relief that the name did not sound Muslim and there did not seem to be any connection to Muslim terrorist organizations. I think that the image of Salman Taseer's recent assassination had me worry that the shooter in Tucson may have also been somehow linked to religious extremists. However, the moment I felt the slight relief that there did not appear to be a "Muslim connection", I also immediately felt saddened by my sense of "relief". There was nothing to feel relieved about. Six people had been murdered and a great Congresswoman who had been doing her job and talking to her constituents was now fighting for her life.

We do not yet know the exact motivations of the shooter, whether he suffered from a mental illness and whether he was acting alone or as part of a group. Pima County Sheriff Clarence Dupnik had the courage to say that the "vitriol" of anger, hatred and bigotry can affect unbalanced people. It is likely that he will be severely criticized and attacked for these comments, because we know so little about the motivations of the shooter, and whether the shooter was indeed responding to the current "vitriol". However, there is little doubt that hatred and anger can promote violent and tragic acts. This has been true throughout human history, and it is just as true in Pakistan as it is in the USA. At this point we can only hope and pray for the recovery of Congresswoman Giffords as well as the other survivors of the attack. We can pray that the families of those who were murdered will have the strength to recover from the tragedy.
At this time we must also think about the fact that our words can indeed impact fellow humans, in ways that we may not be able to predict. Every time we utter or tolerate words of anger and hate, we may be contributing to a culture of violence. Disagreements are not only common but even necessary when we discuss topics such as religion and politics. However, the tragedy in Tucson may remind us that we have to convey our disagreements in a tone of respect and with the intent of achieving true dialogue instead of hostility.

 
When I heard the news that the Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords had been shot in front of a grocery store, I was in a state of denial and shock. These things are not supposed to happen in the USA. Jus...
When I heard the news that the Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords had been shot in front of a grocery store, I was in a state of denial and shock. These things are not supposed to happen in the USA. Jus...
 
 
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Pyrum
03:33 PM on 01/11/2011
It never occured to me at all the shooter might be Muslim. Didn't even cross my mind.
07:08 AM on 01/12/2011
Perhaps because you haven't been reading the news for the last 15 years or so?
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Pyrum
05:23 PM on 01/12/2011
No, I think it was because the incident struck me as the work of a young, white male "lone nutter." I have good instincts about these things.
02:27 PM on 01/12/2011
Obviously you are not an American-Muslim and you haven't heard of Talk Radio or Faux News.
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Pyrum
05:27 PM on 01/12/2011
Interesting. I am a registered republican, and usually I get accused of exposing myself to too much talk radio and faux news when I comment on this site! You're almost correct, though: I avoid listening or watching pundits at all, both right and left. And no, I'm not Muslim.
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ninetailedfox
banning people.....so childish
01:51 PM on 01/11/2011
I wonder if it makes people feel any more relieved when they realize the shooter in Arizona might be a fundy christian. Oh but he wasnt a real christian. "Eyeroll".
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Pyrum
04:17 PM on 01/11/2011
He wasn't a Christian at all. He claimed to be an atheist.
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Cindy Tregan
Proud D.F.H. Lib'rul
10:30 AM on 01/11/2011
Interesting that your first thought was that it might have been blamed on Muslims initially by the American public.

My very first thought on hearing that a Democratic congresswoman had been attacked at a meet-and-greet in her district in Arizona was "Ah - Palin's Teabaggers using 2nd Amendment remedies".

Not all of us are bigots. Some of us are well aware that there are nutjobs to the left of us, fruitcakes to the right (here I am, stuck in the middle with Huffpo)
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Pyrum
03:35 PM on 01/11/2011
Excuse me, but how is your attitude toward the teapartiers not bigoted? You're even calling them "teabaggers," which is a hate speech term.
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Cindy Tregan
Proud D.F.H. Lib'rul
11:36 AM on 01/12/2011
Nice try, Snookiedimples, but no cookie. The Teabaggers themselves were calling themselves that early on - until someone pointed out to them that maybe it wasn't really in their best interest to do so.

