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Marriage Equality: The Last One Standing Loses

Posted: 06/26/11 01:20 PM ET

It was January 14, 1963, a newly elected governor promised voters he would do everything possible to "provide a better life" for the children of the state. He invoked freedom and free enterprise as his motivation and then, in contradiction, said; "I draw the line in the dust and toss the gauntlet before the feet of tyranny... and I say... segregation today... segregation tomorrow... segregation forever!"

Alabama Governor George C. Wallace invoked God, tradition, and freedom in that speech. He warned of "centralized government" and told his supporters:

We find we have replaced faith with fear... and though we may give lip service to the Almighty... In reality, government has become our god. It is, therefore, a basically ungodly government and its appeal to the pseudo-intellectual and the politician is to change their status from servant of the people to master of the people... to play at being God... without faith in God... and without the wisdom of God.

He raved against the judiciary and said he was fighting for "our freedom of race and religion." A few months later, Wallace physically stood in the doorway of Foster Auditorium at the University of Alabama in opposition to the "judicial activism" of a federal judge who said the state did not have the right to exclude black students. For his efforts, Wallace was awarded an "honorary doctorate" from the fundamentalist Bob Jones University. Bob Jones, Jr. praised Wallace for showing "there is still in America love for freedom, hard common sense, and at least some hope for the preservation of our Constitutional liberties." The university honored other prominent bigots as well, such as Lester Maddox (1969), and Strom Thurmond (1948).

Richard and Mildred Loving were convicted of violating a Virginia marriage law, because they were a racially mixed couple. Their conviction was supported by a judge who invoked God's will in applying the law. But the Supreme Court, in 1968, disagreed and legalized their marriage. Today, millions of people remember Mildred and Richard Loving. The children and grandchildren of the Lovings have expressed their love and admiration for the couple, because of what they fought for.

But who remembers Leon Bazile? Very few people I suspect. He was the judge in the Loving case who told the world that "the fact that [God] separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix." Do you think his children and grandchildren take pride in his efforts?

By 1979, Wallace confessed: "I was wrong. Those days are over and they ought to be over."

By the time Wallace died, even Bob Jones University had started admitting black students (1972), provided they were married. By 1975, the University got around to allowing unmarried black students to enroll, but still forbade interracial dating or marriage. It took them another 25 years (2000) before they dropped the ban on interracial dating. It took until 2008 before they apologized for policies they admitted "were racially hurtful," even though they blamed "American culture" and in spite of the culture changing long before they did.

George Wallace was, for most of his political career, a defender of the Jim Crow legal tradition that treated black Americans as second-class citizens. He eventually changed his mind, but what he is remembered for is his vigorous defense of segregation. He was one of the last prominent advocates of a racist agenda in American politics, a reputation he came to regret. Being the "last one standing" in an unjust cause is no reason for pride. History is the final judge. When it comes to issues as basic as individual rights and justice, in the political game, the last one standing loses.

It we look at the New York State vote on gay marriage this point is well illustrated in the tale of two Republicans. Senator Roy McDonald announced his intention to vote in favor of marriage equality. "You might not like that. You might be very cynical about that. Well, fuck it; I don't care what you think. I'm trying to do the right thing." If anyone recalls the words of this debate, it will be the words of Roy McDonald that they remember, along with the results. In that brief moment Roy McDonald became the voice of marriage equality.

On the other hand, Senator Greg Ball, played politics, pretending to be undecided, in order to demand concession -- most of which he got -- and then thumbing his nose and sticking with the status quo. I doubt anyone found inspiration in his words, or in his political game playing. At best, if lucky, Ball may play the role of a Judge Bazile, leaving the less-desirable role of George Wallace to Maggie Gallagher.

Like Wallace, Republicans and some Democrats, continue to stand in the schoolhouse door, chanting the modern equivalent to "segregation today, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever."

What I must wonder is how many of these men and women will, like Wallace and Bob Jones University, come to regret their "principled" stand for unequal treatment of their fellow Americans?

Imagine the future. More and more states will, on their own, legalize marriage equality. At some point I expect the Supreme Court to rule and marriage equality will become a nation-wide reality. When that happens, and when the sky fails to fall in on us, what will the last men and women standing up for inequality of rights feel about their endeavors? Will they boast to their children or grandchildren how they fought equality of rights to the very end? Especially if, as is inevitable for some of them, some of their progeny turn out to be gay themselves.

