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Finding a New Circle of Friends

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Baby Boomers,

Wouldn't life be great if we could choose the friends in our social circles by their occupations and how useful they would be to us?

OK, that sounds a little weird but I have a point to make.

As we have gotten older, our lives have naturally become more complicated.

Maybe you have already retired, so your future income stream and maintaining your chosen standard of living is a concern.

Maybe you have some health problems that have slowed you down or need to be addressed soon.

Maybe you have family to take care of.

Maybe the relationship with your spouse is no longer satisfying or maybe you are part of the always perplexing dating circuit.

Like I said, things are now more complicated than when we were younger.

If you search the Internet you can find hundreds of motivational sayings that are instructing you to leave behind your current "friends" that really serve no positive purpose in your life.

"You are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with."

"Surround yourself only with people that will lift you higher."

"Never let anyone dull your sparkle."

So what happens when you have to get rid of all of your "friends?"

You're left alone, that's what and I don't think that is a good place to be either.

So why not search out a new circle of really useful friends that can really help you through the complications and trials of growing older?

Let's start with a fantastic doctor.

Who do you have to trust more with your frailties, shortcomings, embarrassments and humility's than your family doctor?

Why not have one as your closest friend?

It makes sense to me that the person I am going to discuss (and many times show) my deepest unpleasantness's with be someone who treats them professionally and without judgment.

Wouldn't it be easier to discuss something like erectile dysfunction ( or painful rectal itch or unusual vaginal discharge for that matter) with your best friend when they deal with it from a purely physiological standpoint and not like a giggling, second grade bully?

And they are bound by patient confidentiality not to share the information with your other friends behind your back.

That sure does reduce that "drama" in your life.

Hey, why stop there?

Why not befriend a good lawyer?

Who better to guide you through the trauma of wills and inheritances and the slew of other old age legal issues?

Do any of your current friends care if your nest egg is safe for your grandchildren?

Let's find a good, solid accountant while we're at it and make sure to introduce them to your new lawyer BFF.

They need to work together in making sure your financial future is secure and you have a game plan to live out your retirement years comfortably.

Wouldn't it be amazing to meet for a couple of beers with your new best friends and work out a quick financial analysis of your retirement funds to see if you have room in your budget to sneak in a couple of "road trips" to Las Vegas or Key West?

You know, it couldn't hurt to become best buddies with a travel agent as well.

I'm thinking while you are at it, if you have a choice, why not get chummy with someone who is incredibly wealthy and incredibly friendly?

Wouldn't that solve a lot of life's little problems?

Would it be so bad to be seen hanging out with Warren Buffet or Bill Gates?

It's well known that these guys donate millions of dollars to charity every year so why not become their best friend and favorite charity at the same time?

Are you folks beginning to catch my drift here?

I'm just saying, why keep your current life complicated with drama and money issues and health problems when the right circle of friends can make it all go away?

I bet you already have a "short list" in your mind of "new" friends your are going to start targeting right away.

Maybe the list includes an actor/actress?

As far as I am concerned, there is nothing wrong with a few movie cameos, some cool parties and access to some of the most beautiful people on the planet.

Does your list include a "Wall Street" insider or maybe a sympathetic and highly affectionate porn star?

Who else would be on your new list of friends?

  • Golf Pro
  • Auto Mechanic
  • Pharmacist
  • Plastic Surgeon
  • World Leader

Hey, I am open to suggestions.

Let me know who your next BFF will be.

And, if anyone fits into one of the occupations above and is looking for relatively good looking, incredibly funny, highly energetic, decidedly intelligent, morally grounded, loyal and trustworthy new best friend then give me a call.

I'm always looking for new friends.