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Jeffrey A. Landers

Jeffrey A. Landers

Posted: March 3, 2011 04:29 AM

I talk with women facing divorce on a daily basis and the emotions they are dealing with are all over the board. But there is one common thread--they all feel overwhelmed! The thought of so many changes happening so fast could make anyone want to stick their head in the sand and hide. This is the case whether she has been blindsided by her husband who just told her he "found someone new" or she is the one who initiated the divorce. Either way, the impact on her life is tremendous, which makes it difficult for her to know where to even begin.

To help get things underway and to start feeling more in control, I suggest you take the following 9 critical steps:

Gather your financial records
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You should immediately start gathering all of your financial records. Having all the information together and organized will save you time and money. I created a Divorce Financial Checklist that will walk you through the key documents that you'll need. Please bear in mind that not everyone will need every document listed. Do not keep these records in your home! Bring copies to your parents, a trusted friend and/or keep them in a safe deposit box that your spouse doesn't know about or have access to.
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I am often amazed at how much better a woman feels after she has completed many of these steps. This puts her in a much stronger mental position to be able to deal with her divorce, which will hopefully ensure that she doesn't make hasty decisions that could negatively impact her for the rest of her life.
Jeffrey A. Landers, CDFA™ is a Divorce Financial Strategist™ and the founder of Bedrock Divorce Advisors, LLC (, a divorce financial strategy firm that exclusively works with women, who are going through, or might be going through, a financially complicated divorce. He also advises women business owners on what steps they can take now to "divorce-proof" their business in the event of a future divorce. He can be reached at

All articles/blog posts are for informational purposes only, and do not constitute legal advice. If you require legal advice, retain a lawyer licensed in your jurisdiction. The opinions expressed are solely those of the author, who is not an attorney.


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