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Personal Transformation: The ABC's of Destroying Limiting Beliefs

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My husband once told someone, "Jinny is fearless in the face of limiting beliefs and negative paradigms." True. I've never met one I couldn't crack -- said with the disclaimer that my own take longer. It's just crystal clear to me that these limiting beliefs are fabricated nonsense compared to who we really are.

There is only one difference between a negative and a positive paradigm: One is a lie and the other is the truth -- it's up to you to choose which to invest in.

When you master the art and science of the paradigm shift, you're able to make life as meaningful as you like. You're now able to clear the obstacles on the path to the results you want and need. You can silence the whining, self-pitying monkey mind any time you like.

Have you contemplated the possibility that anything is possible for you? If your sleeping dreamer was awakened, even slightly, I urge you to go beyond just reading this article to making it happen because it shares the ABC's of making a paradigm shift -- also known as destroying limiting beliefs!

Five steps to a paradigm shift

Here are the five fundamental questions that lead to paradigm shift, leading you through the discovery and obliteration of the biggest obstacle to your success.

  1. What one issue is causing me the most pain and suffering at the moment?
  2. What do I do (or not do) that is causing this issue?
  3. What do I say to myself to explain and excuse why I act in this way?
  4. Which one of the negative paradigms and limiting beliefs I discovered in question three is the strongest -- the one that's the biggest obstacle on the path to resolving this issue?
  5. What new positive paradigm would describe life beyond this issue?

Here are my current responses to these questions:

  1. The fact that I'm still working so hard at my age and spending too much time at my desk.
  2. I don't limit the amount of time I work. I try to get as much done every day as I possibly can. I get lost in my email. I don't pay enough attention to the weekly goals in my BYY plan. I respond to anyone who asks for my support.
  3. As soon as I get a few of these big projects completed it will be better. I'm not ready to pull back and stop making a difference. It's too hard to figure out how long something is going to take. I don't have time to stop and check my weekly goals. It's not right to refuse anyone who needs my support.
  4. I'm not ready to pull back and stop making a difference.
  5. Everything I do makes a difference -- as if by magic.

Interestingly enough, my first four responses are real-time, but the response to question five is the paradigm on my 2012 Best Year Yet plan. We don't choose our new paradigms by accident. I believe it's some form of divine intervention or magic at work because it becomes the answer to so many issues throughout the year.

The ABC's of a paradigm shift

A. Remember your new paradigm must be personal, positive, present tense, powerfully stated, and pointing to an exciting new future for you.

B. Write your new paradigm in a way that it's not sourced by anything other than you, e.g., "Being organized is giving me the freedom I want" vs. "I am free."

C. To confirm that you have the right paradigm, be sure you feel a zing of excitement when you read it.

D. If you feel that it can't possibly be true, you're on the right track.

E. Remember the true source of your new paradigm is your own heart and spirit.

F. Bring your new paradigm to life by repeating it to yourself until you have an experience that it is the truth, and that your strongest limiting paradigm is the lie. Repeat as often as possible.

G. Be diligent, disciplined, and strong about manifesting your paradigm as the truth within you.

H. Stay awake to miracles that are an external demonstration of your paradigm -- and celebrate them.

I. Relentlessly train your mind in the same way you'd train a dog.

J. Trust that your new paradigm is connected to your true purpose in life -- the reason you're here.

A Moment of Inspiration

We recently watched Martin Scorsese's Oscar-winning film Hugo. It's the story of a 12-year-old boy, orphaned and living alone in the clock tower of a Paris train station. In one scene, Hugo talks with his new friend Isabelle about life and what he believes it all means.

"Everything has a purpose, even machines. Clocks tell the time, trains take you places -- they do what they're meant to do. Maybe that's why broken machines make me so sad. They can't do what they're meant to do."

Isabelle asks, "Is that your purpose, fixing things?" Hugo says he doesn't know, and then she wonders aloud if she has a purpose.

His response, "Maybe it's the same with people. If you lose your purpose, it's like you're broken." He continues:

Imagine the whole world is one big machine. Machines never come with any extra parts, you know. They always come with the exact amount they need. So I figured if the entire world is one big machine, I couldn't be an extra part. I had to be here for a reason. And that means you have to be here for some reason, too.

Here is the clip of that moment. It's a wonderful scene.

What's Next?

Thanks again to those of you who have shared yourselves as we continue on this journey of personal transformation. Here are a few of your responses to last week's question: "In what ways has predicting success worked for you?"

  • "A few years ago I decided that I could at least make a dent in the litter around our neighborhood pond and woods, so I got into the regular habit of taking gloves and a bag with me and picking up trash on my walks there. Within a few months, there were a couple of other people who noticed what I was doing, and they began to help with the project."
  • "Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy and what you focus on is what you get are the things that I have really been focusing on in my own life. So thanks for the reinforcement."
  • "The Chairman of Governors of my school always made the same speech on Prize Giving Day. The "strap line" was aim as high as you can. Don't try to work it out, just aim for the best you can imagine. He was way ahead of his time."
  • "Dale Carnegie was big on this subject. He referred to it as "The Power of Positive Thinking." Things like -- Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic. I liked the man. Got to know him when I worked in Cleveland, OH."

The next article in this series is called "Personal Transformation: Keeping Control Once You Get It."

As a partner on this journey, this week please share your answer to this question: What do you believe is your purpose in life?

Write your response below this article on The Huffington Post. Or I'd love to hear from you directly at jinny@bestyearyet.com.

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