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Kari Ansari

Kari Ansari

Posted: March 7, 2011 09:40 PM

The Muslim Family Response to Hatred


Last month, an annual fundraiser was held in Yorba Linda, Calif., to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community. Sounds great, right? It's something that Christians, Jews and other faith groups do frequently, except this event happened to have been organized by Muslims.

Families who had given up a relaxing Sunday evening at home to attend their community's chicken dinner fundraiser were forced to walk past an angry mob that had gathered hours earlier in protest of their banquet. Shouts of "We don't want you here! Go back home! Go back home! Go back home!" and awful insults to the Prophet Muhammad were yelled as Muslim parents and their children entered the community center. Local news covered the protest, and a video was made of the ugly scene. Please take a few moments and view it here.

In the last year there have been quite a few anti-Muslim demonstrations around the country -- in front of mosques, at city council meetings, in marches around small towns, and other places -- but watching adults screaming, "Terrorists!" at children made me cry. Local Orange County residents shouted at the Muslim families, "You beat your women and you rape your children!" And, "Take your sharia and go home, you terrorist lovers. Your hands are bloody! Your money is bloody! Get out!"

This protest included elected officials standing in front of American flags spewing intolerant rhetoric aimed at their Muslim constituents. Deborah Pauly, local Councilwoman & Vice Chair of the Orange County GOP said, "I know quite a few Marines who would be very happy to help these terrorists to an early meeting in paradise." To the surprise of many, two United States Congressmen stood and spoke in support of the protests at this rally as well.

Things may get worse, Rep. Peter King (R-NY), Chair of the Homeland Security Committee of the House of Representatives, is holding McCarthy-like Congressional hearings beginning this Thursday on the "Radicalization of American Muslims." Quite a bit of the proposed witness list has looked like a who's who of Islamophobes, and we Muslim Americans are holding our collective breath waiting for the fallout from these hearings. We wonder: will we see more hate mobs outside our mosques or events due to hysteria being whipped up by these hearings? It's certainly possible, and Muslims around the country are strategizing on how to respond to protect our faith community from more bigoted protests, or even dangerous attacks on our places of worship and individuals.

Many have commented on the poise and dignity displayed by the Muslims at the Yorba Linda event. They marvel at how those children and teenagers walked through that line of screaming maniacs without responding in kind. I think I know why they were able to do it so gracefully.

Muslims have the Quran and the example of the life and words of the Blessed Prophet Muhammad. Like all of God's Prophets, he suffered greatly while delivering God's Word to the people in the early days of being a Messenger of God. The Quraish of Makkah, Muhammad's own friends and relatives, turned on him after he began to receive divine revelations of monotheism. Muhammad had been a well-respected member of one of the society's most prestigious tribal families, but when he declared that God forbade idol worship his place in society disappeared. Many people in the city turned on him with spite and malice. People threw rotting offal onto his back while he was prostrated in prayer; they threatened his life and those lives of his followers. He eventually had to flee from his oppressors in the night to save his life.

His early companions suffered greatly as well. One well-known example is of Bilal, a young Abyssinian (from modern day Ethiopia), who was tortured and dragged through the streets and then laid out on the hot sands while heavy rocks were piled on his chest in the effort to get him to renounce his belief in One God. It didn't work. Bilal was a constant companion to Muhammad thereafter, and he was Islam's first muezzin, the one who calls the faithful to prayer. The early Muslims remained strong, and did not compromise their beliefs, nor did they respond to the hate from the lowest depths of their character. Instead, they held strong to the words of God and drew their resolve from His message, and His Messenger. The accounts of persecution are many; we relate them to our children as they learn about Islam.

We teach our children that if those early Companions of the Blessed Prophet Muhammad could withstand physical torture, exile from their homes, and severe condemnation from family and neighbors, we can withstand a few idiots with signs and a bullhorn. We talk about how the early Muslims were a small minority among a majority of people who didn't understand them, and who often hated them. We celebrate the stories of those faithful who stood firm in their belief in One God.

When teaching our faith we also use contemporary examples of Muslims who struggle for justice through peaceful and dignified ways. The Egyptian Revolution is a prime example of Muslims standing strong for justice through nonviolent means. Our children watched the young people of Egypt peacefully win their freedom from oppression with love for each other -- Muslim and Christian both. We talk about how it's our obligation to God to continue this noble legacy of peaceful living and worship despite adversity.

