We'll admit it: we are totally addicted to The Bachelorette and we're very sad that the recent season is now over. Take a ton of drama, beautiful paradise-like locations and 30 men, each with surprisingly perfect abs, and it's pretty hard to tear us away. Sure, the show has been getting increasingly trashy and exploitative with each passing season and the whole premise of the show is a bit questionable with only one success story under its belt, but this year we were glad to see that Jillian acted like a smart, confident Hot Chick who knew what she wanted all season long. Whether you like the show or not, you can probably take a few tips from her. She didn't let the cameras, the six packs (either the muscular or alcoholic varieties), a crazy foot fetishist or even that slime ball Wes keep her from getting what she wanted, and that confidence and determination is something that we can all learn from.
Now, we know that The Bachelorette isn't very realistic. We don't for the life of us understand how multiple men can date and sleep with the same woman and simultaneously live together and hang out without getting jealous. And it's pretty ridiculous to think that after going on a handful of fantasy dates in front of the camera you'll be ready to make a lifelong commitment to someone. But all of that aside, what was totally "real" about this season was Jillian's honest desire for love, her belief that she deserved it and her determination to find the exact type of man that she wanted. With these three steps, she unwittingly acted out the advice we give women in How to Love Like a Hot Chick, and we want those of you who are single and searching to let Jillian's actions inspire you to find the summer love of your dreams. There's no need to quit your job and audition to be the new Bachelorette next season; just follow these three simple steps to finding the love you deserve.
1.Know Exactly What You Want
In order to recognize the man of your dreams when you meet him in a bar or on reality TV, you need to know some details about him. We're not talking about knowing exactly how much is in his bank account, his precise height or the size of his other attributes. You need to be aware of what kind of love you want -- how he will treat you and love you, his perspective on life, and so on. It's amazing how many women are looking for love but have no idea what they are looking for! Take some time to think about what kind of man you want and then write it all down. There is a complete Build-A-Boyfriend program in How to Love Like a Hot Chick that will walk you through the process step by step. The clearer and more specific you are about what your perfect match will be like, the easier it will be to find him.
2.Know That You Deserve Love
So many of us secretly believe that we don't deserve true love, and that's why we settle for less. But the moment you begin to truly believe that you not only deserve love, but the perfect, magical love that you wrote about in Step 1, you will begin the exciting journey of finding him. Listen, we all have baggage and none of us are perfect, but neither are the men who will ultimately fall in love with us! We all have little foibles and flaws, fears, baggage and painful histories and yet we all deserve a healthy and fulfilling love life just the same. Keep on telling yourself that you deserve true love and will not settle for less, and you won't have to!
3.Go Out and Get It
Now that you know what you want and that you deserve it, don't wait for him (or her -- we don't discriminate) to come and find you. Go out and find him, instead! You are sexy, passionate, confident, intelligent, and in control of your life, so start being proactive about finding love. When you see a guy with the characteristics you described in Step 1, ask him out. When you hear a friend talking about a great single friend that sounds perfect for you, ask her to set you up. Walk out into the world knowing what you want and that you deserve it with a savvy sparkle in your eye and you will find a love that will last long after summer is over. It may take some time, but it works every time.
For more of our girlfriend-to-girlfriend advice, a few good laughs and a confidence boost like no other, check out our books, How to Love Like a Hot Chick and How to Eat Like a Hot Chick. Visit our Web site at: www.heydayproductions.com.