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Buy Your Own Wine: Why Being Single in the City Is Awesome

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Ah, the countless joys of dating in the greatest city in the world, New York. With over 8 million people, what does that mean for us, ladies? Clearly, more men, jumping from one trendy restaurant to the next, cute morning smiley face texts that we love to hate, and most importantly, more dating. We're in control here; we can take our pick. And Beyoncé was right (duh), we do run the world (GIRLS!)

Isn't that one of the reasons we escaped here, anyway? Seeking the most wonderful career opportunity in the city that never sleeps, avoiding at all costs the bandwagon of our friends that are engaged, married and starting families, and looking for excitement and opportunity. The list goes on and on.

But let's pause right there to touch further on these engagements. Not that there's anything wrong with a young engagement, because apparently when you know, you know -- it just isn't your cup of tea, right now at least. We want to have the best job, the hottest wardrobe, the fittest body, and the most "braggable" boyfriend.

Okay, reality hits. Of these 8+ million people in N.Y.C., more than 50 percent are women, and then you have the guys with your so-called mentality who can't even fathom devoting their time to someone else because things are so crazy at the office. The constant loss of touch, because you're flying home for the holidays, or he's starting a new job -- we've all experienced these barriers in the dating process.

Not to mention, you need to keep up with your girlfriends, too, grabbing your Saturday morning dirty soy latte at the Bean or rushing out of work on Monday to meet the ladies for tacos and tequila. Can't be planning a date anywhere close to Bikram, and no, even a top-knot can't fix that mess. We all have an agenda, and this is why, unintentionally, even a good date can dissolve into nothing.

Competition for these "good guys" is at an all-time high, and -- stop panicking! Take your finger away from your Tinder screen as you're frantically swiping right. Do not message the guy who holds your V card, cashiering in your local town, and, most importantly, stop scraping your memory for your ex's number.

Dating in the city is something to embrace. Learn from it and its experiences. Most of us will settle down someday, and wouldn't you want to be in that relationship knowing you've experienced different people? Height, weight, ethnicity, background, career, wealth, everything. This is the best way to know exactly what you want, and most of all, what you definitely do not want.

Yes, I said it, embrace it. Love it. Have fun with it. Let it push you down now and again, and learn from it. Explore new places, eat at fabulous restaurants, hit the trendiest places in Brooklyn, go on weekend ski trips to Vermont, live it up between the responsibilities of your day-to-day lives. And maybe, just maybe, you'll find that instant-love attraction so you won't have to explain to your Aunt Helen year after year why work is more important than babies right now and that you swear you're not some psychotic loser that can't hold down a man to save her life.

Anyway, game on, and let the good times roll.