 
 
 
It was January 14, 1963, a newly elected governor promised voters he would do everything possible to "provide a better life" for the children of the state. He invoked freedom and free enterprise as hi...
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12:15 AM on 06/28/2011
Bravo, history always trends towards greater freedom and equality in America. To fight that is to fight against the very founding principle of our nation. Laws like Proposition 8 in California represent the last dying gasps of discrimination. The night is often darkest before the dawn, and now, I can see daylight breaking over New York Harbor.
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StevenWells
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02:28 PM on 06/27/2011
I understand "last one standing" is metaphorical, so here's another to go with it: "kicking and screaming." Long after the legal battles are over, there will be those who will continue doing that, devising ways to mitigate and reverse their vanquishment - just as abortion opponents have for nearly 40 years - with "screaming" being somewhat less than metaphorical in many cases. And as abortion foes have demonstrated, lack of vigilance allows them to succeed.

I don't think they worry about how history will judge them. Look at how many gaze wistfully upon a civil war that ended a century before their births, and rue the advancements that have taken place since.

Aside from those who have fought for freedom and equality from the first, the ones who'll gain some admiration from me will be those who say, "I was wrong, I'm ashamed, I'm sorry, and will defend equality from this day forth."

The rest are to be pitied, but will remain a fact of life. Sorry to be a downer, but it's worth pointing out that losing what we gain can occur more readily than the gains did in the first place. We simply need to be ready and willing to defend them.
12:28 PM on 06/27/2011
It astonishes me how often people in this country, and our leaders, like to boast about our freedoms and our rights and how we are the greatest country in the world with the greatest citizens in the world. Then, far too many of them backtrack group by group and issue by issue, undermining the very freedom and equality about which they so frequently boast. The easiest thing in the world is fostering and supporting equality. But, from the highest levels of the country to the lowest, too many still have problems actually acting on those boasts. Still, this weekend was a great one for equality, and perhaps it really is hard to put genies back in bottles, as they say.
11:37 AM on 06/27/2011
I have never understood why straights do not want homosexuals to suffer the same misery as they do in their legally enforced unions. I thought misery loved company.
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ChaCubed
Republicans: the Antichrist
01:10 PM on 06/27/2011
Miserable people are miserable whether or not they marry; and although it is true that miserable people make others feel miserable, miserable people do not love the company of miserable people.
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Dusty Farmer
Someone's poisoned the water hole!
11:37 AM on 06/27/2011
Paul Kivel said that in every situation we approach we should ask ourselves three questions. What do you stand for? Who do you stand with? What are you going to do about it? I applaud those that do not stand for unequal treatment of my fellow Americans.
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thehuff
11:32 AM on 06/27/2011
Be on the right side of the long arc of history.
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CitizenZoe
11:29 AM on 06/27/2011
This is absolutely absurd and twisted and gets to the heart of the bigotry some Christians churches are ready to engage in:
http://www.christianpost.com/news/christian-broadcasters-urged-to-fight-gay-is-the-new-black-agenda-49196/

