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Compassion vs. Consumption

Posted: 11/24/09 06:49 PM ET

I feel a strange sense of isolation when I'm on tour. During the part of the day that I spend off-stage and off-air a gloomy detachment begins to set in. I watch the towns fly by on the side of the road. I call home from a new city day after day. I feel lonely and yet I want to be alone for some reason. Sometimes I walk around a bit, find a coffee shop and observe. I watch young couples in love, a man walking his dog, people rushing through the traffic to get somewhere else. And for these brief moments of stillness I become the old man on the park bench watching life from the outside. During these quiet intervals of reflection I often see pieces of myself in the folks around me.

Today I have a day-off in Albuquerque. That's right, the town that never looks like it's spelled quite right. There's a chill in the air today. Allegedly it snowed a bit this morning. Even if the white stuff didn't stick, the styrofoam snowflakes are up in ribbons and bows to decorate the local shopping center near the hotel where our bus is parked. I sit in this caffeinated postmodern watering hole feeling completely disconnected from the yuletide trappings, almost irritated by the decor. Maybe my sentiment stems from my detached life on the road. Or perhaps, I feel this way simply because it's not even Thanksgiving yet and Christmas is more than a month away. Either way, as I sit here bracing myself for the pending shopping season. I read that last sentence and start to feel downright Grinchy. I hate feeling Grinchy...

From where I sit I can see a bearded man on the corner asking for change with his hand-made cardboard sign, "homeless, please help." Other more elaborate cardboard signs inside the coffee shop are also looking for my money -- advertising a warm glass of Christmas cheer for only a few bucks. The line moves briskly inside the coffee shop, full of interesting human specimens, every one of them a story in process. I try to read each one like a novel -- full of intentions, hopes, fears, dreams, and desires. The man outside on the corner has a story too. Where are his parents? Does he have any kids? I can identify with this bearded outcast more than than anyone in the coffee shop, but nobody else seems all too interested.

My mind starts to think about the economics of the situation. Are the coffee shop and my bearded friend outside in direct competition? Does he simply need a better product? Are we declaring his cause to be less valuable than a cup of coffee when tell the barista our choice? These people are lined up to buy coffee for the same reason that I'm here. This is a product that we know. We might complain about how expensive it is, but we prove that the warm beverage is "worth" our hard-earned pay by throwing our money down time and time again. In our free market economy, the man on the corner is offering an alternative use for the scarce resource of our currency. But his "product" is a bit more nebulous than even the most complex soy latte. Still this language of product and consumption just doesn't fit his situation. He's a human soul, and with a few unlucky turns I could easily see myself in his situation. My detached thoughts this morning feel stuck in the traffic, stuck at the corner of Consumption and Compassion.

At a mall during the Christmas Season the line gets pretty blurry between consumption and compassion. On the one hand, we are buying for others, what could be more compassionate!? And in these shaky economic times, we are told that our purchases are crucial. Our consumption helps to create jobs as the "invisible hand" of free economics helps to support the American economy. But what about my bearded friend outside the mall? I can hear Scrooge in my head: "He needs to get a job. He needs to stop freeloading off of the hardworking American Public. His situation is the simple justice of the free market economy." Maybe... but we all know that the story simply isn't that simple.

Even though the statistics only tell part of the story, they can help illuminate the complexities of the situation: One in five people in a soup kitchen line is a child. (America's Second Harvest, Hunger 1997: The Faces & Facts). Research indicates that 40% of homeless men have served in the armed forces. (Rosenheck, Robert, Homeless Veterans, in Homelessness in America, 1996). According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 20-25% of the homeless population in the United States suffers from some form of severe mental illness. These are daughters and sons, brothers and sisters. These are stories in need of hope.

We all need grace from time to time. I look back on my own life. I grew up in a stable home environment with a pretty good education and some solid friends. Over the years I have had incredible chances to achieve, to live, to learn. And even with all of this I have made some horrible decisions in my life. To a certain extent, justice means that I'm on the corner looking for change. No, we all need compassion that goes beyond the free market economy. And though it might be high on our wish list this Christmas compassion is not that easy to give away. Maybe Adam Smith, the father of modern economics might be able to shed some light on the line between compassion and justice.

"...we feel ourselves to be under a stricter obligation to act according to justice, than agreeably to friendship, charity, or generosity; that the practice of these last mentioned virtues seems to be left in some measure to our own choice, but that, somehow or other, we feel ourselves to be in a peculiar manner tied, bound, and obliged to the observation of justice." —Smith, A. (1759 The Theory of Moral Sentiments)

So justice and compassion are set into separate piles of thought. Justice becomes imperative, (bringing murderers and thieves to trial) but Scrooges are tolerated. Recent events on Wall Street might even make us question whether justice comes to the Scrooges who break the law... but that's a different story. Like I wrote about a few weeks ago, there are no law to regulate kindness.

