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Tips to Manifest Your Dreams

Posted: 05/16/10 08:00 AM ET

What does it mean to manifest hopes and dreams in your life? The idea of visualizing something we want, and attracting it to us, is an ancient principle of life. Some choose to pray, while others chant, meditate, visualize or create affirmations. Yet, the never-ending tragedy of global economic catastrophe, volcanoes, oil spills and war has beaten many positive thinkers right down to the ground, and taken a tremendous toll on our collective psyche.

Do you believe, deep down, you can manifest your dreams into reality? Many people I have spoken to confess they haven't bothered to dream in a very long time. That fear constricts both individuals and even organizations from believing, and taking essential risks.

A psychology professor at Yale recently asked her undergraduate students to complete an "art therapy" exercise. She passed out paper and crayons, and asked them to draw a picture of what they thought their life was going to look like. Upon receiving the assignments, she was shocked to see most of the pictures were images of hopelessness -- dark colors, falling off of a cliff, hitting a brick wall, or being generally unfulfilled. If our "best and our brightest" are afraid to dream in their early twenties, something must be done.

The ability to imagine something better is the fuel of all great invention, change or innovation in life. Without it, we are essentially floating adrift without a compass. Google is the grand champion of visualizing dreams, and making them happen. They give their managers 20 percent time off -- just to work on personal dream projects. Chade-Meng Tan transformed his engineering job to become their official "Head of Personal Growth" and teaches a Mindfulness based Emotional Intelligence course for employees. Meng hopes to see every workplace in the world become "a drinking fountain for happiness and enlightenment."

Imagine what would happen if you took 20 percent of your time to work on your dreams. Can you feel the tingles of excitement just thinking about it? Here are some free tips to get started:

  • Create a "Bucket List." Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman starred in this wonderful film as strangers who both found out they were going to die, and they created a list of all the things they wanted to do before "kicking the bucket." Some were huge, like sitting on a pyramid, and some were small, like laughing until you cried. Your turn! Create a bucket list to see what is lying deep in your heart.
  • Make a Vision Board. Sure, you have heard it a million times before, but when is the last time you actually MADE one? What you see is what you get in life. Get out some magazines, cut out images that attract you, paste them on a poster board, and hang it where you can see it. They W-O-R-K, just ask Nick Cannon who said his vision board brought Mariah Carey into his life.
  • Pay it Forward. If you run across someone who needs something, give it to them and smile. Consider it direct charity with no expectation of return. The art of giving is like rocket fuel for dream manifestation.
  • Sign up for Tut.com. "Thoughts become Things" is the motto of tut.com which sends daily "Notes from the Universe." I guarantee they will cause inner reflection, a hearty laugh or an indrawn breath of utter truth. Creator Mike Dooley describes the notes as, "Spiritual but not religious, inspirational without commitment, empowering yet caffeine-free."
Here is a sample:

A NOTE FROM THE UNIVERSE:

A question, from your friend the Universe:

Just how much time do you spend
thinking big? I mean really, really BIG?

Good, very good! Because that's exactly how
much of "it" you're going to get!

What a coincidence.

A dear friend of mine has been working very actively on manifesting her dreams. She has been creating bucket lists and vision boards for what she wants in her life. Some are small, like buying a kayak, and others are grander for family, marriage and community. She even wrote a check to herself, from "The Universe" for an outlandish amount she never thought she deserved.

One day she said she had a "weird confession to make." Less than two weeks after making vision boards and writing her check, her father suddenly passed away, and she was notified that she and her sister were to receive a sizeable amount of money from a Swiss bank account she never knew about. Turns out it was the exact amount she wrote on her vision check.

Her business was booming, and life was blossoming, yet the art of receiving was harder than she imagined and she began getting intense headaches. One night, she had a powerful dream.

I was with a stranger who told me to get rid of the headache I needed to take out my "wishbone." I told her I didn't have a wishbone. She looked at me as if I was crazy, and said "of course you do." She reached behind her head and pulled out a massive wishbone from her back. I couldn't believe my eyes, and told her I certainly don't have one of those.


She pointed behind my neck, and told me to pull. I did, and sure enough, with a lot of pulling and tearing at adhesions in my spine, I slowly pulled out this wishbone about three feet long. I was stunned and told her in amazement that I had no idea this was ever a part of me.

She said that everyone has a wishbone, and most people don't recognize it exists, or its power. She told me we have to pull it out every day and use it as a compass in life. With use, it will be less stiff and difficult to access, and helps in daily decisions.

Whether your dreams are large or small -- find your wishbone -- and use it as a compass in life.


How about it Huff Po Readers? How do you manifest dreams in life? Love to hear the comments below.

 

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What does it mean to manifest hopes and dreams in your life? The idea of visualizing something we want, and attracting it to us, is an ancient principle of life. Some choose to pray, while others chan...
What does it mean to manifest hopes and dreams in your life? The idea of visualizing something we want, and attracting it to us, is an ancient principle of life. Some choose to pray, while others chan...
 
