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G-d Cares What I Eat? Lessons From a Kosher Kitchen Innovator

Posted: 11/03/10 09:15 PM ET

I wasn't always kosher.

Now, I speak all over the country about how I went from TV producer to kosher cookbook author.

I'm not saying the transition was easy.

My busy career was once my whole life, and I was too time-crunched for introspection. But then one day, I came across a story: A rabbi said to a 20-something, "What's your goal in life?"

"To be a dentist."

"So when you die, you want the eulogy to go 'Here he lies: he just filled his 1 millionth 40 thousandth cavity.' That's what you want out of life?"

The question actually bothered me. I began to wonder: 'What do I want to be? Who do I want to be?" It was the scariest thing I ever did. I had no answers, so I went looking and somehow, I landed in my own backyard.

To be frank, when I first heard about keeping kosher, I sort of went into shock. We're talking about Rules with a capital R. Until then, I answered to no one. There were no boundaries. Short of killing someone, there was no right or wrong, just shades of grey ranging from "OK" to "not so OK." Now they're telling me that G-d cares what I eat?!

Until then, I had used the term "kosher" in my everyday speak, as in, "That doesn't sound kosher" (meaning, "You better back off the deal because something ain't right!"). And I was vaguely aware that religious Jews would only eat food that's kosher, foregoing the culinary adventures the rest of the world relishes. I mean, would normal people lock themselves in like that? Yet, I was drawn to friends with kosher homes more and more. And I began to understand.

Kosher is a way of life. While it initially meant a set of dietary rules, it actually defines the people adhering to those rules -- how they make choices every day, from where to eat dinner to huge moral issues. It's living on two planes simultaneously, physical and spiritual. In Jewish life, they are never separated.

And that's where self-discipline comes in. Hey, I know. That term is anathema to our "Free to be you and me" generation.

What puzzled me is that the "kosher" people seemed so relaxed and happy, despite the restrictions they voluntarily accepted.

Then I realized that I, too, could say no. I could say no to self-indulgence; I could say no to going along with the crowd; I could say no to a lifestyle that wasn't really doing it for me. I began to see that a little self-discipline makes me feel strong and proud, and connects me to a tradition that gives my life larger meaning.

So I decided to go kosher. I even decided to get married, have a family, go the whole nine. After my wedding, I was literally the bride who knew nothing in the kitchen. I had never even turned on an oven, thanks to my mom, who is really great but kept us alive on take-out.

Learning to keep kosher and learning to cook simultaneously turned out to be an even bigger challenge than meeting a movie star. Let me sum up kosher:
• Meat & dairy never mix.
• Most seafood is out.
• Pork: no way. (I bet you knew that.)

Quite simple, really, until you consider the implications. "Never mix," means that meat and dairy remain as separate as two ex-spouses at a Hanukkah party. They can't share the same cookware, dishes, silverware or dishtowels. And then there's the question of foods like bread, wine, eggs -- are they meat or dairy? It turns out that they belong in a twilight zone called pareve which means more neutral than Switzerland.

Forbidden seafood doesn't include most fish, though some fish are off-limits. Having fins and scales gives a fish the privilege of winding up on a kosher menu.

The no-pork thing is best known and least understood. It has nothing to do with health or sanitation. It has everything to do with the spiritual aspects of food, and to explain it means going into Kabbalah that would make your head swim, so just take my word for it.

Learning to cook kosher (OK, learning to cook at all) was probably the biggest hurdle of my life. A lot of kosher recipes take hours, even days. And I was such a harried bride, with my job at HBO still intact (with unprecedented permission to be off on Shabbat) and a husband who liked to eat real food, not something out of a box. But I devour challenges. I hunted down terrific recipes and developed so many ways to cut prep and cook times that I decided to write a cookbook of my own called Quick & Kosher Recipes From The Bride Who Knew Nothing.

It sold like crazy and suddenly I was a celebrity. I had a blog, was producing an online kosher cooking show and giving demos all over the country. Instead of stilettos and a press badge, I was wearing flats and an apron (oh the horror), but I loved it when the media started calling me "the kosher Rachael Ray."