I suppose there is even a sense of justice to the shopping mall. The consumer is judge and jury. Her money is hers alone. She, the autonomous individual weighs all of the evidence: the marketing dollars, the products reputation, the past experiences are all brought into the courtroom of the consumer. And then in a split moment of decision, the almighty consumer swings her gavel and chooses her verdict. The purchase is made. The exchange marks the karma of consumption, the justice of the free market system.

But the "justice" of this system enslaves millions around the world. The "justice" of industry destroys the weak, ignores the hungry, and disfigures our planet. Our consumption is not sustainable monetarily, ecologically, or spiritually. The illusion of the individual is equally flawed. I, the almighty American consumer did not grow this morning's coffee beans. I did not knit my socks or cut my own hair. In fact, I, the consumer actually know very little about the products that I consume. My entire world is facilitated by others in an ever shrinking global economy.

Wealth is a subjective term that compares one individual with the rest. As such, the concept of wealth is only possible in community. Our affluence is always relative to those around us. The average American is richer than most humans that have ever lived upon the planet. As such, wealth necessitates poverty. Scarcity is necessary for sales. Hunger is necessary for consumption. The consumer is restless- yearning to be satiated. But the consummation of the sale does not gratify our appetite for long.

Where do these desires come from? Certainly there are needs. Food, clothing, shelter, companionship. But we have deeper desires that are harder to explain. We want to be accepted, validated. We want to know that our lives have worth, that this day has meaning and purpose. We are searching for the meaning behind our physical existence. I walk through the hallowed halls of our times. I see good looking models smiling down at me, wearing colorful new sweater-vests and lingerie. I smell the food-court. I feel overwhelmed, like a fish staring at a million hooks. An endless palate of color, size, shape, style, marketing variations in the cathedral of consumption. All of this a few yards from the man on the corner with his simple request for change.

We are the target market, we are the demographic. The purchase adds to a bottom line that will help pay for the overhead of raw goods, rent, and human resources (a telling title), ultimately investing back into the machine of progress. A dog chasing his tail. The endless desire of the consumer, (me) fueling the fires of industry around the world. Our Cathedrals of Consumption are well stocked with the "justice" of the free market economy. And compassionate acts will always be in direct competition with my endless desire for novelty. Do we define our desires or do our desires define us? Do we define our purchases of do our purchases define us?

I am not looking for a redistribution of wealth. No, this would require a significant amount of trust in the political system that, quite frankly I do not have. No, I am not looking for a redistribution of wealth I am looking for a redefining of wealth. A new understanding of fulfillment, of satisfaction, of satiation, of joy that transcends the consuming transaction. A definition of wealth that accounts for more than the individual and looks to the community at large. Maybe this season's celebration, (a commercial season that I can't believe is already here) could be a chance to be more than a consumer, more than an individual. Maybe we could partake in community. Maybe we could befriend the outsider, feed the hungry, and be wealthy in ways we've never known. We could spend time together instead of throwing money at the mall.

I'm not saying to throw money at man on the corner. But I am saying that he is our brother. He is our father. He is our community. There is wealth hidden in his situation. It's not well lit or well advertised. There is wealth in giving him your respect. There is wealth in discovering his story. You might be able to trust him with your compassion. Yes, we are consumers. But we need not be consumed.
 
 
 
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04:30 PM on 12/12/2009
Thank Huff Po for adding Jon to your bloggers -- what a great message!
12:51 PM on 12/04/2009
You are an awesome man, Jon. It was one of the sweetest days of my life when I got to meet you back in June. I often feel alone in crowds as well; I think us Christians very frequently feel this way... we are all pushing towards the day when we're finally set FREE, and finally strong.
11:40 PM on 11/30/2009
We 'modern-day' human beings have become apathetic and disconnected from actual life. What went wrong and when? I think it was when we started assuming/believing that money is part of our natural world. Just like we have trees, we have money.. only its more important for our survival.

Since then, we have not able to grow/evolve/progress/develop as a species. We have never been able to realize our full potential in any way. We have made progress as a civilization, yes, but somehow that progress is not helping everyone, nor is our environment taking it well..

Sadly, money is so deep in our mentalities that everything is related to it now. Our religions relate with it, philosophies talk about it, societies and communities build on it, we fight wars and kill over it, our leaders lead us with it, our education systems are based on it and we spend each day searching for more of it. We take it for granted now... we don't question its existence at all, in spite being the only species with such a developed brain, with such an amazing gift of inquisitveness and compassion.

I am looking forward to a revolution. One which leads to the end of monetory system and hands over the torch to technology..... Essentially, a revolution of the human mind..

