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The Power Of Choice: Does Your Life Reflect Your Moral Compass?

Posted: 02/24/10 06:30 AM ET

Last month, I joined tens of thousands of Americans in donating to relief organizations after Haiti's cataclysmic earthquake. Today, we continue to give in many ways -- planning rebuilding assistance trips through our churches, picking up the slack for co-workers who are away in Haiti or the Dominican Republic helping, or simply sending an email to friends requesting donations. Both of my boys are regularly praying for the people of Haiti at night and are organizing fund-raisers in their elementary school classes. Haiti's crisis was the rare moment that fixed our national attention and called us to spend our money and time in a way that reflected our moral impulses. But how often do we align our moral compasses with the rest of our lives?

Like Haiti, the nation's economic crisis presents another opportunity for all of us to reconsider the choices we make. In my new book Rediscovering Values: On Wall Street, Main Street and Your Street, I argue that the financial collapse is a transformational moment in which we can bring changes to American laws, society, culture, and our own lives that reflect our oldest and best values and would help prevent another Great Recession from happening.

But books can't do it alone -- only new national conversations and, to use a religious term, conversions can. Real change will only begin when people make different choices. That's why, in the final chapter of Rediscovering Values, I shared 20 practical things you can do to catalyze positive shifts in your life and society. I've included five of these "moral exercises," as I call them, below.

1. Calendars and Budgets are Moral Documents
A budget tells you what and who are most important to a family, a church, a city, state, or nation. Being a father, I have also learned that a calendar is also truly a moral document in the same way a budget is. Our calendars show how we spend our time, and our budgets show how we spend our money.

Make a list of the priorities in your life. Then go through your calendar and budget with your spouse, a family member, trusted friends or even your church group and list the top ways you are spending your time and your money. How does it match up with your life priorities and how is it different? You may be in for some surprises. What changes could you make in how you are spending your time and your money to make sure it is the same as what you want your most important priorities to be?

2. Screen Time vs. Family Time
Screens are everywhere in our life today, making us more efficient, but also more distracted. In our families there is a constant tension between the time our kids spend in front of screens and the time they spend reading, playing outside, using their imagination, or spending quality time with their family.

How have the TV, computer and phone screens in your life become distractions? Do you or your family need some screen-free time, with some rules and guidelines to make room for time better spent -- including quality time with family and friends?

3. 'Tis a Gift to Be Simple -- A Life Style Audit
Paying for things we don't need, with money we don't have, needs to be replaced in our lives with remembering that it is a gift to be simple. Simplicity is not about restricting the abundance of life, but rather cutting out the things that aren't really important so that life can actually be lived more fully. This can become both a regular practice and a spiritual discipline.

Is it your many trips to the coffee shop? Going out to eat too much? Too much expensive entertainment? That extra car? Too expensive vacations? Find something in your life that you know is a want more than a need, and try giving it up for a while. Next time you are shopping, ask yourself before every item you pull off the shelves: is this a want or is it a need? Spend that extra time or money on other priorities in your life or give it away to an organization or cause you believe in. Afterward, ask yourself again, did you really need it? Maybe the same people you went over your budget and calendar with can now help you with your lifestyle audit.

4. Living a Life of Service
Every year around Thanksgiving and Christmas, volunteers and donations flood into food pantries and homeless shelters to try and make sure every person in our country has something to celebrate. But service is about more than a once a year gesture or something just for the holidays.

Find a local volunteer opportunity with your family and friends and make a year-long commitment to regular service with an effective organization serving those in need. This is a great way to involve your children in something that will change them. Use that extended time to build relationships with the people you will be serving or being a bridge for others to get involved as well. Resources on the Sojourners website (www.sojo.net) can help you get started--but there might even be a service opportunity at your church or place of work and it is time to get involved.

5. Where is your money?
My wife Joy and I made the decision that none of the big national banks that got huge bailouts and then gave shameless bonuses to their executives were the right place for our money. We wanted to be sure that we brought our business to institutions that we could better trust, at least trying to reflect some of our values, and that were more connected to our local community.

Who are you banking with? Where is your money invested? Have a retirement account? College savings account? Go through your finances and determine if the places where you have your money reflect your values. If not, use some of the resources on the www.sojo.net website to find places that might be a better place to do business, that are more reflective of your values.

There are 15 more of these moral exercises in the book, ranging from the very personal to what families can do -- from congregational checklists to challenging public policies to hold both economic and political institutions more accountable. Only new choices really make changes, and if we want to see change, those choices are up to us.

Jim Wallis is the author of Rediscovering Values: On Wall Street, Main Street, and Your Street -- A Moral Compass for the New Economy, CEO of Sojourners and blogs at www.godspolitics.com.

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Last month, I joined tens of thousands of Americans in donating to relief organizations after Haiti's cataclysmic earthquake. Today, we continue to give in many ways -- planning rebuilding assistance...
Last month, I joined tens of thousands of Americans in donating to relief organizations after Haiti's cataclysmic earthquake. Today, we continue to give in many ways -- planning rebuilding assistance...
 