It's not a hate speech term - it's ridicule - there IS a difference.
Also, bigotry depends on someone not being able to change the thing for which they are hated - color of skin, gender, etc. A teabagger "COULD" concievably learn from the error of their ways and ... oh who am I fooling? Once Rushbo has you under his evil spell, apparently there's only one way to go - further down.
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db08
Embrace each moment, each day
09:49 AM on 01/11/2011
I can remember as a child in the 50s my parents relief when a person accused of some horrific crime was not African American. We stll feel that today. I am so sorry that my Muslim brothers and sisters also carry this burden today.
06:54 PM on 01/10/2011
As a Muslim I felt relief that this nut has no connection to Islam........but wait I'm sure Faux News or Glenn Beck can come up with a connection........how about this- perhaps the guy had a cup of coffee from a Seven Eleven owned by a Muslim befoe he went on the shooting spree.
07:12 AM on 01/12/2011
"As a Muslim I felt relief that this nut has no connection to Islam."
I understand.
You feel relief because lately, most of the "nuts" committing these kind of acts have been Muslim.
02:31 PM on 01/12/2011
Most of the gun nuts out there committing these acts of insanity and violence are not Muslims. The US has hundreds of acts of gun violence every week. These acts make the local news and are forgotten about the next day and the shooters religion (usually nominal Christian) is not mentioned. The media and the radical right will focus on those who are Muslim.
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03:55 PM on 01/10/2011
Mr. Rehman attempts to create parallels between different types of violence.

The subtext is that all violence is the same, no matter what its source. The cure is to stay civil in our disagreements. This attempt at moral equivalence falls apart on inspection.

Some violence is inspired by individual personalities and belongs to that person alone. Some is inspired by the devotion to an ideology, but the act itself is in violation of the ideology's rules and standards. Still the responsibility of the individual.

Then there are violent acts carried out on behalf of an ideology that encourages such acts in its rules and standards.

The murder committed by Jared Loughner and the murder of Governor Taseer are not equivalent.
06:55 PM on 01/10/2011
Jan, what are you planning to do to those who disagree with your "Manifesto."
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03:05 PM on 01/11/2011
I plan to continue writing on Huffpo, riff.

On one side of this war are those Muslims who are working for the return of Sharia law as the only law of the land wherever Muslims live.

On the other side are the Muslims who want to live under secular government­.

Which side are you on riff?
03:08 PM on 01/10/2011
Yes I can understand very well why Jalees felt a sense of relief for a moment when he found the name of the shooter as a Non Muslim name.
It is very sad indeed that we have come to this.
God forbid if that guy had been a Muslim - the Glen Becks, the Sarah Palins, the Newt Gingrich, the Limbaughs, the O'Rielly's, the Hannitys etc etc would have gone berserk. They would have started spilling venom and hatred on an entire religion and would have added to the poison which they already spewed now for a long long time.
Many more Jared's will come out of their closets if the words thrown on the the TV and Radio by these personalities continue without thinking about the consequences.
07:26 PM on 01/10/2011
It is so hypocritical that the radical right is on the defensive for being painted with the same brush as this maniac shooter........yet this is exactly what they have been doing to Muslims since 911.
03:57 AM on 01/11/2011
Except they will get away with impunity and will not live in fear like innocent Muslim do.
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Muhtadi
12:43 AM on 01/12/2011
It is really not a hypocritical position for “right wing†to defend their beliefs (nor anyone). I have never heard any “right wing radio†host every propose that Muslims do not have the right to DEFEND their belief system. Most actually call on mainstream Muslims to speak up.

I would also beg to differ that the “right wing†is even in a defensive posture on this one because I cannot figure out how in the world the anti-right could mount an attack based on the fact the shooter happened not to be Muslim – it proves nothing.
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Muhtadi
12:42 AM on 01/12/2011
You claim “right wing†radio pundits “spew venom and hatred†from their mouths? Do they have horns also and eat little children? Big long yellow finger nails with “poison†dripping from their fangs? Great job demonizing them for demonizing.