 
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04:37 PM on 07/05/2010
Great post! I found out about manifesting my dreams not too long ago and I'm fully practicing it now. Thanks for a great post.
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NickyD
01:49 PM on 05/17/2010
What a great article. I believe in vision boards, dreaming big and paying it forward!! I am still procrastinating about doing my vision board for this year. I have the magazines all ready to cut and paste - this is a good reminder that I should do a little each week. When I look back at past boards, I can see how much I have reached and that at that time those "big visions" were not so big...so look out world I am visioning even BIGGER this time!!
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
09:29 PM on 05/17/2010
good for you! You can actualy do an online version at tut.com also! Good luck!
06:20 AM on 05/17/2010
I've had my dreams nagging at me lately, wanting to be manifested. But they almost scare me, because I am afraid I do not have enough energy to carry them out. I feel tired before I begin.

These dreams, btw, are things I want to write. But the ocean of words between the idea and the finished product looks wider than the Pacific, and I just don't if I can swim that far.

But thank you for the reminder, because I've stubbornly kept holding on to the dream of getting back into action someday, despite how long it's been since I last finished anything. If I give up the dream, there won't be anything TO manifest.
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
07:49 AM on 05/17/2010
HI Kate
well, judging by your profile name, you ARE a writer! I am writing a book right now myself. It takes a LOT of discipline and confidence and FOCUS to keep it going. For me, I set deadlines. I seem to function well when I know I have to get something done by a certain date. I also dedicated a separate laptop to writing, and put it in a different room than my regular computer. That way, I created a boundary between the distractions of email, etc. Try it and have faith!!! Take care
08:30 PM on 05/17/2010
Yes, I am a writer: eight novels published, a double handful of short stories. But the last novel came out nine years ago, the last story was sold at least eight years ago, the last story COMPLETED was finished five years ago.

And in that interval I was diagnosed with fibro and chronic fatigue, and I am now over sixty.

That's why I am scared, and why I hesitate to take the plunge. I don't really keep up with the house and should do more. We seldom eat junk food; I cook a lot from scratch. More economical, tastier, and healthier -- I'm a good cook and I enjoy it. But making, eating, and cleaning up after a meal now takes FAR longer than it used to, and often keeps me from doing other things. And then there's the need to get back to exercising regularly...

One part of me says, "Just start writing and let everything else fall where it may." But we'll need to eat something besides PBJ sandwiches and fried eggs eventually. (My husband's repertoire of dishes he can fix!) Or wash some dishes. Or... and there I am again, looking at my Pacific of a novel that I *know* will be good if I can do it right, and wondering how far I can swim before I just sink.

The stories are in me; I just have to find the strength to get them out where others can read them.
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Jason Mannino
11:33 PM on 05/16/2010
wow, Kari

You have no idea how much I needed to read this. I'm on a precipice of recommitting to certain dreams and creating ideal scenes, vision boards, etc. How timely for me!

Thank you for this!
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
07:50 AM on 05/17/2010
Jason!!!!
It is so good to see you back here at Huff Po! You remain one of my all time favorite writers, and I look forward to whatever you have brewing over there! Bring it on! You touch many lives my friend.
~K
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
09:04 AM on 05/17/2010
Yes Jason - I agree with Kari - Keep em comin - Ed
09:05 PM on 05/16/2010
kari, what a beautiful job describing how to begin manifesting one's dreams.......all it takes is the idea that dreams can really come true....that is a huge leap for most people..........I have been dreaming for many years now, but had to be told by a close friend that i should pay attention to my dreams. I didn't even realize i had dreams until she asked me about them. We are often so focused on here and now, that we don't have the energy, time or courage to look up and acknowledge they exist........moving towards our dreams is a wonderful way to live. Thanks for sharing this with all of us. You are an incredible role model for all of us who are blessed to know you, as you are continually moving toward your dreams and redefining them.....you obviously know about your wishbone and use it!!!..........thank you.
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
09:43 PM on 05/16/2010
:)
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Dr. Judith Rich
Because life's too short to wear tight shoes.
08:04 PM on 05/16/2010
Dear Kari,

This is a subject that is near and dear to my heart. Last year, I did a 10 week blog series on Launching Your Impossible Dream.

What inspired me was the dream of Phillippe Petit, the Man Who Walked Between The Towers. A film was made about his life and the manifestation of his dream, making him the only man in history to ever be able to say he accomplished this feat. With a team of people, he managed to string a tightrope between the Twin Towers, shortly after they were built in the 70's and spent a couple of hours "dancing" on this rope between the towers before the NYC police forced him off. The documentary won an Oscar for best foreign film 2 years ago.

Petit's dream seemed impossible and today, of course, it can never be repeated. So many of our dreams seem impossible. But if we're devoted to them, and I mean really devoted, we will find a way to bring them to fruition. From Impossible To Inevitable-what a journey for the human spirit.