 
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07:21 PM on 02/28/2010
These are quite similar to the Quaker Advices and Queries, which I have always thought were a good moral compass http://qfp.quakerweb.org.uk/qfp1-02.html
04:43 AM on 02/28/2010
Great post for personal reflection. I've been saying for years that what we are seeing in the US is nothing less than a spiritual crisis. Realignment is necessary on every level and the personal level is where we have the most immediate control and choice.

Thank you for offering this template.

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06:23 PM on 02/28/2010
Psych 101...when you do something good for someone are you doing it "for them" or to make your own ego swell. Always has been good for a spirited conversation.
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03:31 AM on 02/28/2010
yes, live by example, act by example and real "change" will come WITHOUT Obama
06:11 PM on 02/28/2010
now there is a very valued statement. You manage to come off as a "spiritual person with value" whlie slamming Obama. Tut tut. Honey, that is not what Wallis is saying.
07:17 AM on 02/27/2010
Great. More Calvanism. Because that couldn't be the kind of attitude that led to this mess we call a culture at all, right?
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Debby Carroll
Author, Raising Amazing Children
09:10 AM on 02/25/2010
Great post. I think the idea of parents teaching children via their actions cannot be overstated. Your kids have front row seats to watch and study and learn from the ways you spend your time and your money. They will do as you do, despite what you say. Plus, you are given about 18 years to help your children formulate their "moral compass." After that, they pretty much go off and live the life you taught them to live. I look at my daughters, now all grown and all teachers, and feel a combination of pride and relief in who they are. I'm proud of them and relieved to see they all "got" the lessons we hoped to teach them.
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09:05 AM on 02/25/2010
I appreciate the observation that the calendar is a moral document. Often our time commitments with others can go underappreciated -- and it's damaging to our integrity. Thanks for an interesting post.
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lrobb
Southern Rational
07:08 AM on 02/25/2010
The concept of "live within your means" makes sense, but then Jim Walls loses me. Provided my behavior is mostly ehtical, my children are happy and self-sufficient and my spouse isn't thinking of leaving I don't see why I can't lead as complicated and interesting a life as I choose. Who is to say my posessions, from which I derive a great deal of pleasure, are a bad thing?

I am only concerned with the welfare of those for whom I am personally responsible. They are doing just fine and will never become a burden to society. Since I am unable to evaluate the various claims of those who have fallen on hard times through no fault of their own, I believe in paying taxes so professionals who are less likely to be scammed by cheats and fakers will distribute largess in a fair and rational manner. That my taxes are being spent unwisely is a matter for the voting booth to correct.

I have no respect or understanding for anyone who would contribute to a cause, no matter how worthy, which does not directly benefit the community in which they live. No one needs to go around the world to find a worthy charity when there are plenty of them around the corner if that's what floats your boat.
08:31 AM on 02/25/2010
"Who is to say my posessions, from which I derive a great deal of pleasure, are a bad thing?"

Let me quote Marx: “If the workers activity is a torment to him,” he writes, “to another it must be delight and his life’s joy.”

We're all guilty, don't get me wrong.
02:24 AM on 02/25/2010
nice article
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polishlogician
No sugar tonight in my tea..
01:52 AM on 02/25/2010
Let's be brutally honest for a sec--fact (#1), Haiti will continue to be a poor nation long after our "national attention" has evaporated (think about how much you cared for Haiti in 2008, 2007. 2006, 2005, 2004, 2003...); and fact (#2), the 'choices' reflecting our 'moral compass' won't change fact (#1), no not even little boys praying will do the trick.

Haiti can't feed itself because the IMF does not allow the government to subsidize its farmers. So they have to import food (from the US, where farming is heavily subsidized). I mention that to mention this: Why not kill some trees and write a book that offers a means to propel US leadership into making some concrete policy steps, as both an exporter and leader of the World Bank, in the way it treats Haiti? Instead, this book seemingly uses the Haitian crisis as a springboard to dive into a stagnant pool of platitudes and simplistic exercises that will "catalyze positive shifts in your life and society".

Catalyze? Really?

If you don't have time to read the entire author's text, here's the book in Twitter-format: "give more time to your family, spend wisely, help others."

