... that -- in our culture -- is the question. Especially at this time of year.
Earlier this week, I wrote about Kelly Ripa's transition to the helm of the "Live!" enterprise. In sum, I was impressed with the way she handled the shift, her willingness to share her experience and vulnerability with viewers.
Apparently, others were and are not so impressed. A look at the comment section of most online news and media columns shows quite a distain for the woman.
In particular, her weight.
An entire article, or book for that matter, could be dedicated to the comment sections of online blogs and articles -- the visibility the outlets provide and the psychology of those who use the opportunity for a variety of ends.
For now though, I'd like to focus on the attention given -- in these responses and the media -- to Kelly's weight.
During the holidays, when food takes center stage, I think it's wise to consider the mixed messages women (and increasingly, men) receive about eating and their bodies: We're to look thin, but not too thin. Healthy, but not as if we work too hard at being healthy. Fit, but not as though we're pathological about fitness.
There is a rather rigid line of physical perfection that we've come to by cultural consent. And while this line is somewhat flexible given personal and community preferences, the punishment is universally severe for crossing it. It's a shame or disgrace to be too far over it. And a crime to be too far under.
Kelly, apparently, is guilty of the latter.
How many of people writing and commenting about Kelly Ripa know her? I don't. Which is why I make no assertions about how she is or isn't built and what she is or isn't dealing with physically (or for that matter, about any other area of her life).
I choose instead to honor what we do know... her courage to take the steps she has in creating her career and family. That courage inspires me, which I write about in the hopes of inspiring others.
We have a long way to go in creating a safe space for women and men to feel great about themselves as they are, however they are... physically, emotionally and spiritually.
That journey, if we really want to take it, begins with each of us. This Thanksgiving, take a look at yourself in the mirror. Once you allow the voice of the cultural standard to have its say, give thanks for what you actually see. Most of us are blessed to have healthy bodies that work wonderfully, if not perfectly. They house us, they allow us to travel. To create, to dance... to embrace those we love. To take risks, fulfill on what we care about and enjoy this life.
You may not like everything about your appearance. You may want to change a thing or two. But you're here. You're alive. For that, let's all be grateful. For that, let's celebrate.
And please, let's start the celebration by treating others with the same tenderness and kindness we're learning to bestow upon ourselves.
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2) Get plenty of exercise
3) Get plenty of rest
4) Receive regular Chiropractic adjustments to eliminate potentially life threatening subluxations which will keep your nervous system performing at its peak
For the disadvantaged, the option is to buy and eat what you can afford and unfortunately processed junk is what is being consumed by the ton because it's affordable for those who have little or not enough. I think there is a very dark cloud hanging over these people because they either cannot or are not educated enough to make the right choices when it comes to body maintenance.
Upkeep on the human condo is expensive. It's a given.
For me, I recently chose a vegan lifestyle so that I would be forced to keep an eye on my intake (that whole protein thing and vitamins) and I lost 22 pounds so far. I need to lose more weight to fall into my proper weight class but its a positive step forward. I cannot afford this lifestyle but I will find a way--I would like to live a bit longer if you don't mind.
Being extremely overweight is not a happy existence, doing something about your weight, your exercise habits and your nutritional choices is a move toward being able to enjoy the fruits of living.
Education is the key and possibly Dr. Neal Barnard.