Unfortunately, rhetoric like yours has been far more effective in bringing the Faisal Shahzad and Mumtaz Qadris “out of the closet†than the Rush Limbaughs are bringing out the Jared Loughners. The implication that Sara Palin or those of her ilk have any accountability for this event is totally absurd and based solely in spite.
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Kelley Smith
Mother, Veteran, IT Geek
02:54 PM on 01/10/2011
I share the author's perspective. A silent high-five that the shooter was not African, Arab or Latin. If this were the case, the gun fire would not have ended......at all.
02:24 PM on 01/10/2011
Right wingers have a dilemma now. When a Muslim commits a terrible act (the shooter at Fort Hood for example) they do not call these incidents the act of just ONE deranged individual. No, they immediately connect it to Islam or the influence of extremist Islamic websites or mosques. Apparently, Muslims can never be just sick individuals but have to have someone influencing them. Yet, when some non-Muslim commits an act like this they can see no influences. Why the difference?
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Pyrum
04:02 PM on 01/11/2011
The first example is a member of a religion, and the second is not. Exactly what influences is a sick individual not associated with a religion, and probably not any other group either, supposed to be seeing?
04:47 PM on 01/11/2011
The internet, Fox news, books, extremist groups, etc.. You do know that Timothy McVeigh was influenced by "The Turner Diaries" and the literature of white separatist groups as well as the men with whom he associated (like Muslims in a radical mosque). It does NOT have to be a religious association to influence someone. Justin Phillips of the Tea Party Nation is not only trying to blame this on liberals, he is doing revisionist history by claiming that right wing views and associations had nothing to do with the Oklahoma City Murrah building tragedy.
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VirginiaJeff
Waiting for the "Jennifer Government" movie
11:39 AM on 01/10/2011
Jalees Rehman, I'm a white guy.  But I often share your feeling of relief.  That's because I know certain people will use any opportunity to confirm their prejudices against a minority group.  I've seen trolls on this site rejoice when their suspicions were confirmed, posting things like, "I know you libs were hoping that person wasn't (Muslim/African-America/etc).  Ha ha!"
 
As member of the majority, I know I don't have to worry about being profiled when I walk around town.  No one pressures me to apologize for something some other white guy did.  And yet, some people expect Muslims to publicly denounce every violent statement made by Islamic extremists halfway around the world.
 
I note that the far right is upset to find the shoe on the other foot right now.  They are vigorously refusing to denounce inflammatory statements made by members of their own group.
11:37 AM on 01/10/2011
Surprised, relieved? Why?
 
Mass killings are common in the United States from the school yards to public places. Also, the rabble-rousing and pouring of fuel to the fire of hate by the Republicans was an invitation to violence. Finally, associating Muslims with violence is wrong because there are radicals in every religion and community. Also, just like Christians, not all Muslims have the same culture or ethnic background or national origion.  
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TimRivers
Former Conservative; Now Progressive
10:46 AM on 01/10/2011
It is a sad commentary on how far down the wrong path this nation has gone when a people of freedom (including Freedom of Religion) are relived that a crazed shooter is not one of "them". Maybe there are several lessons that can be learned from this tragedy (as there inevitably are); I only pray that the majority of Americans (and the world) are smart enough to realize it.

There will always be those that do not see the consquences of their actions (Palin, Limbaugh, Beck, Hannity, O'Reilly, tea party nation, et al) but hopefully the majority will come to our collective senses and stop the madness. Let's all commit to doing that in Rep. Giffords' name, in the name of the 9-year-old, in the name of our country. It needs to be done!
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Muhtadi
09:47 AM on 01/10/2011
For the sake of discussion – lets say you were captured by an alien race and forced onto an intergalactic gameshow where instead of winning a million dollars, the stakes would be whether or not Earth would be destroyed.

(I am sure there still are some people that will have to pick apart details of that analogy (like “aliens don’t existâ€),so for those, just please assume you are in a situation where you are inclined to answer honestly and reasonably)

For the survival of the planet Earth, read the following news headline and identify the correct perpetrator(s):
“A Bomb exploded in a market today killing 85 people including childrenâ€

a.) A mentally deranged individual
b.) Catholic aid workers
c.) Islamic Militants


And the correct answer was ‘A’.. Wow! What a relief! Well, a “sad relief†because of course I chose answer C and lost the gameshow BUT at least something I believe in is not going to “look bad†again today.

That is sad commentary on a tragic event.
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checkmoot
We have met the enemy and he is us.
11:18 AM on 01/10/2011
All you have to know is, that when people are killed, either by shooting or bombing , if the perpetrator is a Muslim it is defined as an act of terror. If the perpetrator is a Jew or a Christian it is not, Makes it easy to keep score.
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Weirdwriter
03:06 PM on 01/10/2011
Well,not always. In my state, a woman walked into a small town museum and took a hammer to a copy of a controversial work of art -- she is a trucker, single woman without family or friends, a loner from another state where nobody seemed to know her -- and a Christian. She didn't hurt or threaten anyone, just walked up and smashed the art and allowed herself to be arrested.

