Home schooling is a growing trend.
TODAYshow.com, in a web-only series, reported on the growing number of American kids who don't have a lunch hour every day, but spend entire days eating whenever they feel like it. At least, that was my experience. I ate lunch at all different times. Sometimes I ate it twice. Sometimes I skipped it in favor of a composition I was working on. Or a piano lesson I was teaching. Or a book I was reading. But I never expected to be part of a "growing trend."
In an article connected with the project, TODAYshow.com suggests through encounters with some home-schoolers and former home-schoolers that this group of people might not be as weird as everyone has always suspected. The first home-schooler mentioned in the piece is a teenage girl who loves to shop. She hangs out a lot at the mall. See! Totally normal! A 25-year-old who gets quoted is described as being very socially confident.
And it's a good thing that TODAYshow.com is covering this news, because this is information that needs to be shared. The stereotype of the cowering, twitchy home-schooler who wears his T-shirts tucked far, far into his too-blue jeans and never really learned how to shake someone's hand and say, "Hi, nice to meet you," is getting old. So is the idea that all home-schoolers are conservative Christians? I'm Jewish. I knew a lot of Jewish home-schoolers growing up (though none of them were home-schooled for religious reasons). I knew hippie home-schoolers. I knew brilliant intellectual home-schoolers. There's a lot of variety.
I'll be perfectly honest. I knew that guy -- the twitchy one. He was home-schooled. He was annoying. He had really awkward body language and a perpetually bad haircut. I also ran into a version of him at summer camp. He went to high school, and had been in a classroom since kindergarten. And then in college, there were a bunch of him. They'd all gone to school. One of them, when he found out that I'd been home-schooled, asked me in his uncomfortable, halting way how my parents could've been abusive enough to prevent me from gaining access to socialization. He said he felt sorry for me. He hooked his fingers under the belt that fastened his baggy corduroys, tried to lean back casually, and bumped into someone walking by. He turned bright red, adjusted his glasses and avoided my gaze.
I didn't even know where to begin.
The truth is, some home-schoolers are nerdy and socially awkward. Some are wildly confident. My brothers each have about a thousand adoring friends who orbit them. Their friends try sometimes to dress more like them. To sound more like them. They're both in college now, and the transition from home to school didn't seem to faze them. Some kids who go to school are nerdy and socially awkward. And when this happens, it's probably more impressive that they manage it, since they're around so many people who often remind them that they are not worth as much for being this way.
I'm glad that home schooling is becoming a trend. It makes sense that it is. Look at our school system! Watch Waiting for Superman. Cry. And think, "There must be a better way..." There is a better way.
Malcolm Gladwell identified it in Outliers, when he wrote about KIPP schools. Geoffrey Canada, the force behind the Harlem Children's Zone, knows what it is. And home-schoolers offer their own less unified, less structured, less studied, but -- I would argue -- equally effective alternative.
As something becomes more obvious, it becomes gradually less stigmatized. But home schooling IS weird. And home-schoolers ARE different. And rather than trying to prove that everyone is the same, and home-schooled girls are as addicted to Forever 21 and Gossip Girl as their schooled counterparts, it's probably better for us all to acknowledge that every group of people contains an amazing amount of variety. And that not sitting in a classroom every day for twelve years in a row probably does make you pretty different. But maybe...in a good way?
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I can say that both have advantages and disadvantages.
I think that the ability to center learning around the child's interest is a real strength of home schooling.
However, I think it is good for children to spend time in a non-particular environment such as they will face in college and the workplace.
As our children became teenagers, they wanted to spend more time with peers and decided to attend "Real" school.
They adjusted quickly and did fine.
Homeschoolers Are a diverse group. There are as many different types as there are homeschoolers.
My feeling is that children will generally succeed in most situations with sufficient parental support.
Besides being a proud dad, I am saying this to show that homeschooling really works. We have been thinking of putting her in school but we're concerned now about several things.
We are concerned about the peer pressure to conform to other children's concepts of who she should be. I don't want her to feel that she has to be like the other kids just to have friends at school- wear the same clothes, act the same way, have the same interests, etc. It's a very rigid social caste system in school.
Also, I want her to be able to sleep as long as she needs to. The neighbor girl has to wake up at 6 am to get to school on time. She goes around tired and grumpy. My daughter gets as much sleep as she needs.
Homeschooling has been working well for us, except for the expense of having my wife stay at home and not earning any money. My daughter regularly scores in 99th percentile on annual achievement tests (CAT test).
She plays violin, flute, cello and piano. She loves gymnastics. She is putting on her own play with some friends- a musical.
And I get to spend time with her in the evening, instead of making her do homework in the evening.
The homeschool movement is oh-so-certain that quality of education is entirely lacking in our public school system, yet seems largely unconcerned with the lack of standards and control to ensure any quality of education happening in the home. Moreover, exposing these children to an educational echo chamber of their parents own wacky ideas only ensures that they will be similarly lacking in originality, open-mindedness, depth and general common sense when they assume their place in society.
drastically undervaluing the importance of social learning. Moreover, the abysmal lack of oversight regarding the quality of education in the home school environment is criminal.
Public school is good for later learning, when more specialized knowledge is needed, if at all, before college. But sending your kids to prison schools only makes them more nervous and paranoid. Live free.