And all that positioned me to be the CFO, Chief Foodie Officer at Kosher.com, an online kosher supermarket. You could say that all my HBO and CNN experience went kosher.

My second cookbook, Quick & Kosher: Meals in Minutes, was just released. Like my first book, which grew directly from my own inexperience (and doesn't hesitate to confess all), this one emerged from having a career, a family and lots of friends who drop in for dinner on short notice. When I get word that folks are coming over, my first instinct is to check the clock to see how much time I've got till they come stomping up the driveway. I based my book on that "moment of panic." It's actually arranged according to how long it takes to prepare a complete menu. You've only got 20, 40, 60 minutes? No problem. It's the book I've been needing for myself all these years, so I wrote it!

It makes cooking easy. It makes kosher easy. I wish someone had done that for me.

 
 
 
I wasn't always kosher. Now, I speak all over the country about how I went from TV producer to kosher cookbook author. I'm not saying the transition was easy. My busy career was once my whole lif...
I wasn't always kosher. Now, I speak all over the country about how I went from TV producer to kosher cookbook author. I'm not saying the transition was easy. My busy career was once my whole lif...
 
 
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Lisa Shields
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08:11 AM on 11/09/2010
I have a beloved friend who always goes the extra yard to be kosher.
Her kitchen has to stoves with shabbos timers.
She has multiple sinks, and prep areas.
She tovels everything with care.

But a few years back, when we were at the market together, she took it too far, even for me.

She had driven me there because I was having trouble walking...and we shared a cart for the same reason. I needed shrimp, which I put in the cart without thinking...and discovered that it made her horribly uncomfortable. She told me that many of the younger wives took their clues from her...and if one noticed the trief in her cart, they might assume the wrong thing,

"If they are assuming anything other than you are being a good friend to me, they really need to see the Rabbi." I replied. She could not help how she felt...but I thought it was absurd. The same market used belts for the food she purchases. Those belts have non-kosher products on them all the time...but that did not render her kosher purchases treif. What I know of JudIism suggests that you should be less concerned with people having the wrong idea about you, than doing the right thing...but then, I am not a rabbi.
05:27 PM on 11/07/2010
Most religious dietary restrictions have meaning as an exercise in self-discipline, as the author notes (for those who do not believe, the same meaning of self-discipline can be obtained independent of religion as self-imposed, in which case it makes even more sense).

That said, it strikes me as preferable if the restriction is somehow connected to a moral or a health or ecological issue and is not simply pedantic rules that lack all other meaning except perhaps to separate one group of believers from another.
04:35 PM on 11/05/2010
I would like to know who put the - in the middle of the word God, and why??
07:09 PM on 11/05/2010
Gpd's legal team recently trademarked his name and is demanding royalties for it's use. Didn't you hear?

Fortunately heaven is relatively short on lawyers and the ones it has aren't very good... so simply mispelling it on purpose is sufficient to trick them and get around the issue.
09:28 AM on 11/06/2010
This is a practice by observant jews and goes way back to the laws found in Deuteronomy which prohibit transcribing the name of God. The concern is that the name of God, which is holy, could be erased, defaced or disrespected in some manner. So by putting the dash mark in the middle, it is not God's full name and the risk of defacement is avoided. Hope that helps.
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Dave24
Without God, life is everything.
08:43 PM on 11/08/2010
My eyes hurt from rolling so much.
03:18 PM on 11/05/2010
Unfortunately it seems like one more way to fixate on something other than feeding the hungry.
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edgraham
There is no magic
12:55 PM on 11/05/2010
...and yet, you remain beautiful.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
11:06 AM on 11/05/2010
Jesus would say, "It is not what you put into your mouth, but what comes out of it, that defiles you"

That being said. Right Action in diet is righteous diet
04:36 PM on 11/05/2010
I love SRF! Lake Shrine in Pacific Palisades, CA.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
07:31 PM on 11/05/2010
Amazing what a non-English Yogi accomplished in his sort material life

But then his spiritual teaching could only be match with Christ, Buddha, Mohammad and Krishna. And of course the great legacy of his and my own teachers of the path of Kirya Yoga.
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Mortifyd
12:08 AM on 11/07/2010
Jews don't care what Jesus said, and only Jews are obligated to keep kosher.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:11 AM on 11/07/2010
The will of GOD is Christ, Buddha, Mohammad and Krishna.

