iPhone app iPad app Android phone app Android tablet app More

Featuring fresh takes and real-time analysis from HuffPost's signature lineup of contributors
Jeanne Ball

GET UPDATES FROM Jeanne Ball
 

Meditating Moms: A Silent Revolution

Posted: 05/15/2012 11:38 am

More and more mothers are finding meditation to be an effective way to avoid burnout and exhaustion. Rather than taking time out for a coffee, many moms are squeezing in a few minutes of meditation while the baby is napping or before heading home from work.

Meditation is especially important for mothers because kids are sensitive to their mothers' stress. Studies show that when a mother is overworked, anxious or depressed, her children have higher stress, too.

If you're a single mom, working mom, or a mother at home, meditation can be an indispensable tool to relieve stress, improve self-esteem and achieve inner happiness. It makes time for itself because of the added efficiency and energy it gives to life.

Although it's easy to meditate on your own, increasing numbers of women are getting together to meditate -- and making it a social event.

Women's Meditation Meet-Up

It's a Saturday afternoon and women are gathering at the Transcendental Meditation Center here in Asheville, N.C., where I teach. Most are moms, some are grandmothers, and some who are not actual mothers (like myself) consider themselves mothers at heart.

A few children have tagged along with their moms, equipped with coloring books and crayons to occupy themselves while mom meditates.

The center is lively with conversation and laughter, until it's time for group meditation. Then the room falls silent -- it's a palpable silence that draws you in. You hardly hear a breath. Each woman is transcending, going beyond thought to contact her own deep universality. Frets and worries melt away. Awareness of body and surroundings seems to fall into the background.

As the meditation ends, no one wants to speak yet because the peaceful silence is so sublime. Their eyes sparkle and they have that familiar meditative glow.

Now, today's topic of discussion: "The power of transcendence for getting things done." These moms can relate.

"When I meditate, I drop everything, forget about everything," says a mother of two. "But after meditation, I can focus better on what I need to get done, and it gets done much easier."

"Meditation anchors me," says another mom. "It steadies me as I dash off to pick up my 5-year-old at school and drop off my-12-year old at football practice."

Scientists, Yogis or Moms?

The discussion goes deeper, into the nature of consciousness and how it relates to brain functioning and the unified field. Are these scientists, yogis or moms? In a sense, they are all three. These meditating moms report experiences that sound identical to those recorded by sages and saints of old, in such texts as the Upanishads or Yoga Sutras. They are directly experiencing that fundamental level of consciousness where everything is interconnected. They feel at home with concepts of quantum physics that express the order and symmetry underlying all of nature.

Getting enlightened is as natural and dharmic for them as changing diapers or helping their kids with homework.

Intuition, patience, wisdom, love -- all the divine qualities associated with motherhood often depend on how rested we are, how aligned we are with our own inner voice and deepest source of nourishment. With regular meditation, we directly experience our spiritual essence, and the happiness and energy that results not only replenishes our depleted reserves but creates vibrant consciousness and a naturally relaxed, more stress-resilient physiology.

WATCH: Oprah Winfrey on Transcendental Meditation

For more by Jeanne Ball, click here.

For more on meditation, click here.

 
 
 

Follow Jeanne Ball on Twitter: www.twitter.com/jeanneball

FOLLOW HEALTHY LIVING
 
 
  • Comments
  • 34
  • Pending Comments
  • 0
  • View FAQ
Comments are closed for this entry
View All
Favorites
Recency  | 
Popularity
Page: 1 2  Next ›  Last »  (2 total)
01:58 PM on 06/01/2012
Jeanne continues to amaze me at how adept she is at taking extremely abstract concepts and bringing their practical value to daily life and there is no group on earth that needs more help with daily life than Mothers.
05:04 PM on 05/28/2012
'For a mom, the baby is her program.' - Maharishi. Of course there is usually time at some point in the day for the rejuvenation of TM, but the baby takes priority. There is tremendous, gigantic growth of the heart for a mother.
09:19 PM on 05/19/2012
I wish my Mother had done Transcendental Meditation. I was so sensitive to her feelings as a child. When she was stressed or off balance, I felt totally lost. I would have loved to feel her bliss as she meditated. It would have been great to feel her happiness after TM too, as she more easily and harmoniously accomplished what she needed to do.
01:21 PM on 05/17/2012
Does anyone have an answer for this: How is meditation more beneficial than napping? Is it really a thin line between TM and napping?
10:19 PM on 05/17/2012
Independently published peer-reviewed research consistently shows that the experience of "transcending" thought during TM is very different from napping - not "a thin line" at all. Transcendence is a fourth major state of consciousness that has distinct physiological characteristics as well as distinct brain wave patterns. This regular experience of "transcendence" gives rise to a wide array of benefits for the body and mind.

