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Enjoy Today Regardless, It's Your Choice

Posted: 03/06/09 02:11 PM ET

If you knew you had one day left before going to prison for the rest of your life, what would you do on that last day of freedom?

Perhaps those are the things we all should be doing right now. Things that really nurture us. Things that put us in touch with our Spirit. Whether we're making enough money and things are really fortunate for us or not, we can still choose to be happy regardless.

When we're in touch with our Spirit, we don't get caught up in the negativity of the world. Instead, we have the choice to transform it. And that's really what's in front of all of us each day.

We have infinite choices to transform our worries, doubts, and judgments into something better. Whatever takes place, especially with the things we don't control, we can choose to change our attitude and enjoy them somehow, someway. In spite of the adversity around us, we can still do things that put a smile on our face. In other words, it's up to us to find a way to have a good day and look to how we can contribute and make things better even in seemingly small ways.

Someone once told me that his difficulties were so great he felt it was impossible to have a good day. I disagreed.

"Find your gratitude. It's a great key for me," I said. "When I'm having difficulties, I look to the things in my life for which I feel grateful."

"Don't base your actions and choices on fear," I said. "If you find yourself doing things out of your worry and fear, just let that go. Instead, get practical. Do what you need to do. And look to your faith and trust." When I find the going has become particularly tough and I feel stuck, then my trust in the inherent good in people and things can really assist. It is also helpful to have patience for how long it may take to find that a happy day is here again.

Gratitude works tremendously as a tonic or prescription for my sense of well-being and comfort. It frees me up from worry and fear. So I choose that no matter what happens in my life, I'm not going to let the current situation determine whether I'm happy or not. I'm not going to let what goes on in the world dictate whether I'm fulfilled or not. I choose an attitude of gratitude and often begin with patience in letting go of a disturbance.

When I'm worrying or feeling afraid, often that's the best time for me to smell the flowers, look at the trees, and take in the beauty surrounding me. Even if I don't have any money, I can still enjoy a walk on the beach or a run in the park. Even if I'm locked up somewhere, I can still enjoy my breath and the peace present within me. Regardless of the circumstances, I can choose to fully take in the freedom and joy present within me in any moment.

I have a trust inside, an inner strength and conviction, that I can withstand the worst things about this world. It's partly from my own personal experience. But it also comes from what I know is the power of God, the power that can withstand and overcome the negativity of this world. My trust goes to God. And in that trust, I have great peace and calm and a sense of blessings in my life.

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Eli Davidson
Award Winning Women's Small Business Coach,
01:23 PM on 03/10/2009
Dear John,
Your wonderful advice changed my life.

Many years ago when I was going through a very dark time, you reminded me that "God is the kinda Guy you can trust." I could treat myself with care even if I didn't have a husband or much of a bank account. Your encouragement helped me to get up and get going to create more of a life I wanted.

I will always be grateful to you.
Eli Davidson
08:16 PM on 03/08/2009
Mr. Morton, I am in complete agreement with the spirit of your piece. Especially since becoming an atheist, I can't help but take in the beauty of this world. Since I believe this is my only life, today and every day is precious to me.

You do not mention the promise of future rewards that are part & parcel of so many theist beliefs. I wish to comment that one who pines away, yearning for some promised better place, is at a disadvantage in appreciating the here & now. Imagine being told Sunday after Sunday of what the future holds, a perfect place with loved ones waiting for you .... you can see why your piece needs to be said. It is a common problem. I am glad you seem to not ache for this reward and can live for today. I applaud that.
04:46 PM on 03/07/2009
What a beautiful and inspiring article. In these uncertain and sometimes scary times, you've shown us how to feel more positive and all the things we really have to be grateful for.
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Anne Naylor
Celebrant, Weddings and Other Blessings
03:18 AM on 03/07/2009
My intention this morning is to enjoy my day. Every evening, I write down at least 5 things I am grateful for in my day. The interesting thing is that as I count my blessings, more have a way of showing up. As in, what I focus upon is what I get more of - and more to be grateful for. The choice starts within me.

In this way, I am less at the effect of outrageous fortune (or misfortune) and take more of my life into my own hands. Less at the mercy of what the world is doing, I am gaining greater dominion and direction for the precious gift of life with which I am blessed.

In every difficulty I have met, there has always been a tremendous blessing.

Thank you, John, for your timely reminders!

With love,
Anne
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susanai
Australian, woman, cat lover.
01:06 AM on 03/08/2009
I like your way of doing things - will try it .
09:41 PM on 03/06/2009
How perfect gratitude is! When I think I'm in lack, I allow this wonderful thing to come in, and know in my own experience, that it transcends my bank account and puts the materialism of this world in its proper place.
09:35 PM on 03/06/2009
From Molly:

Well said John. As always, my love is with you. God bless you. I love you.
04:27 PM on 03/06/2009
Recently my doctor found a malignant tumor. There was some concern that it may have spread into my lymph system. While waiting for scheduled surgery I spent a lot time and many sleepless nights thinking about my own mortality. I certainly have my share of blessing to count. On the other hand leaving my wife a widow and my kids fatherless seemed to lack an upside. I was very relieved to find out that the cancer had not spread and my prognosis was excellent. Now that was something to be grateful for.

I am for the most part an upbeat person. Like many people I have dealt with loss and disappointment.

I do not think it is reasonable or healthy to always look to find the silver lining in every situation. There are things in life that are tragic, that will break your heart and cause you sit feeling alone and uncertain in the dark of night.

To be fully human is to experience and cope with sorrow, loss, fear and despair. I truly believe that I am a better, smarter and more complete person for not trying to reframe everything. Happiness is not a permanent condition and I believe that it is a problem in our society that so many think that it should be.

As for faith in God…no way. Should we ever meet God, has a lot of explaining to do. While God might be willing to forgive me my sins, the opposite is not true.
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06:30 PM on 03/06/2009
A marvelous post, and I could not agree with you more.
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hu.man
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07:06 PM on 03/06/2009
The silver lining in every situation is the learning that comes with it. With your near death experience, I would imagine that you learned to value materiality less and pay more attention to less tangible forms such as the love of your family.
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Arithrianos
reality has already (w)on(e), surrender!
03:25 PM on 03/06/2009
a problem with gratitude is is seems to ego to be a weakness, a giving up, but to me gratitude is the only strength, you are demonstrating that Spirit as you call it, or Buddha nature as i call it is stronger than circumstances. Ego likes to play victim and put on pity parties, since it gives an excuse as to why it hasn't found true happiness yet, since the real reason is that phenomenal reality is inherently dissatisfactory, you can never manipulate circumstances to achieve lasting happiness since there is always change. When people in grief are arond me i tell them that authentic gratitude will defeat grief, but some people feel they "owe" the dead grief, as if their loved one really wants them to be miserable. I don't want anyone i love to be miserable, so i ask all who love me to please not grieve, just be grateful i showed up at all.
02:39 PM on 03/06/2009
Yep, gratitude! Works every time!