Are You Having A Goal Setting Breakdown?

03/29/2010 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

So we're a few weeks into the bright shiny New Year. Yes! This is going to be the year that it _______ (fill in the blank: 'gets better', 'improves', 'explodes'), right?

It could be.

What's going to make the difference this year for you?

If you referred to the economy or the government or some other outside source making your year better, you're missing the boat.

Those are not the main factors in your success. You are. And, if you give more weight to the other factors than to your own impact, you'll always be at someone else's mercy.

Now I'm not going to get into the same old, same old about setting goals but at the very least you should have set out what you'd like to achieve this year. These goals should do to two things to your psyche:

1. Excite you.

2. Scare you.

If they do neither, you might as well rip up the paper you wrote them on. In fact, let me ask this: are they the same goals you had last year and the year before that AND the year before that? Don't worry, you are in good company, this is extremely common and the main reason that most people stop trying to make their goals happen. I mean, you wrote your goals down, you thought favourably about them, heck! You even acted on them but they still didn't happen.

Take heart, you're probably more ready for a quantum shift in your life or business than you thought you were. There are some very specific reasons that we don't achieve what we want on a regular basis and the good news is that there are some solid steps to take towards shifting this personal phenomenon.

A place to start is to look at the areas where we haven't achieved what we wanted and ask ourselves what we have been avoiding in that area. Your first reaction may be 'nothing,' but dig deeper.

Our blocks to achieve what we want often lie in our subconscious mind and they're pretty elusive, like trying to grab a hold of a cloud. But, they're there and always present. They exist and they are blocking you now.

If you haven't had the success you keep striving for, keep uncovering those subconscious beliefs. For inspiration, check out my Top 10 Law of Attraction Tips for 2010 movie. There are huge clues in the movie to help you move further towards your goals.

Everyone hits a ceiling in their goal achievement whether you're a millionaire or not, whether you have most of what you want or not. Rarely does anyone keep moving forward unimpeded without help and serious attention to their limiting beliefs.

If you realize you've been continually striving towards the same goals but never reaching them -- it's not because you're not worthy, not smart enough or whatever you tend to label yourself with -- it's just because you misunderstood something a long time ago and made a belief out of it.

The great news is this can all change, it is possible. Set a quantum leap course. Pay attention to what feels uncomfortable and hit it head on.

Karen Luniw is the author of Attraction in Action: Your How to Guide to Relationships, Money, Work and Health and is a coach that helps people break through their blocks in their personal and business life.