Funny, how the Christian Churches share the old testament with Jews, and true it does not SPEAK CHRIST. Why I call religion "Churchianity"

That being said, I wish I new how some Jews are so lost in materialism for 1000's of years. Yes, some truly are not. Question I have unanswered. Strange that it was Moses who prepared the way for GOD (the father, the son and holy ghost) to walk the earth. The only purpose of the old testament for followers of the WORD. Until then there was only faith
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gregstevens
I'm just some guy.
11:18 PM on 11/04/2010
The process of setting boundaries and then striving to be creative within those boundaries is a common, time-honored way of creating meaning in one's life. This is a fantastic example, and I applaud it.

From my point of view, that process and the benefit it gives to a person happens -- just happens -- to be completely independent of theology or the greater structure of the religion that inspired it. What motivated you to be creative and find meaning was taking on a set of rules and learning how to generate newness and interest within those rules. If the rules had been different, it would not have mattered -- you could just as easily have found inspiration and fulfillment.

Personally, I want to write a cookbook consisting entirely of low-carb, sugar free, fat free deserts. Now THAT is a challenge. So far, I have a recipe for brownies made from black beans and splenda.
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02:43 PM on 11/05/2010
You're joking about the brownies, right? If not, I doubt your dessert cookbook will be a best seller if that is an example of your low carb, sugar free, fat free 'goodies'. I applaud your intent though.
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SilentSolidarity
So what do you need? Besides a miracle.
10:17 PM on 11/04/2010
Actually if we would follow some of these laws, there would be much fewer endangered animals, and the problem of overfishing would be much lower.

If you give it a second, you will notice that the laws forbid to eat any predators. Those are usually the most inelastic species. It takes decades until their populations recover yet they are very important to keep the ecological balance. Overall, the laws recommend the eating of species that are known to recover very fast, in terms of population.
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Gonzo36
Pro-awesome!
09:47 PM on 11/04/2010
I am kosher and I believe that the reason we keep the laws of kashrut is to take something mundane (eating) and make it holy. When I grocery shop for food, I have to make sure everything I put in my cart has a hescher (the kosher symbol) and when I cook my food, I have to make sure I dont mix my milk and meat. That means for much of my day, I am thinking about G-d, even if it is in an indirect way. I think it is cool that for me, grocery shopping is elevated to a way of praising G-d.
07:32 PM on 11/05/2010
Wonderful insight. Thanks. And, thanks for being sensitive about the divine.
09:19 PM on 11/04/2010
you really cant say god?
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Gonzo36
Pro-awesome!
09:44 PM on 11/04/2010
You can say it, you just cant spell it :)
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MagicManDoneIt
When facts are lacking. Just say...
02:36 AM on 11/05/2010
And you don't find that a little bit ridiculous?
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Semprini
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09:40 AM on 11/05/2010
And that fools god?
07:41 PM on 11/04/2010
If you're going to keep kosher, just remember not to have sex outside of marriage.
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wolfiegirl
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03:45 PM on 11/04/2010
To each his own, I suppose. The Jews will eat a hamburger, but no bacon and cheese on it, the hindus will opt for the cheese w/o the burger, and the Catholics will go for all of it (but not on Friday). If this helps bring you closer to God, man and your spiritual beliefs, go for it. If it is for a cultural identity only, well O.K. And each person has different reasons for all of the above.