Wow, I feel catalyzed already.
09:02 AM on 02/27/2010
Haiti has other troubles besides the IMF - according to what I've read it is one of the poorest countries in the world but has the highest birthrate rate.
Whose fault is it? In my view mostly of religions that forbid birth control & abortion (this is also birth control) on the basis of dubious commandments like "Multiply". Those who wrote "Go forth & multiply" in ancient times were leaders trying to enlarge a small population that could easily be wiped out by more numerous neighbors, but today this does not hold true. A large, miserable, underfed population is not an asset to a government. Nevertheless they can't open up birth control clinics & encourage male & female sterilization, like India has done, in order to control its population and put fewer starving children in this world.
Religious & political leaders, almost all male, make these kind of decisions and poor, miserable underfed women have to trail 6 underfed children behind them - who will, in turn, soon have more miserable children of their own, in geometrical progression. How could subsidies alone solve the problem?
So in my view the most effective way to mitigate poverty would be to disseminate birth control as much as possible, and fight against obsolete rules that forbid it and put the heaviest burden on women and children.
06:13 PM on 02/28/2010
Haiti is over 80% Roman Catholic. Therein lies your answer. But now, it is the powerful corporate countries trying to butsky in NOT to help Haitians and that country to rebuild, but to take it over. The selfish and the powerful have no clue about values or helping others. I believe it is called GREED, GREEDY AND THE GREEDIEST!
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01:02 AM on 02/25/2010
I'm an agnostic who wanted to be an Episcopal priest when I was 13. So I respect the real Christian ethic of selfless love and loving kindness, even though I don't believe there's any evidence for the existence of God. All that said, it's obvious that the "death of God" proceeds apace in America, and it seems to be having the quite nihilistic effect Nietzsche accurately predicted it would among the masses. Far right, so-called "Christian" churches which seem more interested in the prosperity of their communicants than in the state of charity and empathy in their souls are a big part of the nihilism. But beyond them, there seems to be a drift into total moral confusion, as the idiotic Boomer mantra of the Sixties, "if it feels good, do it," becomes by far the dominant "gospel" for nihilistic, narcissistic, Boomer-dominated America. In other words, I don't see too many "moral compasses" in operation in this country anymore, compared to all the moral cluelessness we see in the news every day.
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wmholt
You can't not know. You can't not care.
05:32 AM on 02/27/2010
I like your analysis.
09:30 AM on 02/27/2010
I think Nietzsche's "god id dead" was a very accurate observational reference to very real lessening need for some god(s) thingy (the supernatural) to explain phenomena that now science could very comprehensively and rightly explain. It was more a statement about the evaporation of the god-of-the-gaps than a comment on the morals.

The nihilistic portion of course stems from what fills the gaps left because we were all TOO close to religion and its explanations. His problem was now that the emperor has been shown to have no clothes do the dependents just wander aimlessly and cling to solutions and leaders to fill the gap that are deleterious. Or do we use our new found nihilism to create better meanings and life.

I believe he cautiously believed that was our grant opportunity and we would cease it to move to even more noble planes of existence.

And for the most part our no-religious based nihilism has lead to better things and more peace and prosperity for all.

As to the 60's I take personal issue. Morality is really defined by subjective mostly self-serving ruling class rules. We in 60's we rejected the B S of the rules and started to make our own way. Some of the journey was messy - but mostly people started to peace-out and personally care for others like never before. Just saying from my experiences.
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Libertarian09
Anti War Socialist with a taste for freedom
02:15 PM on 02/28/2010
And what happened to those who "rejected the B S of the rules" during the sixties? They went on to become the most self-centered, materialistic generation ever (I am sure their offspring will exceed them in this respect). How many flag burning anti-war protesters of the sixties currently support Americas imperialist military?
12:54 AM on 02/25/2010
As a single (no mouths to feed but my own) professional female, I never really looked at my life in the manner that you suggest above. Recently though, I find myself unemployed, hopefully temporarily, and it has been a blessing in disguise. I have learned a lot about myself and my life and the things I can ultimately live without. It's been empowering to simplify my life. I appreciate the suggestions above, they will help me move forward even more with this new lifestyle. I recently wrote a post about my experiences:

http://www.3pinkdrinks.com/3pinkdrinks/2010/02/kimmy-10-things-i-can-live-without.html
02:39 PM on 02/28/2010
Good post 3pink-- I really believe that this "great recession" will actually provide one of those pivotal learning experiences for our generation (perhaps helping us come full circle in our thinking on finances, material possessions to a degree with our "depression era grandparents"), that I believe has so far been lost on the preceding "Boomer" generation (which is only waiting for things to get back to the way they were pre-recession) and the up-coming younger crowd (who are still under the protective shelter of parents and collegiate life).

I've seen a tremendous paradigm shift in everything from attitude towards credit and debt accumulation to innovative lifestyle solutions come from mid 20's to early 30's that I believe will become the significant contributions in how we define what it means to live the American life going into the this new decade.
10:55 PM on 02/24/2010
Thanks for a wonderful article, JIm.
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08:31 PM on 02/24/2010
Making life a little easier for someone else reflects kindly on us and as a society as a whole.
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JavaManiac
...with liberty and justice for all
07:17 PM on 02/24/2010
I think sharing good ideas about what you did to stay true to yourself is great. But somehow this article sounds a little too much like patting yourself on the back for doing the right things. Money in a local bank, charity for Haiti, etc.

The author says real change is about choices. That is not true.

Real change is about measuring your success at making the change.

Pick 2 things - pick 3 things and then decide how you will measure that success.

I counted how many times I could make my husband laugh with joy in a day - or one thing I could do to help my daughter each day.
06:45 PM on 02/24/2010
Moral compass is our conscience. Conscience is G*d's built in warning system. Be very happy when it hurts you. Be very worried when it doesn't.