Here's a useful link. http://www.storyofstuff.com/

I hope this article spreads to as many people as possible. Your words are really inspiring sir !
08:43 PM on 11/30/2009
Jon, we, as in everyone of us; we are the moment;. live every moment as if it matters, everything matters. every little thing matters. everything we cause others to feel here in this earth classroom, we will feel on the other side. a quick smile in passing can make a difference, one you may not see until the otherside we become. later
07:47 PM on 11/30/2009
We live in the freest country in the world. You can do anything and I am living proof! I was kicked out of my home at 17, was homeless for about a year, began working construction for a few years, went to college, long story short I am an emergency medicine doctor. I started out with no money, no family support, and a high school drop out and in our society these things all worked in my favor as opposed to against me. I was welcomed with open arms, given all kinds of grants and scholarships because I easily qualified due to my lack of income. My years in med school were very meager and I lived on mac and cheese and kool aid but now after 12 years of college I am reaping the benefits.....and paying roughtly 40% of my income to the government, city, county, and state for taxes. All of which will in turn pay for medicare, medicaid, and food stamps....all of which the homeless man you described would doubtless qualify for. If he were in another country he would probably be doomed, but not here.
04:24 PM on 12/03/2009
Its great to hear form you Jon Foreman! Your words never cease to inspire me.

P.S. to whoever said ''we live in the freest country in the world,'' where do you live? it sure aint the U.S., we rank about 8th overall. The freest country would be Estonia, or maybe even Ireland.

Peace.
07:58 PM on 12/12/2009
Your truly an inspiration.
07:47 PM on 11/30/2009
Amen - thanks Jon...a great songwriter once said, "When success is equated with excess, the ambition for excess wrecks us." God bless you.
05:56 PM on 11/30/2009
That the author only saw one homeless man on the street corner while everyone else had enough money to buy designer coffee is a testament to how great an economic system the free market is. Throughout history the great majority of the world has lived in a state of poverty and hunger. The "greedy hand" has brought unequaled economic prosperity to the free world, while economic systems based on egalitarianism provide nothing more than equal misery and privation. It is America, because of its fee-market created wealth, that does more for the poor than any other country in history . We send the most aid (both as a measure of government aid and individual charity) and we cure the most diseases (thanks to greedy pharmaceutical corporations trying to make money by creating drugs people need). Two-thirds of Americans living beneath the poverty line have either cable or satellite television in their homes, or both. Conversely, in the nations where you see the most poverty, more often than not you see an oppressive ruling authority stifling free enterprise, to say nothing of basic human rights.
Not that I expect too many people on this website to agree.
11:39 PM on 11/30/2009
I don't think this is as much about an economic system as it is personal choices. Obviously the invisible hand guides much good into our society. However, the impact I think he wanted us to have was that Compassion is warring consumption in my own soul, and how shall I respond to the tension?
02:40 PM on 11/30/2009
Great piece. We all need to realize our frame of awareness in life and allow it to adjust to see the bigger picture. Grace is such a powerful thing- need to give it in order to avoid selfishness. I am looking forward to seeing you on this road that you have spoke about-on 12/10 ...
10:36 PM on 11/28/2009
Yeah, Jon, I always feel that way when I'm on the road too...
The entire free-enterprise system is greed-based and NOT a God-inspired system. The economics laid out in the Scriptures and modern operational economics have nothing to do with each other... that's how we've fallen.

GRACE... she sings to us in the streets... a tune, a song, the haunting harmony awaiting our voice... angels unaware... every time we sing along, every time we comfort a child or hug the homeless or bandage a gnarly wound or give the guy on the corner the extra cheeseburger we bought for him...
every time we do Grace, we declare war on the hateful thing that has infected the Planet.

Here's to revolution

crisbaj
09:09 AM on 11/26/2009
I feel the same way. Christmas and Thanksgiving, at their core, are meant to focus the eyes outwardly, but instead our eyes roll back into our head and we take in our own self. God even made it so we feel good when we give and we still can't be selfless. Constantly trying to fill that void. How sad would that be if buying a new toy is what it took to be fulfilled?

I like how you say there is wealth in his story. I often look at people and wonder what they are going through. What part of their story are they in right now? I really wish I could read the pages of the chapter they are currently on. I don't know them so to ask them would be rude and obviously shocking, but a friendship could start there that would lead to not only reading their story, but being a part of it. Lets invest in others' stories and ultimately they would invest in ours.
01:20 AM on 11/26/2009
I don't think this could have been better said. Thank you for sharing this with us. :)
01:50 AM on 11/26/2009
ditto!
08:16 PM on 11/25/2009
Jon, I remember one of my teachers back in elementary school telling our class on the first day of school: "Some say you should treat your students equally. I won't treat you all equally, I will be "fair" instead." She proceeded to explain that to treat each of us equally would actually not be ideal at all, for we all have different personalities and different needs. That it would actually be CRUEL to treat us all equally. Treating us "fairly", she explained, means to provide each of us what is right for us as individuals.
I think the concept you speak of : "Justice" is a complicated one. What is "fair"? Who gets to decide what is "fair"? How do they reach that decision?
In hebrew, there are 3 different words for the english word "justice" (that I know of): They are: "TZEDEK" "DIN" & "MISHPAT"
So it MUST be crazy complicated!
(side note; "Tzedaka" which means "charity" is from the word "Tzedek" which is one of the words which means "Justice")
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