Becoming the Person You Are

What does it mean to become the person you truly are? What does it actually look like?

In my opinion, there is much complexity involved, and I am almost at a loss as to where to start but all we can do in this life is try right?

In the 12 months prior to turning 30, I had it all figured out. I had direction, I had education, I had drive. I had it all figured out and nothing was going to stand in my way. Simple right? Well, no. Something shifted in me, some kind of primal need all of a sudden was not being met. All of these external experiences I had been having all of a sudden lost all meaning and I found myself rapidly losing my grip on the ladder I had been so desperate to climb during my 20s.

This became a great concern of mine, and I knew that I needed to do something but, alas, me being me, I thought "I'll get to that later." As we all know, sometimes later never comes and life has its way of introducing new distractions and events that either lead us to our destiny immediately, or can take us the long way. I've had a very solid knowing for my whole life of the person that I am, the person who I wish to be and the person that I have been showing the world. The latter is one which is stuck somewhere in the middle of the first two.

As of January 1, 2016, I, along with many others, feel I have awoken, almost re-incarnated into another being. Feeling a little different, thinking a little different, taking a little bit more time and doing things correctly, the first time.

Becoming who you truly are can be incredibly difficult where relationships are concerned, and not just intimate relationships with a lover or a partner, but those with your family, your friends, work, and particularly yourself. But, as they say, surround yourself with those who will lift you higher. Often, however, these people are not those who are in our lives in our early years. Granted there are a few, but we do accumulate a few posers along the way.

One thing I have always liked about myself is my ability to tell it like it is. If there is truth to be told or someone needs to be put in their place, I have always been more than happy to be the person to do so. I am also the person who is more than happy to be put in their place and take criticism on the chin, granted I may have a slight tantrum and have to sleep on it, but I will come around eventually and I've gotten a lot better at taking constructive criticism.

Becoming who you are is about cementing all of those primal behaviors you exhibited before the world told you who you were supposed to be, learning what the world has to teach you, incorporating those lessons into your behavior, and with this new knowledge, accepting and returning to the higher self. Becoming who you truly are is going to feel hard, there's no smoothing that over. You're going to feel uncomfortable, dizzy, lost, and you're going to day dream. If you're like me when everything gets to overwhelming, you might even cry a little. But you know what? It's going to be worth it!

You have no idea how truly strong you are at the core of your being, or do you? See that's the thing, we all know what we can be deep down inside and it's not that we are afraid of what we aren't capable of doing, but more so afraid of what we are capable of so much more. I know this for a fact within myself, for years I was often terrified of all that I could be, rarely of what I was not. It's been a long time coming but the integration of my being is almost complete, and I'm so happy that you're all coming along for the ride.