At the end of the third class, a quiet, solemn boy asks if he can speak with me. "What," he had wondered during class, "about memories of the lost person that come back again and again?"
While Kathy and Lynda teach the fourth class, Laurent, Cassidy and I sit with - I'll call him "Andre" - in the only quiet, moderately private spot we can find: our vehicle.
Andre says that he has great difficulty falling asleep, and when he finally does, nightmares always come. "I feel so helpless. I cannot talk to anyone." He grabs his throat with every other sentence. When I mention the gesture, he tells me that his "words are stuck in my throat. And I am afraid to cry. It is not manly."
Andre tells us that on January 12th, he was supposed to pick up "my cousins who I love very much, at the University." He called to them that he couldn't. They stayed late, and died when the building collapsed.
These cousins, "my best friends," lived with him and were more like sisters--"one light skinned, one dark," he smiles with the memory. "I feel so guilty. I want to go back to the time and save them, but it is not possible. I have concluded," he lowers his voice here, "I do not want to be left behind."
I recognize the self-annihilating weight of this guilt, have seen it burden young and old in Kosovo, Israel, Gaza, have heard how it torments the nights of soldiers and marines returning from Iraq and Afghanistan.
"Would you," I ask him, "be willing to meet your cousins in your imagination to talk with them and ask for their advice?"
"I have them always in my heart, but when I talk with them, it makes me cry."
I tell him that he needs to cry--that releasing his emotions will open his throat, that perhaps his cousins have something to say to him that will help him with his guilt. He nods in agreement.
I ask him to close his eyes and breathe deeply with his belly soft, as we did in class. "Imagine that you are in a safe and comfortable place--a place where you feel good." He does and I ask him to imagine that his cousins are there with him.
"Would you be willing," I say, "to ask them for their advice?"
He nods his head.
After a while, his face softens and small tears appear at the outer edge of his eyes.
"Did they come?" I ask.
"What was it like? What did they say?"
"I was so happy to see them. They told me to keep living my life and that I was not responsible for their death."
"Write it down," I say to him, after he has opened his eyes "and look at it every day. "Keep living your life. You are not responsible."
I notice that he is breathing more deeply and no longer clutching at his throat.
Making our way back to the classroom, I feel how urgent it is to train hundreds of people to do this tender, powerful, necessary work.
We've just returned from our visit to Haiti today. I look forward to taking a look at what you've got to say on this and other posts from Haiti soon.