I suspect she had been ginned up to act by irresponsible talk-show radio and TV personalities railing against the "blasphemy" the art work was supposed to portray. Outside a few Christians had been peacefully protesting the same thing -- but they strongly condemned her act. A local church invited the artist to create a new work of art for their building.

Nonetheless, from some of the posts on HP, this woman was a "Christian terrorist," the protesters were almost as bad, and her act was "terrorism."

So, it all depends on who's holding a grudge against whom.
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AdorableHero
Conquer your dark side or become it.
09:35 AM on 01/10/2011
I read this yesterday and didn't respond then, but will now. I remember when the OKC bombing happened, watching the news and seeing some woman representing a Mosque pleading with Americans for peace and not to sterotype. Though it was long ago, I'm pretty sure I felt sad that people were trying to apologize for a whole religion because of the actions of one or a few - and then it turned out to be Tim McVeigh.

I understand the relief on a more personal level, too. I was reading stuff related to the shooting and I saw one of the resident anti-theists here (one with a blantantly anti-Christian username) whining about how this was the fault of people trying to establish and evil Christian theocracy. I did not engage this person, but I wanted to shout at him "the suspect is reported to be an atheist, LIKE YOU!" I don't think the suspect's religion/lack thereof had anything to do with his motivation, which seems to have been politics and paranoia, but the point is "NO, YOU CAN'T PIN THIS ONE ON JESUS, OR ISLAM or any other religion, so trying so hard to merely shows YOUR OWN ISSUES."

So, yeah, I'd say relief isn't something to feel guilty about. I think a lot of people have it. If this guy *didn't* play video games, I can tell you that a lot of gamers are really relieved right now, as well.
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Bike Commuter
logical
10:52 AM on 01/10/2011
Your comment brings up a good point. When something like this happens most people will, by their nature, try to distance themselves and their beliefs from the act. People don't want to admit that the things they believe could be related to such acts.
 
You see it on these comments every time Timothy McVeigh is mentioned. Someone claims that religion is the cause of such acts. Someone else will invariably claim "McVeigh was an atheist", based on some of his statements. Another person will fire back "McVeigh was Catholic". Argument ensues. The same will happen with Loughner, just like it always happens.
 
We humans tend to judge other groups by the actions of their worst members, while at the same time judging our own groups by their ideals. For example, Christians tend to judge themselves by the best ideals of their teachings, but they judge Muslims by the acts of a small number of extremists.
 
This is in our nature, but it is a nature we need to learn to avoid, just as we need to avoid are natural tendencies for vioIence.
10:15 PM on 01/10/2011
F&F. Very wise and mature way of thinking. Thank you!
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AdorableHero
Conquer your dark side or become it.
01:49 AM on 01/11/2011
I like browsing a Wiki called TVTropes - it deals with literary devices, started out with television, but now they cover everything, literature, games, they even have some "real life" examples entries in which they give amusing names to various storytelling elements.

What you've describe is their "Hitler Ate Sugar" entry. http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/HitlerAteSugar

(People argue over Hitler's religion all the time - to the point where I think none of us really knows what it was. Either way, he hate sugar).
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Weirdwriter
03:14 PM on 01/10/2011
As always, AH, you make almost too-good sense.:>)

I noticed one of the Tea Party leaders (whose name escapes me) yesterday denied that the Arizona shooter could in any way be ginned-up by all the violent rhetoric the Tea Party in Arizona flung at Giffords during the health care reform debate. But he didn't stop there. The shooter was a "LIBERAL loony" he said -- no evidence, of course.

So many people with an ax to grind against some group they don't like will always find a way to keep on demonizing those folks, regardless of lack of evidence or even relevance to the facts.

When it comes from people who claim to be on some higher ground -- anti-religious "rationality" or conservatism or whatever -- it's really striking how blind they are to their own irrational prejudices while squalling about even the slightest perceived slight to themselves.
07:55 AM on 01/10/2011
Jalees, I understand your feeling perfectly. As one who owns and loves pit bulls, I always heave a sigh of relief when the 'dog attack' in the headlines is by another breed. It is not that I am happy about another's misfortune; it's just that I am holding my breath for a minute there. This is a situation tragic beyond words, no matter who the shooter is and why he did it.