My soon to be ex-husband starting attacking my gay friends on facebook using the "genetic fallacy" argument... any thoughts on how sane people can counter this without lowbrow tactics?
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
12:00 PM on 06/27/2011
Decency and self-respect dictate removing them from your Christmas card list at the earliest opportunity. Beyond that, they are hopeless.
12:29 PM on 06/27/2011
Thanks for the link. If I had needed to be reminded of the full-blown gay-hating fascistic mentality of Christian fundamentalists/theocrats this little gem would be it. Anyway, my advice is NOT to argue with anyone coming from this camp. When it's obvious, as it is here, that a point of view rests on pure hatred no rationality will get you anywhere and arguing with people fundamentally motivated by hatred can only serve to give their arguments a certain legitimacy in people's minds. As a gay man, emotionally I still get upset when I read something like this, but rationally I know that the more people recognize that our root opponents are motivated by pure hatred the better it is for us (and ultimately our entire society). So thanks for the link and I hope others here will click on it.
PS. Glad to hear he's soon to be your ex. You have a seriously disturbed husband.
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CitizenZoe
12:48 PM on 06/27/2011
It was so disturbing and I couldn't believe he would come up with something so hateful - and then I googled it and realized this is where he got it from. It makes me utterly speechless. I feel by sharing it we can understand the demon that is working against equality and real freedom for all. If one person in our society isn't free, then none of us truly are... You'll be happy to know that even my most staunchest conservative friends tore him up for his bigotry.
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conscioushope
"There is no darkness but ignorance." Shakespeare
09:20 AM on 06/27/2011
"The Arc of the Moral Universe Is Long, but It Bends Toward Justice"
— Martin Luther King Jr.
doctor-ruth
Read, think, and question.
08:44 AM on 06/27/2011
A great article, but homosexuals are not the last group standing regarding marriage equality in the U.S. Consenting adults who are polygamists are.
09:42 AM on 06/27/2011
Two different groups there. GLBT people did not make a choice to be that. Polygamists choose to be that. Huge difference.
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Erin Scott
10:08 AM on 06/27/2011
Polygamists have the right to one legal spouse. Homosexuals in most states do not. Think again.
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Ms NYC
Republicans for Voldemort
08:21 AM on 06/27/2011
Wonderful post. When I get discouraged that we are moving too slow toward real equality I look back to see how far we have actually come. It doesn't cheer me up for long though. I'm very impatient I guess.
08:53 AM on 06/27/2011
Fanned and faved, but the first gay antidiscrimination organization was founded in this country in 1950 (the Mattachine Society). Sixty-one years and counting is long enough to try most people's patience :)
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seventhrama
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08:56 AM on 06/27/2011
Thanks for your honesty.
01:39 AM on 06/27/2011
Everyone should have the right to be equally miserable in marriage :)
01:30 AM on 06/27/2011
Well-written article. I hope that politicians read it and take heed.
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Spinman
12:23 AM on 06/27/2011
President Obama has stated that he's opposed to same-sex marriage. I wonder if he'll be among the "last standing".
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Johnathan Lemons
I have a degree in Micro-Bio
01:01 AM on 06/27/2011
When did he state that???
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dennisdelia
Injustice anywhere-Threat to justice everywhere!
01:33 AM on 06/27/2011
Actually, his last position statement on the issue is that he believes that the LGBT community should have completely equal rights under the law, he supports civil unions at this time to achieve that goal and that his position on same sex marriage is evolving!
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
05:17 AM on 06/27/2011
When you weren't paying attention???
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
02:49 AM on 06/27/2011
Not in a George Wallace way, but not at the other end of the spectrum, either.
12:07 AM on 06/27/2011
I argue that the “next generation†will most likely just ignore this topic all together. The majority show very little interest in this political matter. Poles with the younger generation show this to be true. This political power point just doesn’t bare as much weight as it once did.
In fact, the majority of the “next generation†likely doesn’t even know the significance of what just happened in New York. Probably because they are too busy updating their Facebook status or Twitter feeds.
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Johnathan Lemons
I have a degree in Micro-Bio
12:51 AM on 06/27/2011
I beg to differ...please don't speak for a generation you are not part of. When you poll people using a landline phone, you will never reach someone my age (29). I live in a larger city in conversative country (Kansas City, Missouri) and can tell you a lot of younger people my age are aware of the vote and what it means for the future. You don't think we care because you don't understand how we communicate! :)
12:33 PM on 06/27/2011
I am part of your generation and agree...traditional polls will never really include our thoughts because none of us have landlines. That being said, I have heard that they are trying to solve this problem and are starting to use cell phones for polling....
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QuakerJewish
Reality over myth.
12:34 PM on 06/27/2011
John, old boy. At 29, you're no longer part of the "younger generation", and you're certaintly not part of the "next generation". Welcome to middle age.
Cske was not talking about the importance of the vote to that "next" generation. The comment was about the Gay issue, which polls all over the country, including those conducted on college campuses, show a grwoing majority of support and a rejection of the bias against Gay Americans, and that trend grows with each passing new generation. Being biased againsts Gays, for the most part, is an older generational thing..
BTW: Polls are shifting to use cell phones now too, precisely for the reasons you state. I've received no less than four poll calls on my cell phone this year so far, compared to four for all of last year.
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WheelsOnFire
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01:11 AM on 06/27/2011
Rarely have I seen such ignorance spewed in such a manner here.

Let us set the record straight.

A month ago, Gallup released the findings of its latest annual survey on gay marriage. They found the highest support among those aged 18 - 34 -- fully 70% supported gay marriage.

A year ago, the US military surveyed its troops about repealing DADT. The vast majority of the troops are under age 30 (most of that group are under age 25). Overwhelmingly they supported repeal.

So, your comment is refuted by facts.
12:34 PM on 06/27/2011
Absolutely! I am 34 years old and have never, not once, not one single time in my entire life, met someone in person who does not believe in marriage equality.
01:23 PM on 06/27/2011
So polls are facts now? Interesting argument....
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jabailo
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11:23 PM on 06/26/2011
I am one hundred percent for Gay Marriage.

The goal should be to make it legal nationwide so that it is not even a talking point for either party in the 2012 elections.
garystartswithg
el sueno de la razon produce republicans
07:13 AM on 06/27/2011
but without talking points they might have to do something.