My husband and I don't shield our children from harsh realities like this hate rally-it would be pointless to do it. They have experienced bigotry in small, insidious ways on many occasions. They've been called a terrorist out of earshot of teachers, they've felt the disdain from various people in public places, they've been shunned when it's time to pick teams in gym, or give out party invitations; they've heard people tell us, "go back home," when we are home.

However, it's our duty to God as Muslim parents to teach our kids to recall the child who befriended them when they were new in school, or the daily smile from the driver as he opens the yellow school bus doors, or our neighbor who told them they were the best behaved children she had ever met. It's all a matter of how you look at life, and what you choose to focus on. My kids are doing their best to stay strong in their faith, ignore the insults, and to cherish the love they get from friends and family-just as those families in Yorba Linda did.

My family wants to tell the Orange County Muslim families that we, and America's Muslim community are proud of them for showing the world what true Muslim character is all about.

 

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Last month, an annual fundraiser was held in Yorba Linda, Calif., to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community. Sounds great, right? It's something that Christia...
Last month, an annual fundraiser was held in Yorba Linda, Calif., to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community. Sounds great, right? It's something that Christia...
 
 
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06:44 AM on 03/21/2011
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“Last month, an annual fundraiser was held in Yorba Linda, Calif., to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community. Sounds great, right? […]
“Families who had given up a relaxing Sunday evening at home to attend their community's chicken dinner fundraiser”


The "chicken dinner fundraiser" was a great deal more—this is a video of one of the Yorba Linda speakers:

http://pajamasmedia.com/tatler/2011/02/16/video-muslim-student-association-pledges-allegiance-to-the-muslim-brotherhood/


Questions have been raised about how much of the money raised went to the homeless and abused and how much to the extremist speakers.
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Tasies
05:36 PM on 03/14/2011
Deborah Pauly, local Councilwoman & Vice Chair of the Orange County GOP said, "I know quite a few Marines who would be very happy to help these terrorists to an early meeting in paradise."

Enough of the empty apologies and window dressing. The councilwoman has gone beyond her first amendment rights. Her brainless diatribe is a tantamount to a physical aggression and threat. Particularly, deriving from a community leader. I suggest the Muslim community of Yorba Linda take a legal approach to the situation, at least to establish a precedent of verbal abuse and threats. A criminal blemish should be the result of the Congresswoman's air-brained nonsense. If the Muslim community tolerates this, it could result in the threats materializing.
10:52 PM on 03/14/2011
I agree! Thank you Tasies! Fanned and Fav'd!
THe Muslim community needs to stand up for itself right now!
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02:29 PM on 03/14/2011
hmm...Didn't think you'd print the article about the new women's aq mag. from the Daily Mail.
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SaraSH
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07:46 PM on 03/12/2011
When I was in Iran, we used to blame EVERY crime on Afghan migrants,I grew up cursing at them,insul­ted them,u name it. This was a COMMON, highly accepted thing to do. When I moved to Austria, older Austrians kept cursing at me (a child) and yelled at me and my sister to " Go back to your country". I was discrimina­ted against in school and everywhere in that society. And I actually could be from ANY Mediterran­ean country, they just didn't care, I looked like a foreigner. When I arrived in USA, 911 happened. I was discrimina­ted against (along with my friends, and none of us LOOKED Muslim, I wore a mini skirt and lots of make up just to look WESTERN as much as I could) for being a terrorist or somehow supporting them, etc...all nonsense of course. In my head,I was displaced BECAUSE of the Mullah terrorists in Iran, the ones USA & west so helped succeed thx to the CIA OIL meddling of 1953.I had lost family members in Iran as a result and ended up growing up in war and in a global nostalgia.

Human animal can ONLY take so much.There is no surprise to me that crime is high among minorities of all nations,I mean how much can a person take?When you R constantly rejected & picked on, U COULD SNAP, In happens everywhere and among ALL ethnicity and races. Americans MUST take their heads out of SAND SOON before it's late.
10:20 PM on 03/11/2011
Every time I hear this "Go Home" diatribe, my answer is I AM home you xenophobic fiend, and I'm staying. I am not going anywhere. You will see me everyday, I will take your insults, your glares, your silent condemnations and I will live here and so will my offspring, and I will thrive and in good time you will come to accept me and my people as part and parcel of this great land just like all the other ethnic groups that came before us and paved the way for us.
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09:32 PM on 03/10/2011
"One nation under God not Allah"

As someone once said it's a pity the French don't have a word for entrepreneur isn't it?