The TM technique is a simple, natural innocent process, therefore during the Transcendental Meditation technique the nervous system and body gets exactly what it most needs at that time - this may at times, include napping. All of these things are explained in great detail, and thoroughly understood, when a person comes to learn TM from a certified instructor.
03:16 PM on 05/18/2012
Transcendental Meditation is a coherent state of restful alertness. It's deep rest along with increased inner wakefulness -- you become more aware, accessing inner reserves of energy, creativity and intelligence. TM is a more revitalizing state. Napping is just rest, with loss of awareness. So TM a completely different state with different effects. During napping the brain does not typically become more coherent and efficient in it's functioning, as happens during TM.
06:35 PM on 05/16/2012
Great article! Your description of the Mom's Meditation Meet-up captures something that seems to be universal with TM: "As the meditation ends, no one wants to speak yet because the peaceful silence is so sublime." What a familiar experience... even amidst the teens in schools where TM is practiced.
02:37 PM on 05/16/2012
Great article, Jeanne! I'm not a mom, but I'm married to one. I know how much her practice of Transcendental Meditation has greatly helped her (and me) through the often trying years of parenting.
01:19 PM on 05/16/2012
NICE ARTICLE. Mom's today are totally over worked.. hope this catches on more.
10:46 AM on 05/16/2012
Thanks Jeanne for a great article
10:14 AM on 05/16/2012
nice!
09:26 AM on 05/16/2012
Wonderful article! I love hearing about women; moms and mother's at heart, who are taking the time to meditate and practice self care. As a creative, active, mother at heart my TM practice is a hugely valuable tool for living a successful, authentic and sweet life! I like to imagine a world where all women (and men) take time to sit, be silent and transcend. Oh what a world it would be!
03:45 AM on 05/16/2012
Those of us who started Transcendental Meditation in the late 60's and 70's have discovered that we have a technique for life that dramatically changes the physiology to support higher functioning. It is tangible, living testimony to what Jeanne describes here. Families are flourishing. Women are younger and not aging as much. CEOs for some time have found what Oprah describes: people have deep inner resources for enjoying life while they are more productive and fulfilled. More and more mothers are bringing their families to start TM too.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
gemsviathailand
Namaste - Have a nice day!
08:54 PM on 05/15/2012
Once upon a time, in a land and time that is now very far away, I had a modest obsession with the Smothers Brothers. Perhaps, it was they who first prodded my pursuit of philosophy. No matter. In 1963 they released an album titled “Curb Your Tongue Knave” Twenty-five years latter I sat with an exalted teacher. He instructed us in the technique of curving one’s tongue.

Curl you tongue. (Saliva that ensues has been called "Yogi's Tea".)

You may know this. I will write as if you don't.

But, first, it is worth mentioning that the basic posture of the head can add to the meditative experience and such posturing can be carried “off the pillow”. The seventh chakra is the fontanel. That is a wonderful spot from which to imagine your self being suspended. Doing so tends to cause the chin to drop and be pulled in a bit.

Namaste - Have a nice Day @viasammilaw or http://gemsviathailand.com

Continued below … Mid-stream - PS: Children easily learn this; well, except for very talkative ones!
photo
HUFFPOST BLOGGER
Jeanne Ball
Teacher of meditation, David Lynch Foundation
08:32 PM on 05/16/2012
I like the Smothers Brothers too!
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
gemsviathailand
Namaste - Have a nice day!
08:49 PM on 05/15/2012
Part II

Place the tip of your tongue behind and between your two front teeth. Then draw it back over that little cliff of the gums, back along the roof of the hard palate to where it ends and turns soft. See if you can feel a spot there. There is a spot and if you imagine a line from it up through your head, the other pole is the fontanel. The line passes through the hypo thalamus.

Breathe in through the fontanel – exhale upwardly. Experience each breath with the your tongue. As you go through any day and encounter any mundane distraction, curl your tongue, move your awareness and rise above it.

Namaste Have a nice Day @viasammilaw or http://gemsviathailand.com
08:17 PM on 05/15/2012
Is there any research on the benefits to pregnant moms? This would be a good area of research!
06:36 PM on 05/15/2012
Such a beautiful reminder of the deep bond between mother and child. Culturing the mother's finest feeling level and sharing that field of infinite love with the children is truly the best formula for world peace, automatically creating peaceful mothers and their children through TM.