Do You Suffer From "What-You-See" Sickness?

02/09/2009 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Are you always comparing your outsides to other people's outsides - and thereby feeling jealous about how others are far happier than you? If so, below are some antidotes to the dangers of Poison Envy:

1. Remember: The grass is always greener on the other side - until you get there and find out it's astroturf. Symbols are not reality. Someone might have amassed material success, but this doesn't mean they're truly happy. And "BEING HAPPY ON THE INSIDE" is the Holy Grail - not material success. So, don't go judging a person's book of their life by their mere cover. You must read at least 127 pages of "THE BOOK OF WHO SOMEONE REALLY REALLY IS" to know where that person is truly at on the inside. After all, there are many successful people (quickie aka: Marilyn Monroe) who seem to have it all, but were coming undone within.

2. You can't have everything in this world. You just have to make sure you have the right something for YOU. Each of us has our own unique gift. And your gift is not a one-size-fits-all. No one of us is on the same path.

3. Stop focusing on competing with others. Re-focus on competing with yourself. Ask yourself: "How can you improve your skillsets and inner integrity/discipline so as to get where you want to go? Who must you become to get everything you want in your life?" Remember: Anything you can do, YOU CAN DO BETTER! Remember: One of the biggest contributors to happiness is recognizing you are far stronger and far more talented than you originally gave yourself credit for!

4. Overnight success never happens overnight. There's always a time delay between wanting and having. Granted this delay is often longer than we wish. But the universe's delays are not necessarily the universe's denials. Envision what you want as being stuck on a delivery truck - just a wee bit stuck in traffic - but coming towards you right now - maybe even a week from next Tuesday! You've heard the expression "Fake it till you make it." I say: "Faith it till you make it."


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