Seen this video anywhere else, course not, now had it been Christians being screamed at in that manner the land of the free would never have stopped telling us all about it. America - Land of the free as long as you look the same as the majority and don't have a different word for God or anything then it's the land of the free for all.
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Doug Sandlin
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09:39 PM on 03/13/2011
LOL!! Faved!!

Yes - for anyone who has missed it .... Allah is simply God ("the God" - al-Lah) in Arabic; Christians and Jews who speak Arabic pray to Allah, too.

Likewise, when an Islamic text which uses the word Allah is translated, God is the correct word to use in place of Allah.
09:21 PM on 03/10/2011
On behalf of all the Christians I know, I apologize for these people's actions. We all worship the same one God, and can support and learn from each other.
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truthupontruth
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11:26 PM on 03/11/2011
Your sentiments are deeply appreciated. Most Muslims I can see the gulf between the teachings of Jesus and the practices of the overly self-righteous who claim to be Christians. Kind of like the gulf between God-fearing Muslims and terrorists.
Know what I read in the Quran this morning? If a Muslim kills another Muslim unintentionally, there are consequences that must be followed; however, if it is intentional, the only consequence is eternal damnation in Hell. This prohibition against intra-Islamic murder is in line with the Muslim ethos of war only against sworn self-declared enemies. Anyone who is remotely familiar with terrorism will know how indiscriminately it kills, and how it is thus anathema to the rules of engagement, Islamically speaking.
10:56 PM on 03/14/2011
Bruce, as a Muslim, thank you, but you do not have to apologize on behalf of anyone or any group.

Most educated Muslims (the vast majority in America) realize that these people do not and cannot represent the Christian religion. But I appreciate your kind words.
05:24 PM on 03/10/2011
Watching this event made me ashamed to think any rational person would treat another group like this. The men, women and children deserve a lot of credit for peacefully enduring this demonstration of irrational rate.
02:28 PM on 03/10/2011
SAD
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alisonv
12:03 PM on 03/10/2011
How can these people tell Muslims to leave, based solely on their religious beliefs, and claim--in the same breath--to "love the Constitution." Have they even read it? Rabble and mobs are easily stirred up by the dangerous rhetoric going around these days. But that U.S. Congressional reps would attend and approve of such unAmerican behavior is really astounding. I'm so sorry for all the people who heard that--all of the those children who will grow up with that vision of America and of Christianity. This has nothing to do with American values and is as far from true Christian values as it can be. I'm deeply ashamed of every person there and that goes double for government employees and reps.

I hope any Muslim reading this will know how ashamed the majority of us feel when we see this and how sorry we are that it happened.
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02:09 AM on 03/11/2011
You need to check out the individuals who were invited to speak at the event, Siraj Wahhaj and Amir Abdel Malik Ali. Wahhaj advocates the overthrow of democracy and Ali is a noted anti-Semite. Also of interest is ICNA, the event's sponsor. ICNA advocates sharia law.

You won't find mention of them in the article.