I love any time we have a chance to inspire and be inspired to go beyond what we thought was possible. Thanks for this great reminder!

Much love,
Judith
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
09:44 PM on 05/16/2010
Hi Judith-
Yes I remember that post (and series) as being amazingly powerful. It was particularly poignant to know he had this dream just from seeing a picture of two buildings that had yet to be built, and now they are gone. It is a wonderful reminder that following our dreams can be looked at as an obligation of the soul, I suppose.
Thanks for stopping by and the note!
02:23 AM on 05/17/2010
Phillipe Petit is simply awesome, and awesomely simple. And a fine inspiration.
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gwj2000
07:09 PM on 05/16/2010
Thoughts ARE things, and whatever is created from within will be manifested outwardly.

Be careful of your thoughts
Be mindful of your words
Be insightful of your movements.
Joyce Schwarz
Bestselling author THE VISION BOARD , speaker
07:08 PM on 05/16/2010
Kari, you and your readers may be interested in reading a free chapter from the best-selling book THE VISION BOARD: the secret to an extraodinary life which also shows more than 100 full color vision boards from wisdom leaders, celebrities, Olympians and people like you and me and the rest of the world including conributions from 38 states and 9 countries. Here is the link: http://tinyurlom/seeinsidebook PS You can follow me at www.twitter.com/visionboard
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
09:46 PM on 05/16/2010
Well how about that?
That is a great tribute to the community that is possible with our conversations following various blog posts. I had no idea such a thing existed, and I am usually a pretty good researcher! I will check it out right now. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your insights!
06:32 PM on 05/16/2010
What he (JackandCoke) said:

"Claim and own those visions like they already exist with precise and specific details. I don't recommend thoughts of future dates because that leads to being in a future wanting state and is not being in the current moment. This has worked for me in a job search and rebuilding a disconnected, lack of purpose teenager."
04:03 PM on 05/16/2010
Claim and own those visions like they already exist with precise and specific details. I dion't recomend thoughts of future dates becuase that leads to being in a future wanting state and is not being in the current moment. This has worked for me in a job search and rebuilding a disconnected, lack of purpose teenager. That teenager is now engaged in the vibrancy of teenage life after a year and a half of manifesting through meditation, verbal depictions and vision techniques.
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
05:44 PM on 05/16/2010
wow! Great story! Love to hear more about your work with teens- excellent job!
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magicmary
02:41 PM on 05/16/2010
The vision board or "treasure map" as I've always called it has worked for me. I mainly use it for large goals like moving across the country.
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
02:07 PM on 05/16/2010
Hi Kari - LOVE this post - coincidence is gods way of being anonymous!

A Dream is a wish your heart makes when you are fast asleep! :-))
this just popped in my mind as I read this - ha

How do you manifest dreams in life?

know that they must come true and never give up! Trust, meditate and believe in yourself!!!!

everything in it's time - and best what you dream benefits others!

The greatest gift is yourself - treasure it!

Ed
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
02:56 PM on 05/16/2010
I do agree the best dreams are those that benefit others, and the greatest gift is yourself!
Maybe I will hum a little Jimminy Cricket tune for the rest of the day!!!! :)
Thanks for stopping by!
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Ed and Deb Shapiro
09:06 AM on 05/17/2010
you are soooo cool! :-) now you have to keep hummin :-)
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Anne Naylor
Celebrant, Weddings and Other Blessings
12:43 PM on 05/16/2010
Hi Kari,

I absolutely LOVE this article - thank you! With a dream in your/my heart, you/I never know how the Universe and Life will conspire to bring it about.

Hope is such a valuable and vital commodity for anyone at any age. Your ideas here are a beautiful gift.

You have inspired me and I am very grateful.

With love,
Anne
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
02:58 PM on 05/16/2010
Hey Anne~
What a great quote! with a dream in your heart you'll never know how the Universe and Life will conspire to bring it about.....
You are always a source to inspire others to be true to themselves and follow their dreams, and you usually have some great tips along the way!
Glad you stopped by.
11:02 AM on 05/16/2010
LOVED this article! I couldn't believe my ears when the person told me about her dream! So glad you are sharing it here! I got all tingly as if it was a confirmation that Yes!, it is true!, we all have a wishbone and need to daily use it!!
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LarissaLytwyn
Writer, ENFJ.
10:50 AM on 05/16/2010
I love this post (and linking to FB). I think a major block creating the fear to manifest dreams is letting go of the past. The past, however, is not about erasing the memories. It's about using them to move forward, not to go back and wish you could do it over again. (Unfortunately, life is not Back to the Future). ;)
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Kari Henley
Make a Wish- now make it bigger.
02:59 PM on 05/16/2010
Boy you hit a nail on the head with that one Larissa! Yes- you cannot focus on the future if your eyes are looking in the rear view mirror.
Releasing the past can be the most exhilerating part of kicking in the manifestation gear, once you take the leap! Love your thoughts, keep 'em comin!