You may be wondering why the CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children and a divorce mentor is writing about tips for a stress free marriage. I have supported people worldwide after divorce for over 10 years. I am passionate and proactive to prevent divorce.
The divorce process is not pretty for the couple, children or families and life after divorce can be just as challenging.
Does it seem difficult to find time for your marriage? Is the lack of time to enjoy your relationship causing stress?
Trying to do it all with so much on your plate, such as careers, parent responsibilities and household chores is not easy.
How can you prevent stress from affecting your marriage?
Below are five tips to help couples feel more relaxed, have fun and keep that spark ignited in their marriage every day.
Tip #1 Practice good self-care: Do something special for yourself and as a couple every day, even if for only 10 minutes. I suggest couples take that 10 minutes before falling asleep at night to share how much they appreciate each other and be grateful for what was accomplished during the day versus focusing on what was not.
Tip #2 Plan ahead: Create a schedule together to get everything important done. Ask yourself: Does this really need to be done today? Would anyone be affected if we didn't do it? If the answer is 'yes' to either question, then it is a priority. Focus on priority items first and then do other less important things.
Plan ahead and take a vacation or personal day midweek to enjoy some quiet time together.
Tip #3 Forget perfection: Relax and focus on what brings more ease into your life. Keep it simple.
Tip #4 Laugh and have fun: Have a sense of humor and don't take yourself so seriously. Lighten up and have fun together. Laugh every day! Laughter not only helps diffuse stress, it helps reduce blood pressure, relax muscle tension, and boost your immune system.
It will also help with your sex life.
Tip #5 Learn to say 'no': It really is OK to say 'no' to things you don't have time for or don't have an interest in participating. If you're saying 'yes' because you're worried about what someone might say or think, you'll feel resentful. Be true to yourself and to each other. Say 'maybe' to check in with each other and then make the decision.