Though none of this excuses the actions of the protesters, it does explain them.
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alisonv
12:55 PM on 03/11/2011
"Explain" and "excuse" are a bit too close. I don't think it "explains" the protesters yelling vile things at men women and children. We have the right to meet and to have any religion or any political beliefs we want. I don't care who was at that meeting--a "gathering to raise money for combating homelessness and domestic abuse in the local community"--by the way. Those protesters are horrible, mean-spirited, simple-minded, hateful and just plain wrong. If you think the presence of one or two people "explains" their behavior, I'm sorry for you.
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11:37 PM on 03/11/2011
Those 'explanations' are so oversimplified they are ridiculous.
Siraj Wahaj once opened a session of Congress. He was invited because of his tireless efforts in improving inner-city conditions for all of the local residents. He does not advocate the overthrow of democracy. He has not rejected democracy in his neighborhood. What he has said is that the way of life that he follows is the best way for all Americans. If you want to interpret that as being a disciple of Fidel Castro, that's your prerogative.
ICNA advocates that following Islamic guidelines is paramount for setting up an Islamic community. They don't advocate trashcanning the Constitution. I don't expect your understanding of Sharia Law to be any more comprehensive that the cribbed Wikipedia definition offered by the State of Alabama last week.
I don't know the other guy, but with your track record, I would hazard a guess that he once said something negative about Israel, possibly? That usually does the trick.
I'm grateful that you did not attempt to excuse the actions of adults screaming 'terrorist' at young children.
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Bill Sampson
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02:05 PM on 03/13/2011
Fannnnnned and favoreeeeeeeeeeeeeeed! Nicely put!
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12:12 AM on 03/10/2011
Having an interest in math, I couldn't help wondering: California is one of the more populous states in America as far as the Muslim population is concerned. Given that a lot of Muslims want their kids to be doctors, and have for the last 20 or 30 years, it wouldn't be a stretch to estimate that 1% of all the physicians in that great state are Muslims. So, if there were 200 protestors gathered at the rally, what are the chances that at least one of them was helped by a Muslim doctor? 99% to the power of 200 is pretty close to zero. Heck, odds are pretty good that one of them has a regular family doc who is. That's probable reality.
I'm not worried. A lot of racists had kids that loved Hank Aaron (for example) and Walter Payton and and and...... While these guys are out hating, their kids might be sitting at home downloading the latest Lupe Fiasco
02:55 AM on 03/10/2011
or mos def!
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11:14 PM on 03/11/2011
Fa sho' fa SHO' !!!
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01:42 PM on 03/14/2011
What you are talking about is arithmetic, not mathematics.
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Joe Goforth
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09:25 PM on 03/09/2011
How are women and the Christians responding to being beaten for demanding their rights in Egypt today? Why are Islamic countries so intolerant of Women and other religions? What do you think would happen to America if Islam was the majority religion? I have answered these questions myself by reading "An Abridged Koran" and I think all Americans should do the same.
11:54 PM on 03/09/2011
Off topic and a deflection.
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12:19 AM on 03/10/2011
Ironic, isn't it, when people ask for tolerance but do not display it themselves.
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Doug Sandlin
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08:24 AM on 03/10/2011
"Ironic, isn't it, when people ask for tolerance but do not display it themselves­."

I'm really not sure who you're referring to, or what you mean, here.

Would you mind clarifying?

Thanks.
04:58 PM on 03/14/2011
uhhh ...that sirraj wahhaj was unindicted means something...do you know what "indicted" means? means accused---he WASN'T accused of any wrong-doing lol

if he wasnt indicted means they had no proof he did anything wrong; believe it or not you were also unindicted for that crime ...
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Bill Sampson
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08:52 PM on 03/09/2011
"Muslims Go Home"!! I guess some people don’t realize the history of Muslims in America! Some might find it surprising that Muslims contributed much more than the so called "True Americans" to the evolution of American society. Historically Muslims have made major contributions, e.g. humanities, the sciences, and the arts. They explored North America hundreds of years before the so-called "discovery" of the New World by Christopher Columbus. They used the Mississippi river as their access route to and from the continent's interior. There are documents of Muslim sailor discovering America as early as 889 AD, more than 600 years before Columbus!

The first map of America to have ever been created was by Piri Muhyid Din , a Muslim, in 1513!

The Muslims were masters of the sea. They had maps, equipment and experience that were far beyond what was available in Europe. One of the most famous geographer is Al-Idrisi who made a globe or sphere of silver weighing 400 kilograms for the Christian King Roger II of Sicily.

Columbus had two captains of Muslim origin during his first voyage, one named Martin Alonso Pinzon the captain of the Pinta, and his brother Vicente Yanex Pinzon the captain of the Nina. They were wealthy expert ship outfitters who helped organize Columbus’ expedition and repaired the flagship Santa Maria. The Pinzon family was related to Abuzayan Muhammad III, the Moroccan Sultan of the Marinid Dynasty (1196-1465).
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12:11 AM on 03/10/2011
Oh the glories of the Bronze Age.

So what have they done lately?
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The Knocker
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12:59 AM on 03/10/2011
Lately they have been dodging cruise missile fire from unmanned drone and fending foreign installed despot in their homeland.
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11:47 PM on 03/11/2011
They've been very busy trying to undo the effects of the re-writing of history, the main consequences of which are widespread ignorance of the origins of much of 'Western civilization'. Thanks for proving my point in advance, hee hee.
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Doug Sandlin
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07:34 AM on 03/10/2011
I know, too funny (yet sad and head-shake inducing at the same time).