If I were to eat in a spiritual manner, I personally would go for the vegan organic thing. Humane to animals, organic is good for the earth, and all of it good for the body God gave me. But since I don't do it, I've got nothing to say about those bacon cheeseburgers, or lack thereof.
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10:39 AM on 11/05/2010
Actually I think all this was just a ploy by 'Chruchmen' to extend their authority into every aspect of their "flocks" lives. Clothing, Food, S3x, you name it they (the Priest /Rabbi) have a rule for it.
It was probaly a defensive strategy when the Middle Eastern people were being invaded by outsiders herding swine . The seafood of the seapeople. If we prohibit 'Their' foods then "Our" people can't mix and marry with "Their" people and dilute "our"(church) power over the people.
Whether it's a Chruchman or Congressmen writting common customs into law. Whoever writes the law seems allways to favor and strengthen His vested intrest and inflates His importance.
03:18 PM on 11/04/2010
No disrespect to anyones faith, their own free will personal choice, to be respected.
Some people may think that it is a dangerous attitude to take toward the Bible, to pick and choose what you want to accept and throw everything else out. Some view is that everyone already picks and chooses what they want to accept in the Bible. The most egregious instances of this can be found among people who claim not to be picking and choosing.

Example: One friend whose evangelical parents were upset because she wanted to get a tattoo, since the Bible after all, condemns tattoos. In the same book, Leviticus, the Bible also condemns wearing clothing made of tow different kinds of fabric and eating pork. And it indicates that children who disobey their parents are to be stoned to death.(in Psalm 137 (Blessed is he who takes your little ones and dashes them against the rocks) Why insist on the biblical teaching about tattoos, but not about dress shirts, pork chops, and stoning, adultry laws today?)
Interesting to me
Written above from the book -Jesus Interrupted- Bart D Ehrman -Scholar
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c-tom
Badges we don't need no stinking badges
07:59 PM on 11/04/2010
The Psalm 137 is being misread - it is a prayer that the Captives in Babylon get to dash their conquerors children against the stones. It's a song asking for the death of his enemies' children not his disobedient ones.
My own method as an atheist raised a Christian is to follow the rules that are easy for me and ignore the ones that aren't: no tattoos or eating roadkill but lobster and Veal Oscar are still on the menu.
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11:02 AM on 11/05/2010
c-tom, you mean you actually all on your own, just look at something and decide ' These things are wholesome,blameless,commended by the wise,and lead to my wellfare and happiness' And all by yourself ,armed with your own common sense you just follow your own path?
What a refreshing example of freedom ! (;
02:46 PM on 11/04/2010
Sorry, no disrespect to your religious beliefs but this lifestyle should change. I'm speaking of slaughtering conscious animals. No one, even dedicated carnivores like me, can witness beef or other food being harvested while aware and awake and not be touched. Since this "rule" began before refrigeration, it's clear a slight change is in order. Rendering an animal unconscious before slaughter is easy, cheap and humane.
02:57 PM on 11/04/2010
If you're a meat eater, then you should realize that Kosher or not, most animals are conscious when slaughtered (I live by a non-Kosher livestock farm).
09:11 PM on 11/07/2010
you live by a livestock farm, eh ? Well, I have worked on several livestock farms as well as transported hogs and cattle to market slaughterhouses. The animals were always, always, always killed first thing with a shot to the head from a charged CO2 cartridge. It is my understanding that poultry is usually simply heads cut off but obviously they are allowed to bleed out before being slaughtered. How can you say most animals are conscious ? That doesn't even make sense.
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02:39 PM on 11/04/2010
III - A Discordian is Required during his early Illumination to Go Off Alone & Partake Joyously of a Hot Dog on a Friday; this Devotive Ceremony to Remonstrate against the popular Paganisms of the Day: of Catholic Christendom (no meat on Friday), of Judaism (no meat of Pork), of Hindic Peoples (no meat of Beef), of Buddhists (no meat of animal), and of Discordians (no Hot Dog Buns).
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emmanuel goldstein
Have you had your two minutes today?
04:01 PM on 11/04/2010
I am a Discordian, and I say hot dogs and their buns are terrible, so I have left over pork chops for lunch on Fridays. If you have a problem with that, consider yourself excommunicated. You can, of course, recommunicate yourself if you at some point repent and partake of left over pork chops for lunch on a Friday instead of a hot-dog.

If you don't have a problem with that, maybe you would care to join me for pork chops tonight?
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Barbara Graham
Comin at u from Area 5150
04:09 PM on 11/09/2010
What kind of Mogen David goes with pork?
04:04 PM on 11/04/2010
Hail Eris! All hail Discordia!


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