Do You Suffer From "What-You-See" Sickness?

Are you always comparing your outsides to other people's outsides - and thereby feeling jealous about how others are far happier than you? If so, below are some antidotes to the dangers of Poison Envy:

1. Remember: The grass is always greener on the other side - until you get there and find out it's astroturf. Symbols are not reality. Someone might have amassed material success, but this doesn't mean they're truly happy. And "BEING HAPPY ON THE INSIDE" is the Holy Grail - not material success. So, don't go judging a person's book of their life by their mere cover. You must read at least 127 pages of "THE BOOK OF WHO SOMEONE REALLY REALLY IS" to know where that person is truly at on the inside. After all, there are many successful people (quickie aka: Marilyn Monroe) who seem to have it all, but were coming undone within.

2. You can't have everything in this world. You just have to make sure you have the right something for YOU. Each of us has our own unique gift. And your gift is not a one-size-fits-all. No one of us is on the same path.

3. Stop focusing on competing with others. Re-focus on competing with yourself. Ask yourself: "How can you improve your skillsets and inner integrity/discipline so as to get where you want to go? Who must you become to get everything you want in your life?" Remember: Anything you can do, YOU CAN DO BETTER! Remember: One of the biggest contributors to happiness is recognizing you are far stronger and far more talented than you originally gave yourself credit for!

4. Overnight success never happens overnight. There's always a time delay between wanting and having. Granted this delay is often longer than we wish. But the universe's delays are not necessarily the universe's denials. Envision what you want as being stuck on a delivery truck - just a wee bit stuck in traffic - but coming towards you right now - maybe even a week from next Tuesday! You've heard the expression "Fake it till you make it." I say: "Faith it till you make it."

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Comments

[RadicalRepublican]

Hi, nice article. I like to be reminded of these and other simple truths now and then. thanx

[MediaMensch]

If there is ever a lesson in material or outer wealth it is now. Unfortunate as it is, those how had material wealth are crumbling (some even committing suicide). The cultures who have very simple lives with real relationships are flourishing.

Another one of the themes for some of the readers should be "More Life, Less Net" to build real relationships instead of accumulating "friends" on-line. What would happen if you traded an hour of "net" for an hour of meditation/prayer or exercise or a meeting with a friend. I have told people this is the beginning of the era of "spiritual capitalism" to accumulate spiritual wealth and spread it to the world.

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[PlaceboStudman]

"symbols are not reality".

That one is gonna stick with me for a long time. As corny as it sounds, the old saying is true, money (which is nothing more than a symbol) does not buy happiness. True inner happiness, a confidence within one's own strengths and abilities, will bring the symbols, money, fame, fortune, power to you. We are all our own worst enemy, especially during times when we need to be our own best friend. I have been saying for some time now that the best way to be selfless and take care of others is to take care of yourself. Not in terms of money, or property, or possessions, but in terms of knowing and understanding yourself and how you fit into this great big, WONDERFUL world. We must learn to let go of material things, and strive for those things that we are missing, and seek to replace by gaining the symbols of happiness and success

[rini]

Our economy exploits and magnifies our insecurities, greed, weakness and compulsions. It is profitable to make people want what they know is not good for them in the long run.

[SonicGuppy]

"Fake it till you make it." I say: "Faith it till you make it." Ah yes, the comparison game "meme". Add some "what is happiness" and a pinch of "happiness is an inside job" con, stick shotgun in mouth and...

[trosekay]

Great article! I love the "You must read at least 127 pages of "THE BOOK OF WHO SOMEONE REALLY REALLY IS" to know where that person is truly at on the inside. " line....wise words!

[Glamorosa]

Great article it was clear and sassy

[OtayPanky]

Thanks for the tips.

I love tips.

Can we have some more tips, please?

[Lauren Cahn - Huffpost Blogger]

You can't compare yourself with anyone's outsides - because you don't know what's inside. Still we try. And we suffer. Good article.