What is Wrong With Men?

What is wrong with men?

OK, fellows, you can answer this better than me.

Clinton had his Monica Lewinsky; Newt Gingrich had his his young congressional aide while impeaching Clinton for Monica Lewinsky (that's after divorcing his first wife while she lay in bed with cancer); Eliot Spitzer, Mr. Morality, had his high-priced call-girl; And now we have Mr. Clean John Edwards, the Boy Scout of them all, cheating on poor Elizabeth while she is battling cancer.

Ouch, who could go lower than that? I mean even those of us who like John Edwards - while not quite trusting his too-polished southern charm -- LOVE his wife. Everyone loves Elizabeth.

And now all of us hate John (lucky he isn't running for prez and that Obama didn't pick him for VP).

I'm sure the affair started innocently enough. John was being filmed for You Tube by Rielle Hunter and she probably cooed "Oh, Senator Edwards, you look good and sound soooo smooth. But why not move a little this way and look at me at bit more intensely when you talk about the declining moral fiber of the United States?"

Everyone knows that talking about morality is a real turn-on. Next thing you know, they were sitting on a couch somewhere, maybe in her editing suite or a dark bar, reviewing the ad, when his hand found hers and he told her how much he appreciated talking to her about his world views, and how hard it was to be running for president at such a difficult time. How much he loved his wife but how hard it was to be dealing with her cancer. How tired he was and how much he was suffering.

Maybe the woman said, "Oh John, I'm glad to be here for you.. Lay your head on my shoulder...Yeah, now lower...Just lay your head ...ah...yes, there."

And then the next thing you know another powerful man, who supposedly has so much political wisdom and intelligence succumbs to the stupidest of acts. Having an affair when he's at the pinnacle of his power.

Would a woman ever be this dumb? Do you think Hillary Clinton, no matter how attracted she was to someone, would have ever slept with them during her presidential campaign (or even during her time in the Senate)? Can you imagine Nancy Pelosi, the House Majority Leader, risking her entire career to have a dalliance with a campaign worker? How about Barbara Boxer? Or Barbara Mikulski..

Too often women are told that we're just too emotional and sensitive to be really good corporate executives, or athletes or presidents (or fill in the blank). But, guys, it's time to face reality. While women sometimes talk more about our emotions, when it comes down to it, we're a whole lot more sensible and rational. We know when you should think about something - and when to act it out.

John Edwards should be ashamed of himself.. And National Enquirer must be gloating because while the upstanding Senator from North Carolina lied through his teeth, this sensationalist publication was actually telling the truth.

Sometimes truth is weirder than fiction.

Comments

[sana99]

While it might be a natural impulse for some that doesn't make it necessarily so for others; after all, there are many animals that don't behave that way at all(eagles, wolves, swans, roadrunners, etc.) and others that do somewhat, while others really don't ever "cheat" but collect larger numbers of mates(horses, lions, etc.) ..... humanity is quite diverse and because of potential use of reason and intellect capable of channeling many kinds of instincts. I have known of many different kinds of men and women both....the thing I wonder about, is how (when so much of society as demonstrated by politics and media is based on presenting one face while living another) can the "eagles" find other "eagles" and the "rabbits" find other "rabbits" ... so as to reduce the pain for both partners possibly? Considering how all the people say one thing and mean another so often, it seems quite complicated even if all the like-minded kinds of matches ARE available...

[DrCalif]

It's not about "men," it's about emotionally immature boys running around in men's bodies. We are reaping the results of a culture invested in reinforcing infantile behavior while removing from view any kind of image of responsible, wise, older men who have learned not to act out their impulses thoughtlessly.

[darker]

It is PAST TIME for Americans to STOP LUSTING after getting into EVERYBODY'S UNDERPANTS!

Get over yourselves.
Get into IMPORTANT ISSUES that will effect YOU and YOUR FAMILY, JOB, BUSINESS
after the presidential election.

VOTE for and support--COMMON SENSE.
Stop being distracted by everyone else's sexual matters that are private business.
Stop being MANIPULATED BY MEDIA.

GROW UP.

[jpaultel]

Before the women protest too loudly... let them remember that so may of the children through whom they receive alimony were not fathered by the men who often are obliged by the courts to do so. By the way, to the men, even if you find out later that you "didn't do it" the courts will still not let you off the hook. So, each time you disrobe and get ready screw, ask yourself one question: If this woman takes me to court or if the result of this is a child will I live up to the obligation?

[thepoliticalcat]

More to the point, get a vasectomy. Unless you want to pay child support for two decades or spend time in jail or getting your ass hauled into court for years and years and years, invest in the vasectomy. A bag of frozen peas for the weekend, and you're set for life. Oh, and they're reversible.

[amoment]

I am female and believe females are the more sexual. What's wrong with men is that they are weak, have no control, and love thinking they have conquered someone or something.

During the campaign and after becoming Kerry's running mate, John Edwards seemed distant from Elizabeth. He could barely look at her and it seemed he was ashamed of her. What a dreadful little boy.