Great post, Bill; Faved.

I like your new pic/hairstyle, btw!!
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Doug Sandlin
We See The World Not As It Is But As We Are
06:10 PM on 03/09/2011
Just FYI to all:

Anti-Musli­ms tend to easily go into "smear mode", regarding Muslim and Muslim organizati­ons.

Three key examples in my own experience are:

Imam Feisal Abdul Rauf (of lower Manhattan proposed community center fame).
Tariq Ramadan
Reza Aslan

Imam Rauf is a respected cleric with three decades of interfaith work; that's why so many non-Muslim­s in NYC, including ministers and rabbis, support his proposed community center.

Professors Ramadan (Oxford) and Aslan (Universit­y of California­) are Professors of Islamic Studies, practicing Muslims, and authors of multiple books about Islam (as is Imam Rauf).

All three men are exactly the type of Muslim that anti-Musli­ms say they want to hear from.

Yet, all three men are regularly smeared by anti-Musli­ms who could only continue to do so in willful ignorance of the facts .... yet they do it anyway.

Much as they do with the Quran, and Islam itself, anti-Muslims take carefully cherry-pic­ked sentences from the given author's entire body of work, and try to spin it as though it shows the author to be "in favor of Sharia" or "sympathiz­ing with the Muslim Brotherhoo­d" (whatever either of those things are supposed to really mean, in any case).

It's ridiculous­, and anyone with a sincere interest in the facts will be smart enough to see right through it.

When making Muslims look bad becomes more important than facts, something is very wrong here.
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Kari Ansari
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08:26 PM on 03/09/2011
Agreed, Doug!
For anyone who is worried about shariah, and how it may "take over our government" should read this very intelligent and easy to understand interview:
http://www.americanprogress.org/issues/2011/03/rabb_interview.html
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Doug Sandlin
We See The World Not As It Is But As We Are
08:50 PM on 03/09/2011
Thanks, Kari -- fantastic link; I'll be making use of that one, for sure!
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09:36 AM on 03/10/2011
I am an American Vet that said shahadah almost 8 years ago in the summer of 2003. I investigated Islam to see if there was a valid reason to oppose it . But i did so by going and talking to muslims and reading the Quran for myself, not by letting some one else do my thinking for me at a website. I can remember when Americans were thoughtful and fair , too bad that today we have to refer to that time as the "good ole days"
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11:03 PM on 03/09/2011
When making Muslims look bad becomes more important than facts, something is very wrong here.
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Does that apply to your entirely unwarranted and fact free smear of Dr. Zuhdi Jasser?
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Doug Sandlin
We See The World Not As It Is But As We Are
07:44 AM on 03/10/2011
"unwarrante­d and fact free smear"

Hey, you're starting to sound like me! There's hope! Or something ......

And so:

1. Touche', fair enough, "Ok, ya got me", etc. etc.

2. Please outline exactly what you feel is unwarranted, and/or fact free, concerning my opinion of Dr. Jasser, and I will be more than happy to respond to each item, and offer either an explanation or a "mea culpa" - fair enough?

My opinion of Dr. Jasser is, admittedly, just my opinion ... however, it is not formed lightly.

I'm truly willing to give anyone the benefit of the doubt -- however, if someone seems to have a rather clear and evident agenda from the "get go", I admit that I have a more difficult time hearing/reading what they say in an even-handed manner.

This is not because I'm that "anti-agenda" (heck, Gandhi had a major agenda, and I deeply, deeply respect what Gandhi did with his life, overall -- including his near super-human sincerity and willingness to self-criticize) -- but because, in my experience, negative agendas, where educating/inspiring others concerning how bad, threatening, etc. a person or group is, in the opinion of the detractor(s), always equal distortion (away from facts), in my experience, and I have seen this many times over the course of decades ... and I have yet to see an exception to this hypothesis of mine.
06:02 PM on 03/09/2011
Islamophobia is a subset of ignorance, nothing more. Here we have a confused, ignorant group screaming baseless and illogical things at peaceful law abiding citizens who wish for nothing more than to live & practice their faith in peace. The adult screaming terrorist at the little kids was pretty pathetic too.