[JBS]

Sue Myrick
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Helen Chenoweth

[Rmtns]

The same thing as women. We're all human and not really all that perfect. Monogamy is an invention of property rights. So, now that property is sacrosanct, monogamy becomes so.

[JBS]

You ask, "Would a woman ever be this dumb?"

Just ask my ex-wife, who IS my EX-wife because she got pregnant by another man.

[slaxx]

it's very easy - men (and women) cheat because they can. they don't plan on getting caught.

[JXB]

A somewhat fairer question might be: What's wrong with men who cheat and the women who sleep with them knowing they're cheating? Cheating takes (at least) two, after all, and I am guessing that many of the women (or men, as the case may be) know the man's circumstances but proceed anyway. Lots of talk, articles and posts today criticizing Edwards and pointing out with particularity his wife's health. Fair enough. But did Rielle not know at the time that Edwards was married and that his wife had serous health issues? So how about a follow-up post: What's wrong with women who sleep with men while knowing those men are cheating?

[BlueZoo]

Excellent reply! Henry Kissinger once said "Power is the greatest aphrodesiac!" and my guess is that access to that power is even more of an aphrodesiac. These women seem to always believe the man will leave his wife and marry them but we all know how much of that story-book ending comes true. These affairs are ego trips for both sexes (but beware of the woman scorned!). There are women who will ONLY sleep w/married men and I've known several of them but the majority live in the aforementioned dream world.

What's wrong with John Edwards that he would call a press conference to admit the affair? Making matters even worse, he says he never loved her! Well, there's the ego trip I spoke of!

[thepoliticalcat]

Many women who want sex but not commitment only sleep with married men because they're realists -- they know the man isn't going to divorce his wife or get too attached to them so they don't have to feel overly guilty when they dump the guy's cheating azz.

[libertron]

You must be kidding... What about all the women who do this with men they damn well know are married? And political power doesn't really make women more attractive as it does for men, women pretty much need youth and good looks.

[alsm9]

Sorry, I think the responsibility lies with the married man and not the woman they are sleeping with (or visa versa for that matter). If the married person is cheating with a single person why the hell would it be the responsibility of the single person?? They did not make any commitment. The married person, whether it's a man or a woman should take most of the responsibility here. The married "party" made a vow to someone, the single person did not.

[customgreen]

Seems to me that Edwards could not have done this on his own. Of course the "other" woman can't be blamed, she didn't do anything wrong, it's all him. Everyone on the Planet knows Elizabeth Edwards has cancer. Any woman who would let a man seduce her knowing that his wife was cancer stricken isn't much of a woman. We know Edwards is a creep (I feel bad writing that because I think he is genuine in his politics) and he should be scorned for what he has done, but like I said he couldn't do it alone!

[mbaty]

Well at least we know he's straight.

[Johnnn]

I'm going to answer your question by refering to the conclusion in the movie MOONSTRUCK.
Men cheat because they fear death. Otherwise, I don't understand it. I find that one woman is more than enough for me.

[lisakaz2]

I forgot about that element of the plot. It might be the best answer available. It should would explain how straying corresponds in men to their female partners becoming ill.

[Rmtns]

And I don't heat because i fear death, if my wife catches me, she'd kill me!

[thepoliticalcat]

Hahahahahahahahaha!

[grendl]

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I'm going to enlighten you and every woman who ever questions the unconscionable sex drive of males.

It is biological imperative. To have a successful species, you need one gender perpetually at the ready, and the other selective, and wise.

Women, as bearers of offspring must be selective about their sex partner, and who would provide the best offspring. Nature never intended for the advent of birth control.

So you have a choice, have both genders always hot and horny, which would result in overpopulation and extinction of a specie, or both genders very selective about the choice and time of sex, which would result in the disappearance of a specie, or you can have one gender being picky, the other one a salivating lap dog.

Women are the headhunters, men the unwashed throngs applying for the job.

Simple. And irrefutable, although some women would posit their sex drive as equal to any males. Total anomalies.

[lisakaz2]

How do you know sex drive has to be all on one side and little on the other. It's can be the total reverse too. I know for a fact a man that I was with had less of a sex drive. Can't say whether or not he cheated, however. Women may be able to turn it "off" a bit better. I don't know for sure. It does appear to me that most men cheat or want to do so, that's for sure.

[Rockerbabe]

Well, that clears it up for me; I always thought is was sheer stupidity on both partner's side.

[DudeinHammock]

Sorry Grendl, but you're wrong; simple yes, but also refutable. Though what you describe is classic darwinian theory, it's limited to most species, but not applicable to those that practice sperm competition. Both chimps and bonobos, our two closest primate cousins by far, feature both genders being hot and horny, and neither species has disappeared.

The problem is that men are almost always ready for sex, while women are much more contextual. In other words, if a woman is already aroused, her decisions will tend to be as foolish as men's are normally. For better or worse, this changes their behavior.